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Title: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: articx on February 26, 2015, 01:11:47 pm
Does it matter if a father misses the birth of his child (he can still be a loving father), or would it depend on his reasons for missing it (fighting in a war, super bowl, is sick, doesn't feel like going, etc)?
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: jcalexis on February 26, 2015, 01:36:02 pm
I witnessed my wife giving birth to both of my children. To me it means a lot. I gave her my support by being there.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: jkhanson on February 26, 2015, 01:53:18 pm
Does it matter if a father misses the birth of his child (he can still be a loving father), or would it depend on his reasons for missing it (fighting in a war, super bowl, is sick, doesn't feel like going, etc)?

Over the years there were many fathers who missed the birth of their child.  Fathers used to be kept out of the delivery room.

Thankfully, times have changed.  Fathers get to be as involved with the whole pregnancy and birth as the couple wants him to be.  That decision is up to the couple.

He can still be a very loving father and husband if he misses the birth.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: ericdavid26 on February 26, 2015, 02:17:10 pm
I don't have kids but I definitely think you should be there to support your significant other!
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Post by: Skyisbluetoday on February 26, 2015, 03:56:13 pm
A lot of fathers miss the birth, can still be good father's!
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Post by: jenniferhoder on February 26, 2015, 04:36:46 pm
I would think that the father should always be present unless there is a VERY legitimate excuse.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: LaTashaS28 on February 26, 2015, 05:25:26 pm
You can still be a good father if you miss the birth but I still think the father should be there; unless he has an extremely good reason why he can't be.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: Getinonthis on February 26, 2015, 05:37:02 pm
It's good to be there for the birth of your child, but what contributes to fatherhood is the time you invest being there for your child and family, such as emotional and financial support.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: squirrelgirl44 on February 26, 2015, 07:23:38 pm
Wow. I honestly can't remember if my daughter's dad was there or not... he took me to the hospital but I can't remember if he was in the room. I think probably yes? It wasn't a big deal to ME, but I bet a lot of women think otherwise.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: champak97 on February 26, 2015, 09:13:20 pm
Witnessing the birth of a child is awesome and dads should not miss this moment in life.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: countrygirl12 on February 27, 2015, 07:29:16 am
Does it matter if a father misses the birth of his child (he can still be a loving father), or would it depend on his reasons for missing it (fighting in a war, super bowl, is sick, doesn't feel like going, etc)?

You are comparing fighting in a war to watching the super bowl?  No, it is not alright for the father to miss the birth of the child.  Unless like 90% of the fathers today they are not even with the mother.  But that is another story.  If I were married to a man and in labor and he told me to go to the hospital alone he was watching football - I would file for divorce when I got out of the hospital. lol
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: Nancy5 on February 27, 2015, 07:42:48 am
My husband did not see the birth of either girls.  My oldest is 31 (going on 32), can't believe it, where does the time go?  Anyway the hospital I was in did not allow fathers to be in the delivery room.  He was with me in the labor room but that was all that was allowed.  He was, and still is, one of the greatest fathers.  There is nothing he would not do for either girl, so even though he did't see them being born he has been there for them all their life.  My one daughter has a son, and her husband was there when she gave birth.  Times have changed so much.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: articx on February 27, 2015, 08:07:35 am

You are comparing fighting in a war to watching the super bowl?
It was suppose to mean playing in a super bowl, not watching.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: nguzman1 on February 27, 2015, 09:04:24 am
I think it does matter because that is a huge event in the child's life but there are exceptions.
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Post by: lhz123 on February 27, 2015, 09:27:35 am
The father should be there but if there are circumstances that cannot be avoided just understand.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: patti4me on February 28, 2015, 12:49:02 pm
My husband did not watch the birth of his first 2 daughters but he did the 3rd one and I personally feel it has made them closer thru the years.  There was not an option to watch the first 2 being born so it wasn't his faulth, just timing lol
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: clickers on February 28, 2015, 12:52:22 pm
I actually saw my grandaughter being born... and man that's was a humbling and awesome sight. A miracle is what it truly is!
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: clickers on February 28, 2015, 01:00:41 pm
Fathers can miss it . It wouldn't make him any less of a father. My children's father saw me give birth via C-section 4xs. Remembet some people are skirmish.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: Sendmicheck on February 28, 2015, 08:26:58 pm
I agree, even with the perfect planning of a delivery things can go wrong.  Forgiveness is the best thing to do.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: hawkeye3210 on February 28, 2015, 08:29:46 pm
I wouldn't want to miss it.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: nmbrown863 on February 28, 2015, 09:26:12 pm
My husband and I do not have children yet but when we do I really want him to be there and experience the birth of our children as well.
Title: Re: Seeing the birth of a child
Post by: rpse1927 on March 01, 2015, 05:12:07 am
birth of a child is beautiful but ther are times it cant be helped.