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Why do people go cheat on their partner?
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Good question. I would love to know the answer to this. My father cheated on my mother. And he never gave a good reason why he done what he did.
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We are going through this with my now ex-brother-in-law. He cheated on my sister multiple times. She finally divorced him after he got one of his clients (who went to school with his daughter!!) pregnant. And to beat it all ~ he contested the divorce and has tried to drag it out as long as possible. He's living with his girlfriend, her daughter and their new baby but still wants to control my sister's life! I have faith that someone will take care of him eventually! If not on this earth, then the Lord will take care of him when he has to face Jesus to account for his actions.
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Yikes GaylaSue! That's some story but unfortunately it happens to the best of us. Now your sister can move on and try to forget him. She can attract so much better into her life, just tell her to focus on her for a while and good will come to her.
And to answer MsSoup's question, people do it because they don't love themselves and have low self esteem! It can be a sickness! Most people are unhappy with the other person but can't get out of the relationship or don't know how, so they result in cheating.
Do you think a plural marriage considers it cheating if the wife goes and plays with another man, while her husband has 5 wives? lol ... something to ponder about! :-X
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i wish i had an answer for you but i do not --this is why i am divorced --he cheated alot and thought i did not know --idiot!! the sad part is that after our divorce he never had anything to do with the kids again now they are 19 and 20 and he wants back in their lives
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People are sick... What can I say?
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I think overall people chewy because they are unhappy. It's very sad. I was cheated on for years and he is now my Rx but I am sure he will never change his habits.
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Oops- my post should have said people cheat because they are unhappy! (Not chewy) and he's my EX not my Rx! Lol
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Very sad. Wish I knew, I think a lot of people just don't respect their marriages like they should
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I agree, I don't understand why people cheat on their spouses. I don't understand why someone would bother to tie themselves into a lifelong marriage if they have no intention of staying faithful. Maybe they intended to be faithful at the beginning of the marriage but when things fell apart, they said goodbye to their vows aswell as their relationship. Marriage is not easy, it is one big compromise and should never be entered into lightly.
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I'm not sure, if they want to cheat they should just remain single and sleep with who ever...
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Why men cheat, I have no idea. But they do. I will not put up with it nor have I put up with it. I also do not understand why the women will cheat with them. One of my ex's fought me for over a year over nothing just because he knew it would upset me. I just wanted out. He would follow me where ever I went. Tried to steal my car several times. Took me to court 3 times fighting it. I never even ask for a darn thing. He also was a drunk. Which I did not know when we got married as he rarely drink when we would go out. But once we were married he drank all of the time. I found out later that when he would drive back to his place he would get a bottle and get plastered. It was awful and then on top of everthing else when he would get drunk he would get mean and try to knock me around. God was good that I was never hurt to bad.
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Some people just shouldn't be in relationships because they won't be monogamous.
I know some people cheat because they're unhappy in the relationship but don't want to leave. Others cheat because they think they can have it all.
Some people are serial cheaters but get upset when they get cheated on.
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i think cheating is just wrong,,,,,, if you can't work out your realationship then go your seperate ways,,,, but don't cheat while still in it together
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They are crazy and do not take marriage serious People are crazy sometimes
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Why do people go cheat on their partner?
Hello! :D :wave: I think people cheat for different reasons! In general women and men cheat for different reasons. For example women cheat for emotional needs while men cheat for physical reasons. Whatever the reason cheating is always wrong! :angel11: 8)
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Sadly people cheat because they are looking for that 20% that is missing from their relationship. It's sad because none of us are a perfect 100 and most times when a relationship ends because that person moves on to the 20%, they don't end up happier.
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I agree I am not sure why, I can tell you that a lot of times the person might not feel like his/her partner love them, or they are treated badly, mental abuse is as bad as physical, and they see an outlet, but other times is just plain stupidity and wrong, it hurts everyone around and the self steam of the person that got cheated goes to the floor. But there is really not good answer to your questions
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do you think the cheater will be lived happily ever after?
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I don't know, maybe because they would like to have their cake and eat it too! I am so fortunate to have not been cheated on with my husband (as far as I know) because you never REALLY know, but no other woman have called my house and he does not goes out along, so I'm safe to said I have not been cheated on. Sometimes men and WOMEN are looking for something they are not getting at home so my advice is to make sure you keep the romance in your marriage and whatever you did to get them keep doing the same thing.
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Some people are just scumbags,I guess.
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It's the world we live in. There are no reasons. It's what people do. And society as a whole accepts it.
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I don't know why people do that. It only hurts themselves in the end.
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People should take their wedding vows serious. Agreed..... cheating is wrong!
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Just human nature.
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King David lusted for Bathsheba and committed adultry with her and covered it up by having her husband killed in war.How bad were those sins?
God punished him even tho he forgave him because he saw in his heart he was truly sorry.
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Wish i knew the answer to that question. There may be a few reasons why bu i think that they should just tell the person they are with. I was in a 5 year relationship in which he cheated for 3-4 years. When asked why, he said he didn't know but it wasn't me. :confused1:
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Cheaters don't realized what they have until it gone.
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Cheating is quite common and the reasons are multiple. Rather than reviewing the many reasons people cheat, I'm going to focus on one of the main one -- self-abandonment. Self-abandonment leads to an inner emptiness that results in a person seeking to be filled up externally.
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We are going through this with my now ex-brother-in-law. He cheated on my sister multiple times. She finally divorced him after he got one of his clients (who went to school with his daughter!!) pregnant. And to beat it all ~ he contested the divorce and has tried to drag it out as long as possible. He's living with his girlfriend, her daughter and their new baby but still wants to control my sister's life! I have faith that someone will take care of him eventually! If not on this earth, then the Lord will take care of him when he has to face Jesus to account for his actions.
Wow, he sounds like a narcissistic psychopath.
I feel so bad for her, one because she needs to go "no contact" to heal from him. I was reading that those in relationships with such people are sometimes treated for PTSD. Some people are just so awful as human beings.
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people change over time.. .. who you were at 20 is someone very different form who you are at 30...circumstances change e.g. from rich to poor or poor to rich. Kids or no kids or kids with serious problems or health issues change a relationship. It doesn't seem so crazy to me.
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Why do people go cheat on their partner?
Every situation is different. The biggest reason is people do not have morals and values. It's the way the world is. And it is considered no big deal. If you are married and you separate most are dating long before the divorce is final. That is cheating. You are still married.
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That is true. Cheating is very common.
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1. Because they're just natural born cheaters and nothing you do will ever be enough.
2. Because there are no real consequences.
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It is sad. If you have any desire to cheat than you shouldn't be married or in a relashinship,
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Hmm there's no excuse or real valid reason for anyone to cheat. But you will hear every excuse in the world why the person did. If you are not sure about he relationship a 100 percent dont even commit to anything like that because it isn't right to the other person who is in the relationship 100 percent becuase they usually get hurt the worst
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i don't know why but what i can't stand is when the person being cheated on has no back bone & continue to take back the SOB cheating partner!Me, there's no 2nd chances, once is enough!
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I heard MoNeque has given her husband a free to cheat card but I feel if I'm commented to someone I should not feel so disappointed in myself that I would give something like that or vise versa.
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I think there are various reasons why cheating occurs. Primarily, I think people who need constant validation from the opposite sex cheat. I think people that crave drama and excitement and can't deal with the everyday portion of life cheat. I believe people with high sex drives cheat because cheating also makes it more exciting. I believe people who believe they can get away with it cheat. On and on...
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Because they do not respect them self,do not love the person in their life....i don't know if they deserve a second chance.
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When I first heard this my immediate thought was that she has just resigned herself to thinking no man will ever love her enough to be faithful.
I heard MoNeque has given her husband a free to cheat card but I feel if I'm commented to someone I should not feel so disappointed in myself that I would give something like that or vise versa.
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Convenience, disatisfaction in their current relationship, ego
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Because they think and feel the grass is greener elsewhere. They cheat because they don't respect their spouse and because they are *bleep* mongers. People cheat for thousands of reasons. Pick one.
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There is one theory that says cheating occurs from instinct. Women are looking for the best man to help her bear the strongest child. Men are looking to find a lot of women to create a larger family-strength in numbers. Some say that people cheat because they are not getting what they need out of a relationship or respect their mate too much to ask them for something that they want at the risk of offending someone that they love. Sometimes love starts to disintegrate over time as lack of appreciation for one another increases. People lose touch with all of the reasons that they were drawn to their mate to begin with. They start to concentrate on peripherals like their children and fail to take time to show their love.