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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Tinkiebze on September 22, 2009, 04:28:27 pm
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Why is it that people still stare at couples of different race
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Because of pure ignorance. SOME people stare at all sorts of DIFFERENT types of people. Whether handicapped, bigger people, people with piercings, you name it someone will stare at them. If this is happening to you the best thing you can do is just smile at them. It will *bleep* them off ;D!! And I guarantee they will quite staring at you.
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people stare at anything not completely normal. i wouldnt worry about those kind of people
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I know what you mean OP. Both my sisters are with black men & both have daughters & whenever I'm with one of my sisters bf & my neice, people stare. But honestly in my experience, most of our stares come from black people. :dontknow:
But if people stare, I just smile!!
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sometimes i wonder if people are even conscious
that they're blatantly staring. i think they do it
because they see something they don't quite
understand...
if you can't help but stare, atleast do it while
i'm not looking. jeez :P
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Because they are still raised to be raciest. I personally dont stare because I deeply believe to each there own and like seeing people reach out beyond their skin color and traditional raising.
I live in Kentucky and know of the family traditions and believes that effect children and young adults. Some people just really arent educated enough to think for themselves and they rely heavily on family tradition and/or political/religious belief.
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Some people just really arent educated enough to think for themselves
couldn't have said it better myself
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[It is just something everyone is not used to, who cares if people stare, ignore them, I am sure they got something stuck in their teeth.
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:) Curiosity! That's all!
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I really haven't notice it in the town where I live. It is just such a normal thing here. I live in Indiana, but the town I live in is like 33%hispanic 25%white 25% black and like 17% asian and anyone else who wishes to live here. It is just the norm here. I think that is why I like it here. I love the variety. :thumbsup:
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I know what you mean. I'm asian and my boyfriend is white and some people do STARE like we're doing something wrong. So, when we do catch people like that, we just do major PDA.
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Well, the people who do stare are black people. Since my husband is white and i'm half black/hispanic....i just can't help but notice...lol!! oH well just wanted other people's thoughts on it.
But I'llsure as hell keep smiling everywhere I go..hehe
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Jealous?
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Well, the people who do stare are black people. Since my husband is white and i'm half black/hispanic....i just can't help but notice...lol!! oH well just wanted other people's thoughts on it.
But I'llsure as hell keep smiling everywhere I go..hehe
It's a sort of racism/racial pride thing, I've noticed. My gf is white, and I got a lot of grief from my "fellow" blacks for dating her. The usual taunt used was, "What, a sister ain't good enough for you?" I just roll my eyes. It's all pretty laughable.
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Some People are just ignorant. The stares never bother me. I could care less. What gets me is that when people say to me "oh you must be dating that white dude(i'm a black female) because he has money" when in reality He's a broke college student just like me....or they say you must hate you own men which is just crazy. I have black boyfriends too...So your not the only one.
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becasue they are curiuos. Mostly becuase they have no clue why the couple is together
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See, now I believe u all have the right reason, cause everyone is different and we grow up around a certain thing. I say, date whoever makes you happy and try ignore the bullshit other people give u.
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becasue they are curiuos. Mostly becuase they have no clue why the couple is together
Which is silly because that can be said of any couple, really. Why do skinny people date fat people? Why is that 6'5" guy dating a dwarf? A person could go on for days asking about why Person A is with Person B.
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people need to get over it...its 2009. im 24 and i have grown up seeing interracial couples my whole life. the annoying thing is the way that some interracial couples either go out looking for attention or contribute to the stereotypes...they make it harder for people who actually want to be together to just be seen as a normal couple.
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Curiosity killed the cat.
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Hmm I have not noticed much staring at interracial couples. Maybe in certain parts of the country this happens more often, but I'm in an interracial relationship and I've never noticed staring...
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Hmm I have not noticed much staring at interracial couples. Maybe in certain parts of the country this happens more often, but I'm in an interracial relationship and I've never noticed staring...
I am as well and I haven't had a problem with random people staring however I have had issues with some of my family.
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One of my best male froeinds is black and I am white. We used to be together so often people thought we were married lol. I didn't care. When people stared, I stared back. The people that stare obviously have no formal education and were not raised properly. I hold my head high when I am with my true friends, as they are hard to find these days, no matter what their skin color may be. People need to realize it is almost 2010 not 1910!
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??? Some people are just curious!...that's all.
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eveyone will always stare. its just how life is. it will never change. get over it. ;D
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Just because it's different, I suppose. Might not even be really a racist thing--just stands out a little bit. For instance, one interracial couple I saw in a train station three years ago still sticks in my head; they were both sitting on a bench, dozing--he was black, she was a blonde, and lying between them was a baby whose skin color was perfectly between theirs. It was a striking image and very cute, and I still wish I'd taken a picture.
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If someone is staring at something means they r not used to it. itz new for them..... purely they r thinking oh people r like this also....... when they cant accept something they look at it and trying to accept it r wondering on it....... so, dont feel bad if u r starred becoz when they stare at u they r learning something from u
U SHOULD BE PROUD OF THAT
This is what i Think n Feel if somebody stare at me!!!!
:thumbsup: :wave:
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I am used being stared at whenever me and my hubby is together. It doesn't bother me anymore.
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We get looked at allot to.
I think its because I am so hot :icon_rr:
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Some people stare out of curiosity, others because they like to people watch, & maybe for racism. No one knows exactly why the person is staring unless you ask them, but you might not even get a real answer.
My husband was in the military and we used to get stared at a lot too. Mostly because they figured I needed a green card and I married him for that reason LOL! But anyways, I stare at other couples because I like to people watch....and I mean that in the most non-creepy way ever lol.
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Recently I dated this Kenyan girl and she was just drop-dead gorgeous. I'm german-irish decent and I gotta say it was a real pleasure dating her. I never really noticed anyone staring at us because I was always staring at her fiiiiine figure. OH YEAH!
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Recently I dated this Kenyan girl and she was just drop-dead gorgeous. I'm german-irish decent and I gotta say it was a real pleasure dating her. I never really noticed anyone staring at us because I was always staring at her fiiiiine figure. OH YEAH!
LOL
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i think its natural that people just tend to stare, people do stare at lots of different things. it can be people, animal..just anything that can be eye catching. people stare at me and husband because we are different race but i just smile and go on my way. live your life, dont let them worry you. your the one going home with your man and live your life!! :)
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I wish I knew. I'm In an Inter racial relationship and we're expecting our first baby. My entire family flipped out when they found out because he's mixed. I snapped and told my mother to tell my entire family that Its not anyone's business and Its wrong to talk badly about a baby whose not even here yet. They do not like my boyfriend because of the color of his skin. He Is by far the best guy I have ever dated. He works very hard to make sure me and this baby are well taken care of. He waits on me hand and foot ( He has too since I am on bed rest, took a short break to come on-line ).
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I grew up in a white neighbor so i find myself staring at anyone who isnt white whether they are a couple or not. i guess i just need to get used to the area that I am in.
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Its ignorance and because it is different then what they are used to
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I've never cared when people stare. I once told a group of females who were staring at my boyfriend to take a picture, It'd last longer. I personally think It's funny.
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I live in a very small town in maine and pretty much everyone knows each other. I was raised old school, meaning that we follow the traditional values: women stay home while the men work, women marry men (not other women) and whites marry whites. Theres only 1-2 black people living in our small community. Some people may call me racist but thats just who I am. Inter-racial children are more likely to get made fun of in schools where there are not alot of black children, and it just looks weird seeing a black & white couple. I personally would not concider dating someone who was black, nor do I have any black, hispanic, or asian friends. Most of the people on here claim that the people who are staring are ignorant, I happen to have a high school diploma and am very successful. Everyone in the united states has a right to their own oppinions, and not get bashed for stating them.
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why are so many people not answering the original topic question.
i read a few posts about education: isn't part of that following directions :BangHead:
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Dnt have that prob were I'm at My huby is stationed at FT BRAGG and thier are many interracial couples here I'm hispanic and black and my hubby is white.
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why are so many people not answering the original topic question.
i read a few posts about education: isn't part of that following directions :BangHead:
hahah! :-X
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Most of the people on here claim that the people who are staring are ignorant, I happen to have a high school diploma and am very successful.
Not to get off topic but...
Being ignorant doesn't mean you don't have a high school diploma or not successful. Even a very successful, college graduate can be ignorant.
To be ignorant, is to lack knowledge in a certain subject. I.e: I could be a very good heart surgeon but when it comes to surgery on the brain or something other than the heart. I could be very ignorant, because I did not study that area of medicine, therefore lacking that knowledge.
Not everyone knows everything, so in my opinion everyone is ignorant in something.
Does that mean I think people who stare at Inter-racial couples are ignorant for it?
They could be, if they are not accustomed to it, which isn't a bad thing it's just how they were raised and where. But if they are just simply watching their surroundings and observing things, I wouldn't consider that as being ignorance. My question is: How would you know? You wont know because you don't read minds, therefor I'd leave it be. Let people stare it's not hurting anyone.
I live in a very small town in maine and pretty much everyone knows each other. I was raised old school, meaning that we follow the traditional values: women stay home while the men work, women marry men (not other women) and whites marry whites. Theres only 1-2 black people living in our small community.
You say you live in a small town, where you follow traditional values that contain, whites marrying whites. I would consider that as you not being accustomed to inter-racial couples. Which is fine, but there's alot of inter-racial couples and children, we aren't living in the past. This is 2009, we have rights, it's not different to be with someone out of your race anymore, and racial conflicts should end in my opinion.
We can't even have a black president without racial conflict because people are stating " He's the first black president " why can't people just say " He's our new president and I can't wait to see what he has to offer "
I just wish everyone could stop seeing the color of the skin, and see past it. We are all humans, blacks, Mexicans, Asians, whites, ect.
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I live in a very small town in maine and pretty much everyone knows each other. I was raised old school, meaning that we follow the traditional values: women stay home while the men work, women marry men (not other women) and whites marry whites. Theres only 1-2 black people living in our small community. Some people may call me racist but thats just who I am. Inter-racial children are more likely to get made fun of in schools where there are not alot of black children, and it just looks weird seeing a black & white couple. I personally would not concider dating someone who was black, nor do I have any black, hispanic, or asian friends. Most of the people on here claim that the people who are staring are ignorant, I happen to have a high school diploma and am very successful. Everyone in the united states has a right to their own oppinions, and not get bashed for stating them.
I feel sorry for you. There's a whole world of different people and experiences that your missing out on by not getting to know different people. I have dated every race out there and have friends of different races. All of my serious relationships have been interracial including my current bf and I wouldn't want it any other way. What I have found in general is that people are all the same but at the same time their cultural differences and getting to know people of different cultures and races has been something that has enriched my life.
I would never have come to love with Filipino food and culture had it not been for my first love who was Filipino. One of my good friends at work is Filipina. I've been to the Philippines myself. I would have never have learned so much about Chinese culture (and learned some of the language) had I never left the US and lived in Taiwan and made awesome Taiwanese friends there or met my Taiwanese bf.
I'm not saying you or anyone else should just go out and date someone of a different race just because. You never know what you might experience by getting to know different kinds of people.
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I live in a very small town in maine and pretty much everyone knows each other. I was raised old school, meaning that we follow the traditional values: women stay home while the men work, women marry men (not other women) and whites marry whites. Theres only 1-2 black people living in our small community. Some people may call me racist but thats just who I am. Inter-racial children are more likely to get made fun of in schools where there are not alot of black children, and it just looks weird seeing a black & white couple. I personally would not concider dating someone who was black, nor do I have any black, hispanic, or asian friends. Most of the people on here claim that the people who are staring are ignorant, I happen to have a high school diploma and am very successful. Everyone in the united states has a right to their own oppinions, and not get bashed for stating them.
First of all I would like to say that even with your diploma and education that you are more ignorant then a little bit. I am multi-racial and I love who I am. And I must admit that being multi racial at times were hard for me because of simple minded people. But to go further into this, how can you be racist and there is only one human race. I think that you have issues with things that you don't understand. This is 2009 not the 1800's. Men take care of children now, women work, people hire other peole whether they are purple or green, groups of friends come like the rainbow so where have you been during the changing times.You should leave history and the ignorance that came with it in the past. I am filipino, hawaiian,samoan and black and I am proud of who I am and what I look like. God made me just the way that he wanted me. And when people stare, I know that it's because their parents didn't teach them any better. I just can't stand the ignorance that come from narrow minded people! :angry7:
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It could be a few things, honestly-first, of course, is stupidity or ignorance. People that don't know what to think or just are seriously that confused by it. Maybe they're curious. Maybe they don't think it's right. There's nothing wrong with interracial couples-whatever makes you happy :)
One other thing, though, is that some people watch for people to look! When I'm walking in a mall or down the street or whatever, I scan faces to see if I know anyone or whatever-maybe I do it subconciously sometimes, maybe I hear a voice that sounds familiar-I don't know. If someone looks maybe familiar, I look a second longer at their face. Is it possible that some of the people you guys think are staring because they're being jerks are just glancing over or something like that? Sometimes I think it's not fair to read into things so much!!
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Just a a quick follow up, the post that Greeneyedgirl put is CERTAINLY an strong example of the ignorant people that stare!! Green-you are the reason that people are paranoid-thanks for making everyone else look like jerks....
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i'm not sure why people stare, but i think it's rude. there's nothing wrong with interracial relationships.
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admit it. people are generally ignorant and rude
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admit it. people are generally ignorant and rude
I'll drink to that.