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Title: Daycare center
Post by: camellia0 on April 25, 2018, 08:06:47 pm
As a parent, if you put your child in a daycare, would you be comfortable with them having a male teacher? I would not want a male watching my child. I know things that are bad can happen with female teachers too, but I guess that I am used to women teachers and more comfortable with them.
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Post by: 12amos on April 25, 2018, 08:24:38 pm
Sorry, I can't answer that one.  I don't have any children.
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Post by: MichelleHW101 on April 26, 2018, 02:39:30 am
Yes, I do feel comfortable leaving my children with a male teacher.  I am not going to blame an entire race on a few bad ones.  If I've done research on the daycare and trust it enough to send my kids there, I'm going to trust the people they hire.  It helps to be more hands on by talking constantly with my kids and with the teacher to get to know both the teacher and what happens in the classroom.  This way I can feel confident about who I am leaving my child with. 
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Post by: judylucas on April 26, 2018, 04:19:24 am
there was a very bad situation where I used to live with a woman in a care for disabled children facility so there are good and bad in both sexes
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Post by: gaylasue on April 26, 2018, 05:01:42 am
It depends on the age of the child.  Infants, I would feel more comfortable with a female.  Although my son-in-law is an excellent caretaker for my grandson.
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Post by: adriarobi on April 26, 2018, 05:43:07 am
Good questions.....my first reaction is the male was hired so as to be "politically correct".  I would not be comfortable.

Females by nature  are more likely to be "mothering" or nurturing, but I do not trust someone just because they are femaile.

A lot of weird stuff going on in daycares any more, at least those run out of homes.  My daughter is a teacher in a professional (very good) day care, and my grand-daughter has left her son in an at-home daycare (and took him out to protect him), so we are always on the alert for people not suitable in this role.

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Post by: Nancy5 on April 26, 2018, 07:12:12 am
I would first check out the day care very carefully.  I would never use a in home day care, but rather use a business day care.  The sex of the teacher makes no difference to me.  You cannot judge a whole race, religion, or sex of a person on what some have done.  There are wonderful male teachers and there are terrible woman teachers.  What I would do was carefully check them out, ask if staff has been cleared (criminal clearances, etc); and definitely I would make “surprise” visits to the facility, and if that would not be allowed pull the kid immediately.
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Post by: ghunter on April 26, 2018, 08:28:43 am
I guess it is ok, but I will keep my eyes on both sexes. :neutral:
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Post by: alarisracing on April 26, 2018, 02:30:52 pm
I never had to put my kid in daycare.
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Post by: mamatygress on April 26, 2018, 04:23:42 pm
I have no issue with male teachers.  I had several male babysitters, and nothing happened. 
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Post by: Sendmicheck on April 27, 2018, 10:03:04 am
Not all teachers male or female that are bad. 
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Post by: tnshpalmer85 on April 29, 2018, 09:07:25 am
I would not feel uncomfortable having a male teacher watch my child. There was actually a male teacher at the daycare my son used to go to. I think there needs to be more male teachers to create a balance for child to see positive role models in males and females.
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Post by: renee10 on April 29, 2018, 10:33:42 pm
I would feel comfortable with it. You have to really check out the daycare and it's quality.
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Post by: Jayce2013 on April 30, 2018, 12:12:52 am
Maybe not if there was a man alone, by himself with children... but I actually like the idea of a male teacher.... as you said, female can be horrible too, so it's not about the sex
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Post by: sak4kat on April 30, 2018, 06:09:31 am
Wow this could be a sticky subject.  It's true - woman are more maternal.  It comes with our design.  We were designed to carry and care for our children... although not all women have that instinct... particularly when it comes to other women's children.  But there are other cultures where all women raise all children as if they are there own.  I know there are some men that are instinctively caring for young - very natural and protective. However - both sexes can be dangerous, inappropriate and mean. So having an open line of communication between daycare directors, teachers (other staff) parents and most importantly your own child should determine if you're feeling your child is safe in their daycare.
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Post by: aflyingmonkey on April 30, 2018, 09:26:00 am
I've read horror stories on women workers in daycare.... I don't think so much it is about the sex of someone in the daycare, more about doing proper research on the facility one is using before sending your child there. 
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Post by: aflyingmonkey on April 30, 2018, 09:28:01 am
Yes, I do feel comfortable leaving my children with a male teacher.  I am not going to blame an entire race on a few bad ones....

Whether someone is male or female has nothing at all to do with race.  Gender isn't a race. 
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Post by: JaniceSW on May 02, 2018, 08:11:26 am
People who work with children are supposed to have extensive background checks.  However, I think that there are issues with both males and females.  It just depends on the person.  Look how many females in high schools have been found carrying on with students in the past years.  It's not a gender issue, it's a morals, values, and boundaries issue.
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Post by: brian8713 on May 02, 2018, 10:56:19 am
I don't have kids, but I don't see any issue with a male teacher. What's the big deal? A man is capable of doing everything a woman is (and vice versa).
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Post by: mrsmere on May 02, 2018, 12:51:35 pm
 In this day and time anyone can be suspect you just have to go with your gut on stuff like this.  Not only day care but doctors, dentists, relatives, etc.   
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Post by: dsosnowski06 on May 02, 2018, 06:22:29 pm
Luckily I have never had to put in children in daycare but I think I would be comfortable with either gender.  You have to remember when they actually start school you cannot request what gender they will have.  Unfortunately kids today have be taught a lot more about things that they should have to worry about but you have to get them to talk about everything to you. 
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Post by: plennis on May 02, 2018, 06:43:50 pm
Yes, I do feel comfortable leaving my children with a male teacher.  I am not going to blame an entire race on a few bad ones.  If I've done research on the daycare and trust it enough to send my kids there, I'm going to trust the people they hire.  It helps to be more hands on by talking constantly with my kids and with the teacher to get to know both the teacher and what happens in the classroom.  This way I can feel confident about who I am leaving my child with. 

I have had male pre-school and elementary teachers for my children who were excellent.  I think you have to be vigilant and alert about what is going on no matter who the teacher is.
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Post by: natashaspy on May 02, 2018, 06:52:54 pm
My son actually liked the male teachers he had better than most of the female ones.  There are good men and bad ones...you can't fear all men because some are bad.  Just the same as with women.
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Post by: autumnsparklemom on May 05, 2018, 10:28:01 am
I did not put either of my children in Daycare, but if I did I suppose I would prefer a female teacher.
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Post by: cathy37 on May 05, 2018, 10:38:22 am
Day cares have been getting a bad reputation lately because of some that had some bad people working for them.  There are some who are good and take real good care of the children.  Fortunately my daughter has me to care for her son.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on May 05, 2018, 01:29:32 pm
As a parent, if you put your child in a daycare, would you be comfortable with them having a male teacher? I would not want a male watching my child. I know things that are bad can happen with female teachers too, but I guess that I am used to women teachers and more comfortable with them.

I guess it would depend.  There have been a lot of female day care workers that have

*drugged kids to make them sleep so they didn't have to watch them
*denied them food or took their food away from them and threw it in the trash
*hit them, threw them against a wall, and on to the floor
*got mad when parents were late and left the child at the day care center alone, locked up and went home
*raped and sexually abused kids
*had babies die in their care due directly to something THEY done to the child so we can say murdered them
*left them on a bus/mini van in a hot care and they died from heat stroke

Uh, yeah, I think I would take my chances with a man any day.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on May 05, 2018, 01:31:48 pm
Maybe not if there was a man alone, by himself with children... but I actually like the idea of a male teacher.... as you said, female can be horrible too, so it's not about the sex

You should NEVER have any teacher of either gender alone with a child. I have a friend who drives a bus for a day care and he said they are never, none of them, allowed to be alone with a child. There always has to be two.
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Post by: bigfoot951 on May 05, 2018, 01:39:09 pm
I mean no disrespect with my thoughts, but I find this interesting.  I completely understand where you are coming from.  But what happens if a man says they want a secretary to be a woman.  Or any given job to be a man, or a woman, for that specific job.  It's ok to want such a thing from a woman's point of view but not a mans.  I just feel it is a viscous cycle where a victim mentality will never allow a peaceful society.
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Post by: makeblessed on May 05, 2018, 03:57:46 pm
If I had children, I would keep my eyes on everyone; regardless of their gender, just a different world we live in today.
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Post by: shasha2210 on May 05, 2018, 05:42:18 pm
I would rather for my child to be home with me
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Post by: countrygirl12 on May 06, 2018, 05:27:24 am
I would rather for my child to be home with me

Not everyone has that option.  Some people have to work and day care is their only option.  I am sure every one would rather sit at home and be with their child all day.  But for most people that just is not the way it is.
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Post by: countrygirl12 on May 06, 2018, 05:27:54 am
Yes, I do feel comfortable leaving my children with a male teacher.  I am not going to blame an entire race on a few bad ones....

Whether someone is male or female has nothing at all to do with race.  Gender isn't a race. 

lol.  I thought the same thing. :D
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Post by: countrygirl12 on May 06, 2018, 05:29:45 am
People who work with children are supposed to have extensive background checks.  However, I think that there are issues with both males and females.  It just depends on the person.  Look how many females in high schools have been found carrying on with students in the past years.  It's not a gender issue, it's a morals, values, and boundaries issue.

I assume you mean "female teachers"?  Male teachers do the same thing.  Especially when you have younger teachers who are in their early 20's and they are only 4-5 years older than the students.  I do believe it is wrong but 99% of the time the student makes a conscience choice to go out with the teachers.  They are not forced or tricked in to anything.
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Post by: teresa3200 on May 06, 2018, 05:30:27 am
I would research the center and all the teachers before even considering it at all, but I wouldn't hold the fact that a man was a teacher come into consideration.
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Post by: dogsleash on May 06, 2018, 07:39:10 am
i honestly think men pay more attention and i woudl not ahve an issue. i would perfer men and women for day car sice there are both girls and boys.