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Off-Topic / Re: If you can choose...
« on: February 25, 2011, 06:30:25 pm »Message ID: 318351
I worked at a job that I loved, but they had me doing the work of two people, the pay was decent enough, but I walked out after 10 years - the stress was just too high. (I have always been a multi tasker so it wasn't that I was too lazy to do the work & they did hire 2 people to replace me) I found a job making $3.00 less an hour, but it was a great place to work & the raises came fast once they saw I was dedicated & willing to give 110%. I also got a bonus nearly each week & $1000.00 for 'end of the years bonus.' You just never know how a job is going to turn out until you have been there. But yes, I will take a lower pay & be happy, than higher pay & be stressed to the max - just have to make some spending adjustments.


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Off-Topic / Re: Funny kid story
« on: February 25, 2011, 06:19:43 pm »Message ID: 318345
That is so funny & cute. Out of the mouths of babes!

 My daughter answers her kids questions with appropriate answers & uses the correct names for various body parts, Her youngest was 3 when she took them to the fair. When the baby saw the cow - she said 'MOMMY, THAT COW HAS 4 PENISES".  Needless to say my daughter turned beet red, pulled the baby aside & had to tell her there are things you just don't say out loud in front of other people. 

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Off-Topic / Re: Free banking?
« on: February 25, 2011, 06:11:33 pm »Message ID: 318340
I live in Ohio, so have no idea about the banks where you live. Here I go to a FIRST MERIT, they offer total free checking with free checks, plus you get a nickle for every auto deposit, or debit use.
I would think you could ust go throug the pjone book, call your local banks & see what they have to answer. Our Senior building where Ilive has a Resident council - we have fund raisers etc & that acoount is a brach of where you bank. They have a $12.00 per month service fee, also we have to buy the checks, so we are in the process of switching banks. I refuse to pay to let someone use & hold my money.

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Off-Topic / Re: i need advise on nursing homes
« on: February 25, 2011, 06:04:28 pm »Message ID: 318338
Your mom's doctor or a Social Worker can help you make the decision as to where to place your mom IE: the good homes verus the others.

I will have to be placing my brother in the near future (55 with Dementia) At least there will be no family complications over this as none of the other siblings are either able nor want to take on the resposiblity of him & the decision is mine & I will keep him at home as long as possible until he becomes a danger to himself or others. The advice given to me was to: of course talk to people you may know that has had experience with nursing homes, also just stop in to check out a few without making an appointment to talk to someone. That way you see the place as it really is, not just how they want you to see it. A few months ago I was told my brother needed placed right then, the Social Worker at the hospital gave me a list of homes, pointed her finger to one of the places & shook her head. Her way of letting me know that was not a good place. Legally, she can't tell me which are the good ones, & which are the bad ones. There were 11 places on the list, one very close to me - so 1 bad one out of 11, I thought was good.   Luckily, my brother snapped back and although he has his own apartment, we live in the same high rise & I am able to keep a close check on him & he was OK to come home after a switch in his medications.

Who is taking care of your mom now? Can't something  be worked out - like each taking a month of keeping her. I can sympathize with you not wanting to place her.
Good luck honey - I understand how hard this must be for you.

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Off-Topic / Re: Health question for females?
« on: February 22, 2011, 07:45:25 pm »Message ID: 316887
I have no suggestions for you that haven't already been voiced, but just want to reiterate what was said earlier - you know your body! Do not let them poo poo your pain nor try to dismiss it as 'all in your head'. When my daughter was 16 she had an ovarian cyst, the (male) gyno didn't want to give her anything for pain - said it wasn't that bad. I flew off the handle & ask him how he wouls know? & if he had ever had an ovarian cyst! I did & it had ruptured so I knew what she was going through.

I understand the lack of insurance, but try to find a clinic that bases the office charge on your income or just go to the ER. Most hospitals will work with you on the payments, even write off the bill if you can't afford to pay.   

Years ago, 3 after months after seeing my gyn I found a lump in my breast, was having cramping etc. I had no insurance & had just been laid off from my job. I went to Planned Parenthood which was dirt cheap. They found that I had cervical, uterine & colon polyps, plus the cyst in my breast. For a few months I felt I was living at the doctors' offices - needless to say never saw that gyn again!

Good luck sweetie & keep calling the doc till you get this resolved or as I suggested, just go to the ER.
I will keep watching for updates.

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Off-Topic / Re: Single Mother six kids and counting.....
« on: February 22, 2011, 06:53:36 am »Message ID: 316545
In reference to the above post. I do not, nor guess I ever will understand how people can 'want a family', yet won't make the marriage commitment if the father is in your lives. I am not putting you down & believe me I remember wanting a child just to have someone to love & love me back - unconditionally. I made the same what I feel are mistakes that you are making. I had a daughter out of wedlock. She has paid for it all of her life - he was never involved in her life. When your child aches, so do you. Of course he married, & they had a daughter. His wife was in total denial that he & I had a child. When he was on his death bed - my daughter then 37) went to see him on the request of her half sister. He was delerious, but when 'their' daughter told him my daughter was there, he was 'with it ' enough to look at her & say "sorry sorry". Then went back into sad situation of having no idea who he or anyone else was. Such a sad situation, but I think it helped my daughter to hear the apology. My daughter said she was so glad we never married since he became an alcoholic & her life would have been miserable. I was young & dumb & had never been taught right from wrong. Thank God when I did marry, I learned about morals etc. from his family.   

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Off-Topic / Re: where do you live and what is the tempature there
« on: February 21, 2011, 07:11:24 pm »Message ID: 316456
I live in Barberton, Ohio (south of Cleveland) Temp right now is 21, snowed & rained last night, has snowed steady since at least noon today. Roads are really bad & already schools are being closed & delayed for tomorrow.

ENOUGH ALREADY!
Time now for my flannel PJ's & a warm bed.

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Debate & Discuss / Re: What is the world coming too?
« on: February 20, 2011, 07:05:52 am »Message ID: 315872
I get so afraid for my grand children, growing up in these times. I wish they could spend just one day with my grandparents & have the good clean fun that I had - with no phone nor TV. We used our imagination, made mud cakes, used moss to make doll houses & caught craw dads. (cray fish as some call them)
My 17 year old grand daughter just moved from home into her boyfriend's home with his mom. I am heart sick,  :crybaby2: but in many ways really do understand as between  my daughter & her husband there are 6 kids in a 4 bedroom house. In many ways the kids are given too much, IPODS, cell phones etc just to shut them up & keep them out of the parents hair. Don't get me wrong - my daugter & hubby do things with the kids, but it seems their friends & time together is more important at times than the kids. Luckily the grandaughter has goals that I really feel she will stick with, even though her boyfriend isn't at all goal oriented - only in words not actions.

Not all kids these days are bad & trouble makers, but the ones that are - a lot of times it falls back on their upbringing. 
I pray for these younger people that they can stay safe & make good choices.

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Debate & Discuss / Re: Stay at home moms
« on: February 20, 2011, 06:48:37 am »Message ID: 315857
I was a stay at home mom for 10 years. I wanted to work (part time) just to keep my mind alive - not just on kids, bills & hubby. I worked part time nights so hubby could keep the kids. The extra money was our 'fun' money, but I had to turn it over to him so HE could pay for our excursions. Man pride? I met people & found out I AM A PERSON - not just wife & mommy & there were other subjects of topic. Unfortunately, this led to our divorce. I honestly believe & don't get upset as this is just my opinion, that moms need to be at home holding down the fort, teaching the kids right from wrong.  :peace: I know I wish I had done things differently for my kids sake. The fun the extra money allowed was not worth the pain it caused in the long run. If you are a single parent & have to work, I know that is a different story.

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Off-Topic / Re: Do you like winter?
« on: February 20, 2011, 06:26:26 am »Message ID: 315843
I live in NE Ohio, I know many have winters much worse than ours, but I at this point am sick of the bad weather. I hate the cold when I have to get out. The snow is beautiful as long as I can stay in & look out - but that is near impossible especially when you not only have your appointments etc., but are a care taker (for my brother) & are responsible for getting them to their appointments, shopping etc. I am blessed to be able to do things for him, but come on warm weather so we can walk to some of the doctors & just enjoy being outside.

I HATE WINTER!

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Off-Topic / Re: Does anyone own a pet?
« on: February 19, 2011, 08:16:13 pm »Message ID: 315750
None here, but I do enjoy the pets my grand children have - 2 own a dog & 2 cats. The other 6 live in a rural area where people are always dropping off dogs & cats. My daughter is finally learning to say no (sometimes). They have had goats, pigs, calves. Now they have 3 indoor dogs, I think 2 cats, plus 2 or 3 outdoor dogs & a few chickens. The only thing that bothers me is that my son-in-law loves pits, so they have one & I am sure this will offend some - but I am always afraid it will turn on someone. I can't help my fear of them or a  Doberman. (I forgot, & 2 ferrets)
 

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Off-Topic / Re: NASCAR
« on: February 19, 2011, 08:03:17 pm »Message ID: 315746
I am not as hooked on NASCAR as I once was - but Ernie Ervin used to be one of my favorites, (I am sure he would still be if he hadn't had that acident that affected him to the point of not being able to drive in the races any longer) Mark Martin is still a favorite of mine. Dale Sr. was the one I loved to hate - I think his death took a tole on ally of the NASCAR fans, whether you liked him or not.
My ex & I were avid fans - since he went on his way, (without me) my interest just isn't there. If you don't have someone to argue with over the drivers - it just isn't as fun.   

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Off-Topic / Re: where is the last place you shopped??
« on: February 18, 2011, 09:32:07 am »Message ID: 315247
When I shop, I shop not only for myself, but for my brother also. Today he went with me, we went to Sav-A-Lot & Giant Eagle. Giant eagle had the only brand of icecream that he will eat on sale - normally $5.49 a pack - on sale today 3 for $10.00. He doesn't understand you only buy what is on sale & stock up when it is.   

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Off-Topic / Re: Who Does Your Taxes?
« on: February 18, 2011, 09:21:24 am »Message ID: 315239
I had always paid to have mine done - the year I bought a house, I paid to have them done, the CPA made numerous mistakes which I caught (luckily) he then charged me a small fee for making the corrections after I had already paid him. Then I started doing my own. My daughter married a CPA - needless to say he done them for free. Now I am on disability & don't have enough income to file. I find that odd since I do have a lot of medical bills, my tithing to church & small donations to chartities.  I find this unfair.

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Off-Topic / Re: Do you have a ceiling fan?
« on: February 18, 2011, 09:07:53 am »Message ID: 315232
No ceiling fans here, but sure wish I had one in the L room & bedroom. I live on the 10th floor, rarely use my AC, but if I had a ceiling fan probably wouldn't use it all. To sleep I have to have plenty of air flow, & fresh air. In the winter, I turn the heat low at night & keep my bedroom window open about 1/4". In the summer it is open & I have two fans blowing towards me from different directions. I would love to have a ceiling fan, but it is not permitted in this building. 

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