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Off-Topic / To have kids, or not to have kids
« on: June 22, 2009, 10:52:42 am »Message ID: 64023
Before my husband and I were married, we had talked a lot about NOT having kids. I've never been good with them, nor wanted them and the same went for my husband. For a long time, before even meeting me, he had thought about getting a vasectomy. Since BC makes me crazy (even the low-dose) and an allergy to latex makes the only other option not applicable, I supported him in his decision to be snipped. He had the operation several months before the wedding.
Two years later and all of the sudden I have babies on the brain like crazy. I have a little nephew (hubby's side of the family) and I can't get enough him. Now I'm wondering if we made a mistake.
After thinking this over for months, I did eventually confide in my husband that I was experiencing a change of heart. He wasn't thrilled, but he wasn't as mad as I figured he'd be so I took that as a good sign. We didn't make a final decision or anything, it was mostly that I just let him know that I was having doubts. I haven't brought it up again because I'm afraid that he will refuse to reverse the surgery. What then?
I love my husband and would respect his decision (kids would radically change both our lives. We need to both be in agreement on this), but I'm scared that this could ruin our marriage. Has anyone else gone through something like this?
Two years later and all of the sudden I have babies on the brain like crazy. I have a little nephew (hubby's side of the family) and I can't get enough him. Now I'm wondering if we made a mistake.
After thinking this over for months, I did eventually confide in my husband that I was experiencing a change of heart. He wasn't thrilled, but he wasn't as mad as I figured he'd be so I took that as a good sign. We didn't make a final decision or anything, it was mostly that I just let him know that I was having doubts. I haven't brought it up again because I'm afraid that he will refuse to reverse the surgery. What then?
I love my husband and would respect his decision (kids would radically change both our lives. We need to both be in agreement on this), but I'm scared that this could ruin our marriage. Has anyone else gone through something like this?