Anyone with any real experience with internet message boards has at some point come across a person, or a group of people, who are rude, full of attitude, or even just plain cruel. The question invariably follows: why are people so mean on message boards?
The answer is very simple. People are mean on message boards because they can be.
In real life, confrontation and abusive actions may very well be met with physical retaliation (i.e. they'd get a good smacking). Online, they are nice and safe behind their computer monitor.
In real life, they'd have to see the hurt or shock on the face of the person they'd just attacked or belittled, perhaps causing them to feel shame and/or embarrassment over their behavior. Online, the person they shot their virtual mouth off at is just a screen name; colored text in a little box, not a person.
In real life, people's actions cause other people to think a certain way about them. Reputations are made and consequences of behavior are deal with in a very real way. Online, screen names and email addresses can be changed at a whim; in essence, a reputation can be discarded at the drop of a hat.
With no consequences for behavior, some people choose to leave tact and decorum at the door, using the internet and its users as a virtual punching bag. Perhaps it stems from an inability to assert themselves in real life, or maybe they are simply incapable of realizing that there are actual people with feelings behind the colorful screen names. Either way, a person's online behavior is very telling about the person behind the screen.
It may be that those who are cruel, heartless and pompous online deserve the most sympathy. It takes great strength of character to extend courtesy and politeness even when it's not "necessary" (i.e. no fear of retribution if it's not extended). Pity is well deserved by those who fall short of that simple attribute
Some people can be cruel yes. It takes all types of people to make the world turn as the saying goes. A lot of times you have to take what some one says with a grain of salt other times what they say is what they mean. There is no need to twist what other people say. You should not have to be careful with what you say. We are all suppose to be adults.
No one can really say how a person is when the are in RL versus online
. What you see with me is what you generally get with me be it online or RL
. If I seem mean some times it will mainly be because some one has pushed that one button way to many times. With me it is having a certain religion being forced down my throat or some one constantly talking about stuff they know nothing about even after they have been shown the actual or some one who does not want to listen to what others may actually be trying to say.
My main question though with this post is this:Is a persons online personna really different than how they would be in RL with the same person or situation?
Please no naming names or name calling to me that is uncalled for.