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Off-Topic / Re: Parents And Their Grown Up Children
« on: February 16, 2012, 11:35:10 am »Message ID: 491623
I have a son who is 21 and is still in college. I caught myself asking him when he planned on going to bed when he was here for winter break. He gave a look and i walked away and asked myself why I even care what time he goes to bed.
Went back into his room, now 3am and told him I was sorry but it is based on a simple habit that I have as his mom. We have gone through these kinds of issues all the way through his and my development. We literally sit down and talk about the fact that I am still his mom thinking that he still reacts to me the same way no matter what his age. I have explained to him that he is growing up but not letting me know that some things have changed for him and therefore I treat him the same. As a result we both are reconnecting and realizing that we need to speak more often about our expectations of each other as this time in his life he is changing and his need for me to watch over him in the same way that I did when he was in high school is simply not relevant now!
Maybe if you sit with your Mom and say that you need to speak to her about your needs and hers, you both will connect better and help everyone grow up together without all the misconnections that go on!
Went back into his room, now 3am and told him I was sorry but it is based on a simple habit that I have as his mom. We have gone through these kinds of issues all the way through his and my development. We literally sit down and talk about the fact that I am still his mom thinking that he still reacts to me the same way no matter what his age. I have explained to him that he is growing up but not letting me know that some things have changed for him and therefore I treat him the same. As a result we both are reconnecting and realizing that we need to speak more often about our expectations of each other as this time in his life he is changing and his need for me to watch over him in the same way that I did when he was in high school is simply not relevant now!
Maybe if you sit with your Mom and say that you need to speak to her about your needs and hers, you both will connect better and help everyone grow up together without all the misconnections that go on!