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klvcaudillo

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I have a friend who is sleeping with a newly married man.  PS They are co-workers.  I hate trying to give her advice cause I HATE CHEATERS but at the same time she's my friend.  What should I tell her?

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #1 on: February 23, 2010, 02:03:44 pm »
What is she asking for advice on? Is she asking if she should continue the affair or not?
Honestly, I think they both are at fault and in the wrong. They should stop if they are concerned. Unless you have an open relationship, marrying someone means you are making a commitment to that one person. I would tell his wife. I hate cheaters. It's so disrespectful and low. He doesn't even have the courage to tell his wife about his other interests. Gross. Why did he get married in the first place?  ::)

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #2 on: February 23, 2010, 02:19:39 pm »
She's not sure if she wants to come clean and tell his wife or just end the affair and move on with her life without a confession?

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #3 on: February 23, 2010, 03:23:59 pm »
It takes two to tango. It is BOTH of them that are at fault.

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #4 on: February 23, 2010, 03:28:45 pm »
It's both of their faults, but she should end it and move on. His wife will probably find out her husband is a scum bag soon enough.

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #5 on: February 23, 2010, 03:33:27 pm »
Both of them are at fault but I blame most the woman.She could just say no or ignore the guy.I hate cheaters.

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2010, 03:34:35 pm »
end it now, move on with your life, he done it 2to her he will do it to you

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #7 on: February 23, 2010, 03:35:02 pm »
It's both of their faults, but she should end it and move on. His wife will probably find out her husband is a scum bag soon enough.

Yep what goes around comes around and when it comes back around its not pretty.

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #8 on: February 23, 2010, 03:35:56 pm »
You're going to have to choose between your friend and your personal beliefs. Base your decision on how well you know your friend. If you think you can persuade her to end the affair, give it a try. If not, and if the situation bothers you too much, maybe its time to seek out another friend with the same moral beliefs as you do.

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #9 on: February 23, 2010, 03:58:30 pm »
ask her what the heck she thinks will stop
him from cheating on her when they get married  ::)
this situation is just silly all the way around.

and honestly, i highly doubt their relationship will even
get as far as marriage anyway. i'm assuming its based
on some shallow idea of sex, so, its either ruin the marriage
he has now for this relationship which won't last anyway...

OR, step away from the shame of being the "other" woman.
ask her how she'd feel if this were the other way around?
...at this rate, she won't have to wonder how it would feel;
if that's the type of man she goes for, she'll get to experience
it for herself eventually.
« Last Edit: February 23, 2010, 04:00:07 pm by cloudsoup »
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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #10 on: February 23, 2010, 06:43:29 pm »
ITS BOTH OF THEIR FAULTS

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #11 on: February 23, 2010, 07:17:25 pm »
Both at fault unless one person doesnt tell the whole truth - like not being married in the first place or something.  In your friends' situation the person should have never gotten married, but she still shouldnt be with him. 

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #12 on: February 23, 2010, 07:30:09 pm »
  8)  Do not judge!...you do not know the reason. Sometimes they are not cheaters...they are doing it for survival, therapy or other reason...as I said before: 'Do not judge!'

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #13 on: February 23, 2010, 07:42:47 pm »
I'm agreeing with the majority here. Both it is! Except the married man has MUCH more to lose in this. He should know better. Anywho before I get too into this and start talking about my issues and things pertaining to this, heyy new emote thingy! ---> :peace:

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Re: Sleeping with a married man? Who is at fault husband or mistress.
« Reply #14 on: February 23, 2010, 08:53:59 pm »
Say nothing unless she asks for advice. 

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