child support

[TGA3644]

is it fair for the custodial parent to do what she ants to do with the children and tell the non custodial parent what to do

[melissymoo]

not fair unless the non custudy parent was an abuser or something along that line . 

[cowgirlx]

It depends on the parents competance level.  My husbands ex is such an idiot.  He constantly has to correct her on stuff.  The most recent ones being...  it is NOT ok for the boys to pee on the seat and floor in the bathroom, and not clean it up.  When food is gone, the container needs to be thrown away immediately.  Yeah she is really that stupid.  So if they are dumb as her, yes, they do.

[ronie_23]

well it depends.. my ex says I am mean when it comes to him and his child because I won't allow him to keep him overnight.  I am just afraid because he is very irresponsible.  If something happned to my child while under his care I could not forgive myself or him.  I could go on and on with examples of his irresponsibilty but it will be sufficient to say he is not on child support, nor does he ever offer to help financially.  On the contrary evrtime he is in trouble, he calls me and because he is the father of my son I always help him  :-   So yes I do think that if you have custody there is most likely a reason why..

[sweetmermaid]

I wish people can be more serious about their marriage. The children are the ones who pay the price of a broken family. I love children.

[cowgirlx]

I wish people can be more serious about their marriage. The children are the ones who pay the price of a broken family. I love children.

My ex husband abused me emotionall and physically for 4 yrs, can you honestly tell me that was better for them, than having a new step dad that is very good to all of us?  I left for the kids, who knows how long it would have been before he would have started with them.  He is really emotionally abusive to them now, so I believe I made the right move for us all.

[VyHazelE]

Been there done that.   They were my daughter's and I loved them enough to do my part.  Sad thing is their father lied about me not paying it and it went to the welfare dept as him and his girlfriend were on it.   I had it automatically taken out of my pay checks.  Dad hated being made a fool of.

[angie828]

No it is not fair.  They need to be equals in deciding what is best for the child.  Just because the child lives with one does not mean that she can decide what everything is going to be like.

[tuyetmai]

I wish people can be more serious about their marriage. The children are the ones who pay the price of a broken family. I love children.

yes they are innocent on this fact of people life

[mc1962]

Parents need to work at it to see that the child or children are taken care of both financially and emotionally and it requires a lot of work but will be worth it.

[bschumacher]

It depends on what the custodial parent is doing....if the non-custodial parent is unhappy, he/she can go to court.

[mgarmstrong]

Every case is different so it is difficult to answer that question.  However, if I am looking out for the welfare of my children, I would do or say whatever it takes to keep them in a safe invironment.....Just my 2 cents.

[vpthe150kid]

NO

[mommagoes]

it all depends on the circumstances of the situation. in my case, when i was 18 i found out i was pregnant 2 weeks after i broke up with my boyfriend/the only possible father. i told him and he said to get an abortion. i agreed, even let him make the appointment, but then i chickened out and decided to keep the baby. i did not ask him for anything throughout my prenancy, did not ask him to be there when my son was born, did not even ask him to sign the birth certificate. i did not go after him for child support because i do not think it is fair that a woman can have a baby that the man does not want and then expect him to pay for it, but thats a whole other topic of discussion. anyways, i have never asked himf or anything and have never taken a penny from him. when my son was 3, i was in a relationship with my current husband, and suddenly my ex wanted to meet my son and  i told him no. i feel that i had every right to make this decison because this man never wanted anything to do with him before, never wanted him in the first place, and has never made any effort to help with him prior to that time. i know i will have to explain all this to my son when he gets older and he might not like that i kept him from his biological dad but i think i made the right decision.

[lynnc35]

The person that has custody should be in charge. Now if it is split, then you have to have an agreement and come to terms together, there is a reason one has custody and the other doesn't, that we must abide, sometimes it may be wrong. Trust me I know, and been down this road a million times, do what is best for the child always, don't let quarrels between parents get in the way, this will affect how the child grows up.