Can you love two people at the same time????

[misnertracy]

 DO you think you can I love two men right now and Iam a bit confused.... I love my kids father but I met someone while we were broking up and I fell in love. My kids father and I were together 11 years but we spilt up for over a year, because of things he has done. Then I met this guy and we been together for 6 months, and fell in love. But when I see my kids dad I want to be with him!!!! Can you be in love with two people??? What do you think?

[timelord40]

yes you can love two persons but u need to do the right thing and decided who u want to be with the most  plus ask yourself is it love or lust.

[ULuvCeCe]

Love or lust is definitely a good point. 

I still have lingering thoughts of love for someone from my past, we met too young.  I now have a fiancee (the father of my child) and our love is just different, more mature and I appreciate it so much more because I learned so much from the other.

Don't take this lightly, really think about what you want/need and your children especially.  Maybe you two just needed that year break for him (and you) to bring you to a better place

[robin1128]

Yes u can love 2 people at the same time but it is wise to choose only one. follow ur heart.

[albertnbub]

from what you said I think you should probably be with the man you fell in love with when you were broke up.  You have known your kids father and you said you broke up because of things he has done.  You did not say what he had done but it must have been pretty bad for you to break up a 11 year relationship.  But only you know if you trust him enough to not do it againg.

[misnertracy]

Thank for all the commets, I think with my ex it might be that I love him but I'am not in love with him. Because I really don't think about him or care what is going on in his life. But when I'am away from my new boyfriend I am always thinking about him. Or I can't wait to see him. Love is a special thing and I have to follow my heart. And my ex did really hurt me and I can't forgive him.  Thanks

[darkiedark]

I'm glad you figured it out, I was actually going to say that to you, it is possible to love more than one person, but not be IN love with two people. Hope you figured it out for sure!

[Valerie1979]

I do think you can love more than one person
but be careful..... love can change over time. 
You say you think about your new boyfriend all the time....maybe many years ago this is also how you felt about the "ex"
We do tend to think things are "greener on the other side" but that may not always be true

[mstout1221]

Love is a crazy thing. You can be in love with 2 people at the same time but I have seen so many grimey things happen with relationships that I dont know anything about love anymore

[jzmom]

I have been in love with two men at the same time. It was really tough trying to figure out who I should be with. In the end it didn't work out with either one.  My best friend recently told me that he is in love with two woman.  So I think it might be more common than we think.  I am hoping that you will be able to decide who is the right one for you and your kids.

[fAll3nXaNg3lxD]

yes you can love more than one person. but the human mind makes us love one more than the other. sometimes its hard to tell but you do only love one person the most. you also have to decide whether it is love or lust.

[sheenu]

yes i felt too ..but rationally i did the right thing

[Kesha91]

I believe from experience that if the relationship is less than a year old, it's lust. 

[klkwid]

Glad you figured it  out   Love can be so weird sometimes.  The thing to keep in mind with someone that you've been with for a long time is that it may not be love so much as it is normalcy.  If you're so used to someone and you feel comfort in the normal thing, you can easily confuse that love of the norm for love of a person.  If he really hurt you and you know he's not going to change, sometimes it's better to move on.  (ofcourse, getting together with someone on the rebound may not be the best thing either-maybe it's best to take a break from BOTH and see how you feel in a couple months!!)

[lray3152]

I would think that it would be extremely time consuming and such a burden to love two different people, let alone be fair to each person.  You really could not be involved in anything else in your life besides the two women/men that you are in love with as both take much time/commitment.