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Stealth3si

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Shy: bad or Good?
« on: February 27, 2011, 11:57:01 pm »
Are you shy and think you're bad for being told you're shy?

Are you outgoing and think shy people are too quiet and wierd?

Do you identify yourself as a shy person who works towards being outgoing?

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2011, 10:09:16 am »
I dont think good or bad really apply to being shy or not

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #2 on: February 28, 2011, 08:08:43 pm »
I dont think good or bad really apply to being shy or not
definitely agree with this statement because whether you are shy or not there is good and bad in all people! My theory! :wave:

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #3 on: March 01, 2011, 07:32:17 am »
I am definitely a shy person, especially in new situations. I would much prefer to not receive any attention from others in public settings. Once I get to know you, I open up and so around close friends and family I am not shy. But, no I don't think it is a bad thing to not be the annoying person making themselves look like a fool just to get attention. The only place I work towards being more outgoing is in the workplace, because I have yet to find a job that is fine with you being the quiet hard-worker. (Bummer)

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #4 on: March 01, 2011, 09:57:34 pm »
I think shy is not that good, because its makes some seem weird,

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #5 on: April 01, 2011, 12:32:10 pm »
I don't think anyone should be looked down upon for being shy.  My oldest son, now 14, has been shy since the day he was born.  In school, he wouldn't talk to any other students or teachers.  My wife and I were concerned and took him to a child psychologist.  He told us not to worry.  He told us my son would always be somewhat shy, but that he would loosen up as he got older.  It has worked out that way.  Now, similar to me, he is shy around strangers but very outgoing around those he knows.

We're all different; tolerance is the key.

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #6 on: April 01, 2011, 11:17:43 pm »
Can't say that shy is necessarily a bad thing.

In my experience as an introvert, I have enjoyed my own thoughts about the world, the Lord, and the people in His care. I may not make as many friends, but I've avoided a lot of things (alcohol, fornication, drugs, bad grades) that might have hurt me in the long run if I had been a socialite.

On the other hand, I am uncomfortable in casual conversation. And I'm not exactly great with interviews. Or asking people for help. Or controlling my mouth. (I often think aloud.)

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #7 on: April 02, 2011, 09:20:06 am »
People who do not know me well, often think I am a 'shy' person. In reality, I am a watcher and observer. In other words, if I go into a new situation with people I have never met or don't know other than to say hello, I don't immediately start working the room, talking to anyone and everyone. I stand back, watch and listen, and then start to mingle more. I am very outgoing and comfortable at the same time though with a roomful of strangers. I don't know if this makes sense, I know what I am trying to say here. :P ;D

Being a medical practioner does NOT leave any leeway as far as being shy. I would never get any treatment of a patient underway if I was so shy I couldn't approach/ask them everything and it might also make me appear as if I had NO clue what I was doing. ;)

I guess I might be a mixture. I love large groups and also love (and relish!) my time alone. I like myself enough to be with myself and am never, ever bored.
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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #8 on: April 02, 2011, 09:50:05 am »
As a kid I was extremely shy, I mean extremely shy and it definitely wasn't a good thing in my particular situation! I was so shy to a point that I was almost mute...Thank God!!!...I grew out of it!...I'm still shy, but not like I was as a kid.

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #9 on: April 02, 2011, 06:21:05 pm »
I am a very quiet person until I feel either comfortable or confident.  As a result, when I do say something in certain situations, strangely enough people sit up and take notice.  Either I'm highly persuasive or just have a natural charisma that I am completely immune to.  I hate being the center of attention, though (part of the reason why I was so glad to skip a big wedding and do something small and informal with my rabbi, our sisters, and my daughter and nephew when I got married).

I've found this at my new job, too.  I'm working at a call center, and in 99% of my calls, I have people who thank me profusely and take my word as the complete truth.  It still amazes me.



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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #10 on: April 02, 2011, 08:32:02 pm »
i'm shy but i don't think it's good or bad to be that way, that's what makes someone the person they are. nothing's wrong with it. if i'm in a situation where i don't know anyone, i'm generally a ghost, but i'm the complete opposite around friends and family.

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2011, 02:30:31 pm »
Being shy is both good and bad.  I'm really shy myself. It's bad in school.  Doing presentations is the worst experience ever.  You're ideas can never be heard.  Grades suffer. It's the worst.  Being shy keeps people away from you, but it also keeps you away from the drama.  Everyone thinks shy people are nice...unless they do something to label themselves as weird.  In my culture, being shy is expected usually.  An outgoing girl is seemed as too modern and potentially rebellious.  I like being shy except the part about being too afraid to do presentations in school :(

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #12 on: May 22, 2011, 02:31:31 pm »
In girls its cute but i like flirty girls

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #13 on: May 22, 2011, 04:10:23 pm »
i would say that i can be shy at first but after the first few minutes you know me, i am bubbly and outgoing. I dont think that being either one is really a 'bad' thing but if you are way TOO shy or way TOO outgoing then you might miss out on great opportunities!

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Re: Shy: bad or Good?
« Reply #14 on: May 24, 2011, 08:59:46 am »
In not shy and I think it's a bad thing if u are shy. If ur a kid and ur shy fine that's okay but if ur a grown human being and ur still shy? That's sad. People need to step up

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