Death of a Sibling

[loulizlee]

I am trying to come to terms with the death of my only brother.  He was a year younger than me.  He had been fighting cancer along with some other diseases for over six years, and, although we expected it, the realization has not yet set in.  He passed away on March 5.  I helped as a care-giver from time to time, and we got to be really close those last few years, so I am blessed with some wonderful memories.  My faith tells me he is in a better place and is no longer suffering.  But I still miss him.

[Nana923]

so sorry for your lost and hang in there

[edugie]

I am so sorry for your loss, he's in a better place. I lost a good friend on March 19th to a brutal car accident. I pray he's in a better place too. Life is really short.

[cloudsoup]

i'm saddened to hear that
death of a very close loved one is such a surreal
thing. it's almost too real to wrap your head around.
i lost my grandmother and my mother in the same week -
completely unrelated deaths (cancer/heart attack) and
although it was five years ago (which sounds SO much
longer than it feels)... i just can't seem to shake the
reality of it all.

i think i'm still angry. i'm still a lot of things, and sometimes
i have no idea what i am towards it...

i feel for you 

[tantricia44]

I am trying to come to terms with the death of my only brother.  He was a year younger than me.  He had been fighting cancer along with some other diseases for over six years, and, although we expected it, the realization has not yet set in.  He passed away on March 5.  I helped as a care-giver from time to time, and we got to be really close those last few years, so I am blessed with some wonderful memories.  My faith tells me he is in a better place and is no longer suffering.  But I still miss him.

I know how you're feeling. It's been 2 yrs now since I've lost my husband, he passed away march 2, 2009. Though it's been that long, it seems like it just happened. I miss him so much, it's like I've lost half of my soul. You will feel the pain & loss of your brother for a long time but each day the pain will be a little less; But will never go away. Light a candle for him in memory of special days like his birthday or special memories.  I think he would want you to go on in your life & to live life the best that you can. While, he couldn't stay, he would want you to live your life to the fullest. Since life is too short, loulizlee do what good you can do  while you're here,strive for happiness everyday. Never see your brother as a victim, see him as a great fighter/warrior! I've never known your brother but I see him as that great warrior!

[Jazzzy231414]

  So sorry for your lose. It's never easy to loose a loved one. Knowing that they  are in a better place gives us some much needed comfort.

[dreamongirl]

that sounds sad. at least you got to know him and have some memories of him as well

[girlswin2]

I am so sorry for your loss.  It will be hard for a while.  I lost my father Sept. 2010 and still not come to terms with it.  I found myself closed off to emotions, and pretty much everthing else around me.  Its like I hve been living in some kind of a bubble or something but now that I have been reading God's word daily its helping me a lot.  I have been reading 5 Psalms and 1 proverb every day and each time I read like that the better things get for me.  I am not saying you still want hurt form the loss of him but it helps with what your feeling.  Again I am sorry for your loss but not for Gods gain of another precious spirit that is completely whole again with no morepain and no more suffering.  Take care and don't stop talking about how you feel son't let yourself shut down like I did.  God Bless. 

[DarkMistress]

He is in a better place, not only because he is not in pain anymore, but the state of the world, and he is with GOD and etc... Make sure you talk to people about this, not just online, but talk to family, your parents, friends and etc... it becomes easier to deal with the more you talk about it, and accept it deep down and not just on the surface. I am not going to lie like a lot of people do and say it will go away in time... because the truth is it NEVER goes away. It will get easier to deal with, think about, and etc... but it will never go away, unless you are heartless, or never actually cared about the person who passed. But if you DID love them, and especially if you were close to them, it will never go away. I love my Grandmother who was more like a mother to me, close to 20 yrs ago, and to this day if I think about her more than just a casual thought, it chokes me up, and I end up crying and feeling the loss all over again. The main reason I say it depends on your level of closeness is also because for example, my mother passed away like 3 yrs ago, and I mourned her yes, but it does not get to me like my Grandmother passing did. This was because I was not close to my mother. Anyway just make sure you talk to people about this, and do not try to block out memories, or try not to think about him, this will only make it worse in the long run.

If it gets really bad, and/or if you don't have anyone in your life to talk to, then look up support groups. You can find them all over, including ones located online, if you don't want to physically go there. Most if not all are FREE also, and you can talk to other people who have lost loved ones, or siblings too.

[texaswhiterose]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. The loss of a loved one is so hard to deal with. Everyone handles grief different. When my niece passed away it helped me to talk about her. And cry. I cried a lot. Tears are a cleanser for the soul. And believe your brother is in a better place. I know you miss him and you feel a part of you is gone but think about the fact that his suffering is over now. Just keep remembering the good times and remember you will see him again someday.

[loulizlee]

I appreciate more than words can say the expressions of sympathy and hope.  I grieve for my brother, and I know that I will always miss him.  I still miss my mother and grandmother that I was close to and lost many years ago.  But I believe when my brother died he had a family reunion in Heaven with them and other family members.  I grieve for him, but I rejoice that he is no longer in pain.  The feeling that I cannot really believe he is gone is still with me.  Right now I am visiting my daughter and son-in-law and my three-year-old grandson.  I think it is good for me to be around my grandson and watch the new and exciting things he is experiencing every day.  And to those who believe in the power of prayer, please say one for me.  Thanks so much.

[a_bourget05]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I come from a huge family and a couple years ago there were multiply deaths in the family and death is really hard on me so all I wanted to do was be close to my immediate family. I ended up moving back in with my parents after I graduated from college cuz I just felt the need to be with them all the time cuz I was affraid something would happen just like it was in my extended family. 1 death in particular was my 28 year old cousin who died in a car accident. He died on August 9th, 2009 which was his 1 year wedding anniversary and his wife was 8  months pregnant and they also had another 1 year old. Although he wasn't my sibling he was a very close cousin, he felt like 1 of my big brothers. He was a such a comedian of the family. I still miss him sooo much every day.

[gaylasue]

May the Lord give you comfort during your troubling time.  He is control.  If your brother knew the Lord Jesus, he is in a better place!

[briannajeanxo]

im very sorry for your loss, i wish i knew the words to make you feel better but i dont..

rest in peace to your brother 

[Normandie]

i have been faced eith the death of a sibling but my heart goes out to you and anyone else who has lost someone.