How do I tell him I'm not interested?

[marciaenglish]

I say ignore him and he will go away!  Maybe he likes making you uncomfortable?  Let him see it DOES NOT work; has no effect!  He'll get tired of it soon enough!

[lvstephanie]

I would make sure he knows you are married, and then stop communicating with him unless it is work / school related, and then only talk about that topic. Guys have to know that a married woman is off limits. Sometimes, tho, they think that maybe the marriage may fail, and so they want to be there to sweep you off your feet when it does fail. If you talk / text him, he may take that as a type of flirting, confirming his distorted fantasy that you may be more into him than your husband. If he continues to to bother you, then get authorities, husband, etc. involved. He is already abusing your "friendship" so don't feel too sorry for this jerk. He may have been a friend at one time, but a friend always wants what makes the other happy; this jerk is selfish, wanting to break up a marriage that makes you happy for his own selfish desires. Anyone that does that to you is no longer a friend in my book, and deserves to be treated like the jerk he is (boy, I really want to use harsher language than "jerk", but it's too colorful for this forum) 

As a man, I even get upset with jerks like this when I see them hitting on women they know are married and/or are even just dating someone. There's this one guy that sings karaoke at the same bar that is just a womanizing jerk. He thinks he's God's gift to women, and has even stated that he doesn't care if a woman is "taken" as long as he could beat-up the other guy if it ever came to a fight. Come on! We're not in high school anymore! It seems like the only thing that will get this guy away from a woman is if she becomes extremely cold towards him; if he doesn't feel like the woman likes him, he'll go off in search of "easier prey". I think you need to do the same; show that you have no interest in him whatsoever and maybe that will get him to back off.

[Phx0808]

If you want a bunch of us guys from this thread could come to your school / work and escort you everywhere on campus for a week or so... We will the send guy the "right" message. Muhahahahahaha!

Have you taken action, yet?

[kodomfulmanar]

You've already done enough to hint that you're not interested. Since he still isn't backing off, he has issues. Issues that need to be dealt with by the police or the University.

[lgemini]

You will have to tell him in a nice way.  Make sure you are not sending him any wrong signals.  Good luck to you about this problem.

[BrittaJo14]

This depends if you want to still be friends with him or want him to just totally leave you alone. If you still want to be friends, I would tell him that he knows you are married and you are happily married and he needs to stop talking to you the way he has been and putting your husband down. Tell him you don't mind talking or hanging out (maybe with your husband too?) but he doesn't need to call/text you every day. If you want him to totally leave you alone, I would tell your husband. Actually I would tell your husband anyway and then he will know that this is not something you are going along with. Tell him you are married and don't want to hang out with him or for him to text/call you. I would even change your phone number if he really won't leave you alone after you make it clear. If he keeps harrassing you, you definitely should contact someone at your school or even the police if needed. Good luck!

[alwaysinstyle]

i feel somehow you react like you want him to behave that way...and the thing you so much thinking about it...
don"t let anybody ruin your marriage girl!!!
it will never be the same after that!!!!
beasides  is it really that hard to say STOP to someone who is in the middle of your life?
are you serious??/?
for me you already cheating...sorry  but by thinking about it so much it has to be something wrong not only from that guy side...
this is the violation of the trust...i really dont know what"s the problem here...
someone who gives you so much pressure and dont undersand that you are in relationship-DEOSNT EVEN DESERVE FOR FRIENDSHIP!!!!!!


WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lucky382001]

I had this friend who has suddenly become interested in me. like, "interested" in me.  I'm happily married and do not want anything to do with this guy.  we're not as close of friends anymore but he texts me almost every day and tells me he misses me and it's really awkward.  He knows I'm married but he does not seem to think it's a factore. He often tells me to blow off my husband to hang out with him.  I have basically stopped responding to his texts, but I still see him around campus and I have difficulty being rude. How do I tell him to just back off because I'm not interested?

Be direct and firm. I wouldn't say he is necessarily sick in the head it could just be that he has misread signals so be sure to be clear and honest about where you stand.

[arnelll]

Let him know that you re faithful to your husband. He action is not approve of becoming  your friend. Also share whats happening with your husband. 

[LenoraMinogue]

I think being direct is the key here. It's not respectful to you or your marriage for him to suggest a relationship. If he still doesn't get the message, either involve your husband or cut off contact with this other guy is the thing to do.

[alwaysinstyle]

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