My Twenty Year Old Daughter Not Happy With Me!

[hensleyll]

One Minute I Dont Do Enough  To Help, Now I`m Crossing Line Telling Her How To Raise Her Kid! I Just Want Do Anything! Talk About Ungrateful!

[trucktina]

What happened exactly?

[SherylsShado]

Look on the bright side...some day your daughter will get to see what that feels like when her daughter grows up and is unappreciative of her.   

[blondie71]

Well arn't all children like that.  My son is turning 20 on October 15  sometime he doesn't like my advice and I told him he can either learn from my mistakes or make his own and learn from them of course he is makeing his own mitake rather than listening to me.

[acurtsinger2]

I try to kindly give advice without being bossy, but sometimes i seem bossy anyway.  she'll appreciateit later down the road when she's older,,,,

[kqa]

Wow, I've been through that except I haven't had the issues with telling them how to raise their kids.  The teenage years were rufffffffffff!

[mrstina08]

One Minute I Dont Do Enough  To Help, Now I`m Crossing Line Telling Her How To Raise Her Kid! I Just Want Do Anything! Talk About Ungrateful!



This is a tough one to answer not knowing whats happening or whats causing the tension. I will say this since Im a parent and a mother of 3 kids. When we first had our first child. People were telling me what to especially  with my pregnancy even after the first born. They still wanted to tell me what to do but I figured it out. They have kids of their own. They have raised  their kids. Let me raise my own. Times are not like they used to be. There are more resouces and info available to help raise wonderful kids. There are no books that cant tell you how to be a parent. As a parent/mother you learn how to grow, build and nurture. Once you get it no one can that away.


Sometimes when it comes to parents not wanting no one to tell them what to do.It can be intimidating even more so if the parent is very young.  Especially from the grandmother. If this is a first born  sometimes the mother is in the state  of validation wanting every to know and see that she can take care of her child.  Find out what really bothers her. It may not even be you. She can just be taking frustation out on you. Best regards!

[lightningclix]

I often and stop to think how I felt when I was my kids age, how my Mom treated me,
what she said to me, how the outcome was...It usually helps me out a bit, if in anything at all
to stop and take a deep breath before I say or do something I regret!!!

In the end, we have to remember that we're the parents....and sometimes that means that
we HAVE to be the "bad guys" - like it or not.  The good thing is they'll still love us at the end of the day 

[kay7]

You have to consider that it may have something to do with the manner in which you offer the advice.  

[chel3179]

Not knowing what actually happened I can't say to much but I know from experience with my own mother, who is EXTREMELY helpful in every way possible, she tends to try and parent my child (her only grandchild) and tell me what she thinks I should do all the time with him and it DOES get frustrating. He might be my first child but almost 5 years later, I do know what i'm doing as a parent. Maybe you come on to strong that it appears your being overbearing?

[queenofnines]

Eh, perhaps once she gets more away from her teenage years she'll naturally grow to respect and appreciate you more.  Having her own kid already might help or hinder this process.

[dreamyxo]

Is she coming to you for help or are you just offering it without her asking?  I'd tell her look I am here if you need me.  Just ask.  I wouldn't *bleep* her off by giving unsolicited advice.  Let her come to you. 

[tzs]

So let your daughter do what she wants to do, and when she gets in trouble or runs into a situation that she can't get out of, then you can use the old addage:
" I told you so!!!" And if she ask you for help or advice, tell her "But...I thought you knew everything, right?" lol!!!1

[PMZ908]

tell her to kiss your   

lol

[noirlupe]

Thats the way it is with daughters.  One time they need Mom to help them with their problems and the next they cut you out and hide things because they dont want you involved in their lives.