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ladavia89

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #15 on: December 22, 2011, 07:54:29 pm »
It's better for a child to live in a happy loving environment. If two people are no longer happy together it does no good to stay together if you're just going to make your home miserable.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #16 on: December 22, 2011, 09:05:15 pm »
What are your thoughts on couples who are not married, become pregnant and years after the child is born, still unwed, decide to end their relationship but of course stay devoted as co-parents? :wave:

I relay don't see a problem with it thees days all a marriage means is a piece of paper that changes your last name yes i am married but my husband and i have been together for many years we have three kids together and we just got married in July of last year and we did that because we love each other and for finical reason we were going to wait 10 more years but there was a benefit to doing it now so we did i love him and he loves me weather we have a piece of paper that says it or not.     

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #17 on: December 22, 2011, 10:06:48 pm »
As long as they are committed and good parents it is fine. They are plenty of awful wed parents out there so hey.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #18 on: December 27, 2011, 12:48:28 pm »
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What are your thoughts on couples who are not married, become pregnant and years after the child is born, still unwed, decide to end their relationship but of course stay devoted as co-parents?


I think it is usually better for the child if the parents are together, if not married then at least living together. I say usually because I know there are situations which don't warrant this. However, the most important thing is that both parents know the child comes first.

One situation that worries me is when couples get married just because there is a baby on the way. I have seen this fail so many times and it just hurts those involved. I know there are a few that work out (especially if the couple was planning to get married one day anyway), but for the most part this is not a good idea.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #19 on: December 28, 2011, 05:27:43 pm »
It seems to be actually "normal" now.  Whenever I find out someone's parents are still married THAT actually shocks me more now.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #20 on: December 29, 2011, 10:36:20 am »
It seems to be actually "normal" now.  Whenever I find out someone's parents are still married THAT actually shocks me more now.

Lol.  That made me remember back in high school about the 9th or 10th grade me and a friend were talking and she mentioned something about her parents.  My parents were divorced when I was 11 and a lot of my friends parents and a lot of relatives were divorced so I thought that was the norm that everyone was divorced.  When she talked about her parents I thought it was strange they were still married I thought to myself "why aren't they divorced yet?"

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #21 on: December 29, 2011, 10:43:52 am »
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It seems to be actually "normal" now.  Whenever I find out someone's parents are still married THAT actually shocks me more now.

This is so true and so sad! I hate the marriage is taken so lightly in today's society. I do not know when or why the view on marriage changed, but I do not like it one bit.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #22 on: December 29, 2011, 05:08:36 pm »
I Do agree that people who get to know each other first before they get married have the best relationships but I do think they should get married before they have children.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #23 on: December 29, 2011, 08:20:29 pm »
I Do agree that people who get to know each other first before they get married have the best relationships but I do think they should get married before they have children.

I would have definitely preferred to be married first but alas. :wave:

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #24 on: December 29, 2011, 08:33:56 pm »
What are your thoughts on couples who are not married, become pregnant and years after the child is born, still unwed, decide to end their relationship but of course stay devoted as co-parents? :wave:

 This is really a tough question...I personally think that as long as both parents are actively engaged in their childrens lives as much as possible then I don't see why it would be a problem. Now...if they break up and pursue seperate lives, it could hurt the child or children. Regardless, divorces these days are on the rise. If  a couple decide to live seperate lives while married then it would cost $$$ to legally get and stay single. If a couple is unwed then it would be cheaper and they can move on with their seperate lives with no issues.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #25 on: December 30, 2011, 05:21:01 pm »
Love is what will raise a child the right way, not religion, maybe a little money, just enough.
But a Tax break and a beige sedan in the driveway wont teach your child not the be an idiot or an *bleep* or ritualistic animal sacrifices.
So a piece of paper isn't a determining factor of a family. Sure two people should be able to do it, regardless of their skin type or orientation, but it shouldn't be the end all be all factor.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #26 on: December 31, 2011, 09:16:15 am »
I think that young adults should be given more information about adoption generally, because I was in a situation in my twenties that could have resulted in marrying someone I didn't know very well. We dated casually, and he was the first person I made love with. I accidentally became pregnant.

There's no way to know if we would have stayed together, or made good parents, had we married. (In my reality, people who are going to have children get married. They don't just live together.)

I just knew that I was not responsible enough to care for the child, whether my boyfriend was in the picture or not. So an adoption was the best choice for me at that time.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #27 on: January 01, 2012, 06:22:36 pm »
i dont think i have any opinions to say about it since well i dunno.. but i couldnt imagine on going through like that...


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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #28 on: January 03, 2012, 10:02:24 pm »
I think it is better because, lets face it, marriage is not for most people. Why go through that mess of a divorce if you don't have to and it is the kids who suffer the most. Also staying married and not being happy is no good either.

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Re: Unwed Parents
« Reply #29 on: January 04, 2012, 02:07:42 am »
I think that is great, because it is about the kids having both parents rising them.  When you are a parent, we have to put our kids first and we come second. 

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