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rtrunels

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how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« on: June 08, 2012, 06:26:39 pm »
 i  can't  go  to his job. without letting him know should i be worried ! or let it go

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2012, 06:39:01 am »
i  can't  go  to his job. without letting him know should i be worried ! or let it go

Why don't you try asking him and watch his face.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #2 on: June 09, 2012, 07:24:42 am »
A strong marriage or partnership shares openness and honesty- if you feel your spouse is cheating, there is nothing to do but share your concerns and express your feelings towards your spouse. DON'T accuse. DO express your true feelings. If you feel your spouse is lying or hiding something, you can't make them tell the truth or come clean; you can only assert yourslef as an equal member of the relationship and have them know that in order to receive the respect they desire, you require the same respect back, along with piece of mind that the relationship is exclusively set between the two of you.
Hope this was of some help!

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #3 on: June 09, 2012, 07:29:47 am »
i  can't  go  to his job. without letting him know should i be worried ! or let it go

Some jobs are like that!  What other reasons do you have?  What makes you feel this way?  If you REALLY feel this way, why not meet him after work one day and see him come out?

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #4 on: June 09, 2012, 08:22:59 am »
It could be that he may be trying to protect you from something (covering). It could also depend on the type of job or company he works for. I worked for the trucking industry before I got married and the guys there were vultures. If the shoe was on the other foot and my husband worked there, I'm sure he would had told me he'll meet me outside. When we got married he was working for a  large organization and he would never introduce me to certain people in the company because he again as I mention was trying to protect me. I didn't understand at the time, but now I do. He now works for another company and I can walk in and everyone knows me. So it's just a matter of asking. If your spouse says no, just let it be. If he is, then it will surface eventually.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #5 on: June 09, 2012, 10:34:46 am »
Ask him, forget about not letting him know, if you suspect it, ask him, if he starts yelling at you, he is probably cheating

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #6 on: June 09, 2012, 10:50:40 am »
If you feel like he's cheating then he probably is, if u ask him about it and he's not then he probably will start, if you can't let the feeling go you probably will end up ruining everything. Everybody has flaws and faults, not saying you should stay or leave him but you have to make up your mind if its worth it of not. Most men now a days are always doing something, if you go out of your way to find out what's going on, you might not like what you see.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #7 on: June 09, 2012, 10:57:41 am »
I have learned to trust God in this.  It's a hard thing to suspect, but marriage is based on trust.  You can't keep this inside you.  I will pray for you right now.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #8 on: June 09, 2012, 11:17:01 am »
I think you have gotten a lot of good suggestions from other members.  Be honest about your concerns and see how the conversation goes.  Asserting yourself as and equal partner and asking a direct question puts you in a much better place than having to "catch" him to find out. If you have a partner who isn't interested in your concerns or how to resolve the issues that have caused you to suspect them that is information you need to have.  There are so many aspects to good partnership and at the base of it all must be trust.  It is the only way to get through the tough times.  I wish you much luck and hope you are able to bring this situation to resolution quickly.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #9 on: June 09, 2012, 02:45:33 pm »
I have learned to trust God in this.  

That has to be the most useless piece of - let's say 'advice' - seen in this thread.  If someone is suspicious enough to ask the question in the thread title, they can consider hiring a private detective, jointly attend 'partnership counciling' or, directly confronting the spouse/partner.  Hypothetical supernatural entities make for poor P.I.s or councilors.

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One can lead a horse to water however, if one holds the horse's head under, that horse will drown.

             

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #10 on: June 09, 2012, 04:52:10 pm »
Check his clothes to see if he it smells like a woman. Better yet sniff his *bleep* :bootyshake:

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #11 on: June 10, 2012, 12:37:59 am »
i  can't  go  to his job. without letting him know should i be worried ! or let it go

Where's the trust?  Where the open and honest communication?  Why are you suspicious?
I say...

give him the benefit of thinking he's not cheating until you can sit down and have a very open
and honest conversation about your concerns.
Have a great day!

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #12 on: June 10, 2012, 06:46:41 pm »
Take it from me if your gut it's telling you  something then look into it. Try asking him if you dont feel satisfied with his answer and stil suspect something follow him or hire someone to do so for you.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #13 on: June 10, 2012, 07:45:10 pm »
I dont think there is any one way to know. I am sure it depends on the person and how they are going about the cheating.

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Re: how can you tell when your spouse is cheating
« Reply #14 on: June 11, 2012, 04:38:05 am »
Well, the easiest way is to see if there has been a change in behavior. MOST people act differently. Start working late; have reasons to go "out" all the time. But, you can always check the phone records and see if calls have been made to the same number.... Just some thoughts...

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