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mildreddavis1

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Having a baby after age 40!
« on: June 22, 2012, 05:55:44 am »
 :binkybaby: I am starting to see the GOOD and the BAD in regards to having a baby past the age of 40. I am now 45 years old and I have a 3 year old son. He is healthy and things are wonderful at home, THE problem is, people keep thinking he is my grand-son. My mother gave birth to be when she was 43 years old and I remember growing up and people would ask her if I was her grand-daughter and I still remember the disappointed look on her face when she would say, "No, this is my daughter."

I think she was disappointed that people think having babies is just for young people.  :notworthy:


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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #1 on: June 24, 2012, 05:11:34 pm »
I love my kids. and really dont let what people say get u down at least u are a mom and u love your kid that is all that matters and maybe if some people waited untell they were older then there owuldnt be so many screwed up people in the world

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #2 on: June 24, 2012, 05:16:26 pm »
Mildred, my mother had the same problem. She had a child at 37, and around that time decided to let her hair grow out it's natural color--salt and peppered gray. That lasted about 6 months until people started calling her "grandma." This same child, who is 10 years younger that me, is constantly mistaken for MY daughter instead of my sister! What can you do.

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #3 on: June 24, 2012, 05:40:19 pm »
Having a baby after the age of 40 is something I would never do, but  to each their own.

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2012, 08:23:06 pm »
My mom had her first child when she was 19, a lot in between, me (and a twin) when she was 37, a younger brother the next year, and my youngest brother at 41 (and there was supposed to be another the next year, but the doctor convinced her to get her tubes tied).
My dad is 17 years older than my mom.

People apparently thought that my mom was covering for my oldest sister (who was 18 at the time. She had her first at 19) when she had me (plus twin); that our sister must have gotten pregnant and didn't want people to know. lol
To be fair, there were a few "gap years" between the oldest bunch of my siblings and my birth.

That's not so bad though. When I was older, my middle sister was CONSTANTLY getting mistaken for my mom and she's only 8 years older than me!
Everyone also constantly thinks she's the oldest girl, even though there's a 10 year age gap there.
Poor her, I do think that bothers her a bit. Though she jokes she never had trouble getting into bars.



My brother's (now ex) wife was negative about having children "too old". I can't remember exactly when that was, but I think it was 30  (I used to have a "plan" as a child - that I wouldn't have kids till after college and a few years on the job - which worked out to after 30, so I'm fairly sure that was her 'stopping' age).
It was kinda funny at the time, because her hypothetical situation didn't really apply to me, because she was older than my brother (her hypothetical situation for some reason focused on my dad), and because no one had a high opinion of her parenting skills anyways - and funnier now because her latest kid was born when she was 35.

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #5 on: June 24, 2012, 08:33:06 pm »
Well dang how old do you look? 

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #6 on: June 24, 2012, 09:25:34 pm »
I think being misinterpreted as a grandmother is the least of your concerns when trying to have children at an older age. There is a lot of risk factors when you turn 40 and older including a heightened risk of health issues for your child. Thanksfully your child is healthy.

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #7 on: June 24, 2012, 09:38:24 pm »
you're only getting the grandma comments
because you could be the parent of a teenager,
and we all know that teenagers hand over their young
to the   grandparents to raise... am i wrong? :P
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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #8 on: June 24, 2012, 11:24:30 pm »
you're only getting the grandma comments
because you could be the parent of a teenager,
and we all know that teenagers hand over their young
to the   grandparents to raise... am i wrong? :P

... But if you have a child when you're 20 and your child has their first when they're 20, then you're a grandparent at age 40. With great-grand-kids starting at 60 and great-great-grand-kids at 80 that's five generations, no teen pregnancy needed.


Also, I seem to recall a quote, something about it taking a village to raise a child...

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #9 on: June 24, 2012, 11:56:20 pm »
I can simply tell you this, who cares what people think? My wife just had a baby 8 months ago at 41. and we could care less what anyone thinks of it. We both love her with all our hearts.

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #10 on: June 25, 2012, 02:58:40 am »
Having a baby at any age is a blessing.   :angel12:

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #11 on: June 25, 2012, 03:16:52 am »
I had all my babies young. I was 19 when i had my first and 24 when i had my last. If you are able to take care of a child when you are older. Go for it!!! I dont see a problem with it. Who cares what other people think. I wouldnt let it get to you. :)

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #12 on: June 25, 2012, 03:25:14 am »
If you are capable go for it!!!!!

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #13 on: June 25, 2012, 03:52:42 am »
I am going to sound very mean for a minute so please excuse me. Who died and made them the boss of your life and how dare they judge your life choices. A woman should be made to feel nothing but pride and joy and gratitude to God at the birth of a child. Let's face it most women cannot even give birth past a certain age. Be proud to have become a mother at any age and FYI a lot of women are making that choice today and there will be a lot of well nurtured people in the world because of it. An emotionally mature mother can raise a mature human being. I don't know you but I think you made a great choice. here is something you can give to those nay sayers :bootyshake: :bootyshake: :bootyshake:

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Re: Having a baby after age 40!
« Reply #14 on: June 25, 2012, 04:23:13 am »
Yea who cares what people think, let them talk. 40 something is still a young age and it is not that old what people make it out to be. So it is nothing wrong with it, it is a blessing to have a baby. But I don't think I would want to have one at that age though.
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