Im not happy

[ancmetro]

   
        You decide! You make your own happiness. Like in any other situation in life, if a relationship is not working, try to find solutions or move on.

[dreamyxo]

Reason #99 why I will never date a man with kids.  Ain't no way I'm dealing with his bad *bleep* kids.  You need to make a plan to leave.  Three years is a lot of time wasted being unhappy.  Is this how you want to live for another three years?  Leave him and his bad *bleep* kid and don't look back.  You have no obligation to them especially if they are doing nothing but bringing you down and making you miserable.

[sherryinutah]

Set yourself free because it isn't realistic to think you can change other people.  

[penguinito]

me too I'm trying to learn how to earn money on this site but no one is replying my questions!

[torch71]

Run, Run RUN!!!  Why are you still there?!

[lparker5]

I appreciate all the help I got from you guys but I didn't mention that we have a child together either.  I have three of my own and he has the mean disrespectful child and we got the baby together he is almost 19 months now.  The decision to leave has only been hard for the sake of the baby, all my family lives in Arkansas and yea much easier said then done to lean on family for help.  The only way out is to leave take his car, our son and drive 2,000 miles away.  I know I can do it on my own that is not what scares me but he does and all the threats he has said to me if I do leave. I have had him thrown in jail for hitting me I have a restraining order he just keeps coming back and I have no clue how to get rid of him anymore.  I stopped caring for his daughter a long time ago I refuse to do anything with them or for them and that has made it much harder.  The more money I save in the bank the more he takes away from me so that hasn't made it easy either to be able to save enough money to get out. 

[dmahoney]

Get a bank account that he doesnt know about, that way he cant take it from you. Go to a womans shelter. Doing something is better than being abused. Your child may be next.

[kingozzy]

That sounds like a lot of stuff going on, and I would get out of there and leave and start fresh somewhere, there is no need to be abusive

[BlackSheepNY]

You have a "restraining" order and he keeps coming back?  Why isn't he in jail?  When you break a restraining order, you get arrested.  You need to call the Police when he gets anywhere near you and have him arrested again.  Show the Police the restraining order you have against him.  Call your State Bar Association and see if you can find an attorney that can help you.  Call a woman's shelter and see if they can offer you any advice about him breaking the restraining order, or better yet, perhaps THEY can point you to an attorney.  You really need to go back to court and let a Judge know that he is breaking the restraining order and MAKING THREATS.

If you're able to save some money, get your own bank account and DON'T let him know about it.  He can't TAKE it if he doesn't know where it is!

[ricdsm]

My advice is go talk to a counselor so that you can get strong enough to walk away.

[vp44]

My advice is go talk to a counselor so that you can get strong enough to walk away.

I second that idea. The feeling is strong on your heart and you may need a professional to break it down for you in a way that you will really understand. Good Luck!

[lparker5]

a counselor would be a great idea...Thanks guys and girls...

[oonamas]

the key here is boyfriend, not husband, you better get out, and as far away as you can, in the future its going to get worse, leave and dont look back, and if he tries to be nice dont go back, if its abuse, it'll only end bad put your fellings on the side and get away.
[/quote]

That's exactly what I was thinking, if you're not married and she's not your child, why put yourself through all of this. You should never remain in an abusive relationship, and it doesn't sound like you have anything tying yourself to this one anyway.

[debidoo]

  Well, I could give you some advice from personal experience but its doubtful you would do it.  I didn't take my own advice and now I am 59 years old stuck in a 30+ year marriage to a person I no longer love, is sick so there is nothing I can do with him, and is still a big jerk and I have been unhappy for 30 years.  I would say run from the hills but I didn't have enough sense to do that when I could have.  There are people out there with happy relationships, I hope and pray you will change your life if you can.  Best of luck.

[Traze]

Leave ASAP you have stayed way to long in this relationship.