Do you really forgive?

[elysee24]

Depends on things!! Something is easier to forgive and something is easier to forget!!

[mrisha]

When someone does something bad to you, you need to forgive or you will lose your mind or the stress builds  within you and cause other problems.  The problem is forgetting.

[SweetApril74]

If that person is mingle with me daily, it is very difficult for me to forgive.

Ooo... any advice hot to forgive in this situation? This is very bad, i know. I really want to forgive and let go.

[tammypete]

I do forgive people...but I NEVER forget!!!

[Nancy5]

I think it depends on who and what they did (or didn't do).  You don't want to end a friendship over something small, but there are times when something happened that you cannot forgive or forget.

[lackeyk]

One of the hardest things we have to do during the course of our lives is to forgive those who wrong us. When we are hurt, our first reaction is almost always to strike back rather than turn the other cheek. Rarely do people understand that revenge is never the answer and is quite harmful to both our spirits and our bodies in the long run. In the throes of anger, it's a monumental task not to lash back at those who wrong us. Instead of dousing our anger and hatred with the water of forgiveness, we fan the flames with retaliatory remarks and hurtful actions.

[laurindat]

I agree with most of the other posters, about forgiving but not really forgetting. There's just some things that aren't, or shouldn't, be held onto for too long, and you just learn to deal with it by forgiving. Forgetting is another story.

[ben50]

I think it takes time, and it has to be something you are ready to let go of, you cannot hold resentment or bitterness still. I think if you are really mad at a person for something, you may need away from them to forgive them until that resentment is gone and you are ready to move on, but it is something you do for yourself and not the other person. It is holding yourself in the cage if you hold the resentment when they usually don't care how you feel and go on living like normal

[natashaspy]

i'm kind of odd i guess.  i Do tend to forgive when things are done to me...but if someone does something to my son, i tend to hold a grudge for a longggg time

[tin8604]

I have a hard time forgiving people.  I would rather just forget about them.

[Cuppycake]

Yes you can forgive. That doesn't mean you forget.

[davidf938]

Forgivness is not  free and should not be. Why should we forgive someone if they intend to repeat the same behavior? If someone borrowed money from you without paying you back, would you grant a request for forgiveness accompanied by a request for another loan? The transgressor must make some form of corrective action to merit forgiveness. This is not Biblical, but none of us are gods.

[Paulinha]

I do forgive, but I don't forget

[emily01]

It depends on who needs forgiving and for what.

[mstevenson2]

sometimes but it is hard to forget