Why is it so hard to find love in your 40's.

[dwiley11]

    It was easy in my 20's

[falcon9]

  It was easy in my 20's

That was probably lust, rather than love, back then.  Though finding a deeper connection in one's 40's or 50's can and does happen for many people.  Hang in there; just about when one is ready to stop looking, the unexpected can occur.  Like when you're looking for your car keys everywhere ... can't find them ... almost ready to give up looking ... oh, there they are?

[lparker5]

It's not impossible you should never give up but then again you shouldn't look either..Love comes to you when you least expect it.  You have to be willing to open up to new people everyday and like falcon9 said when your not expecting it their it is...When you look you can't find I know the bible says seek and ye shall find but in order to find you must also ask.  "Ask and it shall be answered unto you" just like when god closes one door he opens another.  never give up I am 29 years old and have been in two major relations ships and I am still in one now but that doesn't mean I have stopped wondering if he really is the one.   In my heart I know he is not but when you have 5 kids it's harder to walk away even though the answers are right in front of me.   Just remember the love of your life is more then likely around you all the time..

[sdecaro558]

I think it's hard at any age.  I'm in my 20's and having trouble finding love myself.

[potluck6]

It is hard any age to find love or the right person.My daughters friend is 40 ish and just got engaged to a real nice man her husband died 6 years ago.She didn't think she would find anyone but did.i remember in my 20's was looking for husband material but someone in their 40's might be looking for something else especially if you've had kids.

[Tresbn00]

I actually think that it is somewhat easier to find love in your forties. Potential mates look at you as being more stable, reliable and knowledgeable.  I run into so many available singles, and disatisfied married people, on a day-to day basis.  With the advent of computer dating it seems to be a bit easier for people of a more advanced age to find like minded people with which to date. Companionship is nice but I enjoyed my single days quite a bit. Catering to someone else's whims, wishes and demands can be somewhat tedious.

[tzs]

When you aren't looking for it, It will find you. That's what happened to me.
Good luck, darlin'

[diala84]

You just know more about who you are, what you want and what kinds of behavior you will or won't tolerate. That makes it harder to find someone because you are already set in your ways and so are the people you try to meet. I think if you can find someone it will be a better match than people who get together in their 20's plus you have the benefit that many of those people who meet in their twenties are divorced by their 40's. Just do the things that interest you and you will find others that are interested in those same things. Maybe something will come out of it.

[LaKecias]

Maybe because you expect too much and know what you want now. Your expectations and views on relationships have to be much different now that you are older. don't give up and don't settle the right one will come

[dcrotteau]

It will happen when you least expect it.  I found my guy when I was forty-three and he was thirty-six.  We've been together for almost 12 years now and couldn't be happier.  It will happen, don't worry.   

[cowgirl2116]

Be careful what you wish.  Some people in their 40s still act like teenagers.  Enjoy some of your moments of single life.

[vickysue]

It does happen when you least expect it. I never thought i would get married again. Had such bad experences with the other marrarige.  Was never ever going to put my self in that spot again. Then lo and behold one of my employees at work talked me into a blind date with a friend of his. (oh yeah had him invested by a local policeman whom was a close friend before i went. But here it is almost 20 years now and everything is great. So it can happen when you least expect it. Good luck.

[africanclaudie]

I was never going to get married after my first one ended after 25 years.....then I met this guy (we were both in our 50s) and 6 years later I am married and living in a new country. Sometimes these things just fall into your lap when you least expect it. Good luck!

[debidoo]

  I really believe it will come when it is right.  I think I looked so hard when I was in my twenties that I ended up with someone whom I've had a 32 year long and difficult relationship/marriage with but even though I am 59 I believe that down the road the right person will come along if something happens to my husband who is in poor health.  I would wait this time and know its right. 

[mrisha]

I don't think age has anything to do with it.  Trying to find love at any age is hard.  Well that's how I have always felt.