My roommate is lazy!

[rmendoza1]

Okay so my friend has moved in with my husband, my daughter, and me. She used to work 14 hours in her parents restaurant every day. So for the last 6 days she has been here I have been letting her relax because she hardly ever got to before. Now I'm getting fed up. I have been asking her to do something as simple as washing the dishes or sweeping the floor and she says, "No." Not to mention she stays on our airbed, that is in the middle of the living room, until 2 or 3 in the afternoon. It is ruining my routine and stuff. I don't know how to get her to do stuff. Please help! I'm tired of doing everything!

[vickysue]

Tell her to get up and start doing things to help out or get out, Amazing what that will do. Do all your housework around her and make as much noise as you can, Been there.

[moonangel]

;she needs to get up and help or get out time offis fine maybe a vacation you are not running a free hotel and maid service if she cant help then she needs to pay if all else fails poke a pin into the airbed and tell her to leave now

[BATISTAGIRL663]

well you would think that out of your kindness to let her stay there she would be jumping at the chance to help out so she wouldnt have to go back to the hell she was in--you give her time to chill now its time to get back to reality and help out with either chores or bills which ever she wants but the first rule to learn is nothing is free in this world and its not your responsibility to take care of her

[Ittai]

 http://Tell her to get up and start doing things to help out or get out, Amazing what that will do. Do all your housework around her and make as much noise as you can, Been there. <<<<<...i agee

[tin8604]

I have lived with someone like this before.  It sucks.  You need to set up rules and boundaries before it gets out of hand.  She will continue to do it until you make her stop.  You could always let the air out of the bed while she is sleeping on it.  Most have a side valve.  Bet she gets up then.

[debrar]

Have a meeting with her and with your family around. Tell her she needs to get when everybody else is up. Let the air out of the air mattress like someone else said. And If she don't agree to the rules she have to go just as simple as that, she is not your child that would be a different story then. 

[davidf938]

Say 5 words and mean them.: Work, Pay, or Get Out.

[vp44]

Sometimes your friend is your worst enemy. Not to say its a bad thing when I say enemy. I say this because friends are sometimes the first ones to test you and feel you wont wanna lose the friendship than stand up for what you feel is right. It is your house and your right to let the friend know there needs to be a change and let them know what changes you want.

[greeneyedgirl23]

If it were me, I would try writing her a note & explaining to her that you are not trying to be rude or mean but you could really use some help around the house. Id mention that you don't want to lose her friendship, but taking on extra cleaning is too much. See if she'd be open to a chore chart?! Hope this help.

[jwallbank]

It is a shame that People take advantage like that!! I have had the same problem with family members in the past. I have had to do some of the things people have mentioned in this post to my own family members. I would not expect it from a non-family member, I guess I would be less patient!! I would explain to this individual, I would expect she help out, if not, give here a specified time to go (like a week). People that take advantage of you, I believe are really not your friends!!

[ancmetro]

    That is the reason many people do not have any roommates! Avoid all hassles!

[dreamyxo]

Is she paying rent?  So she's on vacation for a week.  Well tell her she has one more day on her vacation after that she has help, pay extra for maid service or leave.

[debidoo]

Groundwork should have been laid before she ever moved in but in lieu of that - better late than never.  You best get control of the situation before it gets even worse and permanently damages or ruins your relationship.  I can't believe someone in her position would just say "no" to your requests, I could see her saying ok and then maybe not doing it but a flat no seems like she thinks she is in control.

[PGS28]

The next time anyone moves in with you set a date for them to move out and make the rules known up front.  Tell her to pull her share or she has to leave, simple as that.  I know it's easier said than done, but if she were a true friend she wouldn't abuse your kindness.