Children or No Children

[dreamyxo]

Most of you who do not have children is really missing a lot, but God did not make everyone to have children, in fact some have them that should not have them, but if you have decieded not to have children for whatever reason you will NEVER know the joy of becoming a grand parent or even the happiness a child can bring two people who are in love, but to each person their own,  good luck to you all and blessing.

That's your opinion so don't tell me what I am missing out on because everyone's life is different.  Maybe that's what you feel you would have missed out on but I do not feel like I am missing out on a thing.  I taught preschool for a few years and they were the best birth control ever.  I don't need other people to make me happy.  I am enjoying living the life I want to live without to burden or responsibilities of children.  I have joy not having to wipe someone elses butt.  I enjoy my sleep too much to have to be waken up every few hours.  I have joy knowing I don't have to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to take care of and send anyone to college.  The time I have for myself and pursuing my own goals and dreams is joy enough for me thank you very much. 

[bobes915]

We are new parents.  We have an 11 month old daughter and it has been challenging but wonderful as well.  It is definitely a life-changing decision and one that should not be taken lightly.  I think the decision needs to flow out of answering questions like: what do I value most?  What do I want out of life?  What is going to be best for me and for my spouse/significant other?  How you answer questions like these should begin to shape your decision to have kids or not.   

[jcalexis]

It is a big responsibility to bring a child into this world. It requires a lot of patience, loving, understanding, caring to raise a child. Unfortunately, not everyone has these qualifications. My advice is don't bring any child into this world if you are not qualified to be a parent.

[angsilva2000]

no children, cost too much money an you need a good man for that .

[SherylsShado]

My kids have paws.   

[Mykat]

What's you're decision?  Personally I've opted out because of a lot of circumstances in my life.  Plus, I knew from a young age that I did not want to be a 'mommy'.  To those who have decided to opt out what has been your experience?  To parents how did you arrive at your decision?

I believe I was born wanting to be married and to have children when I grew up. lol...I always wanted four children but after our third, my husband and I felt our family was complete and we never had second thoughts about having more. Realizing both of my hearts desires has been the greatest joy and satisfaction in my life and I couldn't imagine life any other way. My youngest daughter however, feels she doesn't want to get married or have children and she has felt that way for as long as she can remember.  How it will turn out down the road for her has yet to be determined, but if she continues to feel this way, I will support her for following her heart.

[ilovedevin]

I have a wonderful 9 month baby boy and he's myy pride and joy. I had been with  my ex husband of 4 years and i never got pregnant by him. I always thought that it was my fault and thats why he had left me but when i met my husband  on the first try he got me pregnant and now i feel compet.  Everyone  has the choice to be a perant and for some of them it takes longer then other. To all of you that dont have kids good luck and god bless you and to those who have kids we are blessed for having them in our lives 

[hawkeye3210]

I hope to be a parent when the time is right.

[csomma]

When I was young I thought that I would never want children. But 20 years later and two kids, I couldn't be happier. I love my kids more than anything.

[mahgurl]

God gave me some wonderful children to raise.  I have four children and one grand daughter.  They are apart of me and they are alike me in so many ways.  And oh the love.  It is not a love like an unfaithful spouse who can leave you in a split second when another piece of meat suits his or her fancy.  This love from children is binding and it makes you a family.  These individuals (children) are apart of you.  They have some of your and the other person genes.  I do not have to second guess the love my children have for me.  It is soooo sweet.  Some people do not need children and children do not deserve to be hurt.  Children are special and very sweet.  All they need is LOVE, Food, Shelter, Clothes, Some one who has time for them and did I forget to say >>>>>LOVE.... Love that does not hurt. 

Thank you Father God for the children you blessed me with.

[queenofnines]

Babysitting is one of the best forms of birth control...as is going anywhere where there's a screaming, bratty kid in the vicinity. I don't need a "mini me" to feel fulfilled and give my life "purpose". Children are for those who are A-Ok with automatically doing what society expects of them, regardless if having kids would make them truly happy or not.

I read articles and hear complaints all the time from parents who are fairly miserable on a day to day basis thanks to having kids. Reproducing is NOT a decision that should be taken lightly!

The cost-benefit analysis of having kids comes in at far more cons than pros in my book. I'll take the $20,000 PER YEAR that I'm saving by not having a kid and spend it on an African safari or a cruise to Antarctica. As opposed to, you know, staying home and playing Candyland or watching Finding Nemo for the 6347th time.

[queenofnines]

My kids have paws.   

 Love it!

[reiddb]

I always wanted to be a mom....that made my mom laugh at me~she said, you don't like to cook or clean and you want to be a mom...well, I'm the proud mother of 5 beautiful children ages 8-16 and I don't mind the cleaning and love to cook~you never know! 

[queenofnines]

Most of you who do not have children is really missing a lot

And by having children you are similarly missing a lot.

you will NEVER know the joy of becoming a grand parent or even the happiness a child can bring two people who are in love

"NEVER"...!!! Ohhh boy. Um, there are alternatives to having children in your life besides just having offspring of your own, FYI.

[b1pearl]

I am a mother of 4 children, which are all  grown with children of their own. It's amazing to look at your babies, and realize that they needed  all your help and assistance in nearly every thing that they did and now to watch them grow into a parent themselves.Being a mother wasn't always easy, but it was worth every moment.