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meg0694

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2013, 05:14:42 pm »
No,  I have a son that could care less about anything.  I want him so bad to keep a B average and I stay on him so he does.  I wish he cared!!  He is very smart but lazy.   :BangHead:

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #16 on: January 25, 2013, 05:44:35 pm »
I think if you ask most parents, their main goal is to give/set up their children for a better life & success than they had. So I don't think it is wrong, but actually great!
Just as long as you don't push them to hard of course.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #17 on: January 25, 2013, 06:41:35 pm »
It's natural for nurturing parent's to expect their kids to excel where they didn't. They want they're kids to avoid making the same mistakes they did. Most of the time it's academically. I myself always regret not studying harder in school because I now know that I missed out on a lot of scholarship opportunities and being able to brag about being on the Dean's list is an easy way to impress potential employers.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #18 on: January 25, 2013, 10:29:58 pm »
Education and knowledge are very important to us. We encourage our kids to do their best always.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #19 on: January 25, 2013, 10:33:06 pm »
I do however think there is a big difference in pushing and encouraging. We expect our kids to do their best, we don't expect perfection.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #20 on: January 25, 2013, 11:37:43 pm »
On the contrary I think majority of parents want their children to have and do better than what they had in their lifetime... Then have something to rant about how easy they have it (like those AT&T u-verse commercials).

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #21 on: January 27, 2013, 10:30:07 am »
I don't think there's anything wrong with encouraging them to do better, as long as it is tempered with love and understanding that those expectations might not always be reached.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #22 on: January 27, 2013, 10:57:01 am »
No nothing wrong with it. Nevertheless, our children are going to end up being who they are not who we want them to be. So just relax and enjoy your own life. Encourage them but do not expect too much because they are who they are. :heart:

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #23 on: January 28, 2013, 04:55:08 pm »
I really hope my daughter does better than me. I just am finally getting a good grasp on my life after going to school and getting a good starting job in my field. She's smart so i know she will do well in school and college

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #24 on: January 28, 2013, 07:43:41 pm »
I wish the best for my kids, and I think there is nothing wrong in wanting your kids to do better than yourself.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #25 on: January 28, 2013, 08:06:13 pm »
I think that every good parent wants their child to do better than them. I had a tough childhood so it's something I strive for really.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #26 on: January 29, 2013, 07:20:15 pm »
Every parent should want their kids to do better in life than they did. I certainly want my kids to far surpass me in achievement and personal well-being.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #27 on: January 29, 2013, 09:02:38 pm »
As a mother I believe it is perfectly understandable to want the best life has to offer your children. That being said, I also believe that it is ultimately the child's decision how they want to live their life. You can nag at them the whole way through high school so they get into a good college, but when the time comes, they may decided they don't want to go to college at all. Don't freak out! My mum nagged my endlessly to get good grades and get into a good college. But college just isn't for me. I now HAPPILY work from home running my own candle making company and make $800/month, whereas if I were in college right now, I'd be stressing over tests and up to my neck in debt!

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #28 on: January 30, 2013, 12:38:06 am »
I don't think it could be wrong to want your children to succeed...I want my child to be the best they can be!! and I would love for all there dreams to come true.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #29 on: February 01, 2013, 06:57:01 pm »
I agree with your thoughts that children should be pushed to do better then their previous generation...as long as they don't lose sight of fun, family and enjoying life.  I work as hard as I can to provide them with everything that they need to succeed.  I expose them to adventures that most kids can only dream about.  I sign them up, with their blessing, for every sport clinic that helps them get better at their respective sports.  I applaud them for their victories and work with them to overcome their losses.  I encourage them to take on harder classes and challenge their minds.  I am currently working on making an additional company so that I can hire them and keep them out of what is currently a crappy employment scenario.

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