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lgemini

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Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« on: January 25, 2013, 05:51:39 am »
I think it is not wrong to push my kids to do better than me.  I am talking about education and social setting.   I want my kids to know that they can be anything they want to be with hard work.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2013, 06:21:34 am »
I like my kid be himself.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2013, 07:02:10 am »
no but let them try to figure out what they want not just having them please you.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #3 on: January 25, 2013, 07:12:42 am »
I just told my son that he knows more now in the 7th grade than I did going into my Sophmore year in high school.  I don't believe in pushing my kids...I support them in there endeavors.  However when it comes to education I do push a bit more than I was pushed.  I lost my Dad in my early teens and Mom sorta lost it...she didn't keep track of me so there were days...weeks that I didn't go to school.  I on the other hand think of myself as being very involved in my kids education.  My son (who has ADD & was released from his IEP from a visual restraint this last year) brings homework home that I help him with nearly nightly.  My oldest get's great grades naturally and doesn't have to spend much extra time on it.  My youngest so far seems to be soaking it in similar to my oldest... I hope I'm not pushing them...but guiding.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2013, 08:30:19 am »
no it's not wrong who would thinke that. I want my kids to have it all of course i want them to suceed for more than me

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2013, 08:57:38 am »
Of course not, naturally as a parent(s) we want to see our children succeed, where we didn't.  From our past life experiences we as parent(s), we see a better way. The only problem in this is, not everybody experiences the same thing in life,so sometimes we just have to be what we are;loving, caring, supporting,teacher,counselor,and most of all, understand that we were a child once and some things that our parent(s) did wasn't always cool to us at that time. Just do your best and be honest as much as possible.  :binkybaby:

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2013, 09:17:53 am »
Parents should push their children to do better than they did.  I grew up being told I would amount to nothing and spent my life having to prove to myself as well as others that I would be better than my mother.  My father died when I was 2 and my mother spent her life until she passed on treating me as if I owed her for ruining her life.  She treated me differently from my sisters and brothers,  and I concluded that she loved me in her own way until I heard from my aunt that she never expected me.  She told me that if it weren't for my grandmother,  I wouldn't have survived.   I am not ungrateful,  but I wouldn't wish that kind of feeling on my worst enemy.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #7 on: January 25, 2013, 10:39:44 am »
I think it is not wrong to push my kids to do better than me.  I am talking about education and social setting.   I want my kids to know that they can be anything they want to be with hard work.
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I agree that we all want our children to be "better than us" but there is a fine line here as to how to push them.  I always believed in encouraging a child to follow his dreams and also to help him by providing (as best I could) him/her with things that would help in the direction they want to go.  Of course, children being children, well they change their minds quite often so when they're little no point in getting too involved.  As they grow and become more mature (teenagers in 3rd or 4th yr. of high school) they will then really decide which direction they want to go in.  That's the time to enforce and encourage as much as possible their decision.  I've always told my kids - you can be anything you want to be - I will never tell you what to be - just remember to be GOOD at whatever you choose!!!!

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #8 on: January 25, 2013, 10:59:09 am »
Of course it is not wrong to want your kids to do better than you, as a parent you also want your kids to do better than you so if you don't think that way something is really wrong with you.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #9 on: January 25, 2013, 11:03:37 am »
it is not wrong to want your kids to do better than you. i want the same for my kids.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2013, 04:05:21 pm »
You should be a role model to your children. Our children are our future. I have always wanted my kids to have more than I currently have. I don't see anything wrong with this concept.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2013, 04:10:24 pm »
It's not wrong to want your kids to better than you. I don't agree with pushing, however.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #12 on: January 25, 2013, 04:34:56 pm »
I always wanted my kids to do better than me.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #13 on: January 25, 2013, 04:43:15 pm »
I totally agree with you, I think everyone wants their children to do better than they do. I always tried to push my kids when they were younger.

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Re: Is it wrong to want your kids to do better than you?
« Reply #14 on: January 25, 2013, 04:47:34 pm »
Its definately not wrong. Its part of being a good parent!

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