Please read this I need all opinions.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

My sister in law sent me a message exactly a week ago saying her daughter could babysit if we ever needed a sitter (and she needed the money).  Then today she sent me a bunch of extremely detailed messages about why I shouldn't let her step Dad, my kids grandpa, watch them (which he's the only one who ever watches my kids even though I rarely need a sitter) she said not to ever leave my little girl alone with him.

Do you think she would make it up just so her daughter could watch ourkids for money?  My fiance thinks she is and she is his sister so he wuld know better but then again my gut is telling me it is very true and my other sister and law and I bot have gotten bad vibes and my mom said she always had a bad feeling. She said she has been wanting to tell me since my daughter was born but was scared and didn't want the world to know and she has nevet realy told anyone.  She said what he did still haunts het to tis day and shemoved out 17 years ago.

This grandpa I speak of, for example, has calledmy 22 month old baby girl a hottie and has done the same tohis other 16 month old granddaughter.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I will also say, though, that both of my kids seem to love him and are excited to go over there

[lywb2168]

You go with your gut feeling, a mother knows best.  I personally would not trust people just because they have a relation with me or my hubby.  You never really know what is in the heart of the person.  I have a brother that I would not let me girls stay with no matter the circumstances, not that I have ever seen him or known anything about him, but my gut feeling tells NO, don't go there.

You do what you feel is the best for your kids and do not worry about anybody else.

[inertia4]

I personally would not take anything like that lightly. If she is that upset then there has to be truth to it. What of he hurts your baby? Think about that. Look, I doubt she is making it up just so her daughter can babysit. I have heard real stories from people I used to work with just like this one. So, listen t her.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I am a christian I pray for my kids every morning.  I am not taking the over there anymore I  just prayed God would use this post to let me know I'm making the right decision.

[hvnlydevil]

I am betting that her initially offering her daughter's babysitting services was her way to break the ice. I would definitely keep an eye out and maybe even consider buying a nanny cam. I know they put them in stuffed animals now, so it would be easy enough to bring over. Keep a strong eye out and trust your gut.

[sharg]

If you want to maintain a relationship with this grandparent i WOULD ALWAYS BE WITH YOUR GIRLS.  Unfortunately I know the reality of  unworthy trust.  As a child you go because you know your going to have fun and you dont understand until your older and then its a hard road back.  I would also go with your gutt as that is your inner voice telling you something.  It sounds like someone must have been hurt before and perhaps things should be talked about between you and your sister.
It wasnt until I was much older that I opened up to my sister who is older and had the same terrible experience.  At first I was angry with her for not saying anything but the more we talked the more I understood and my sister is my best friend and I trust her 100%. My prayers go to you and your family.

[LuckyDeutch]

If I was in this situation I definitely would go with my gut feeling. They saying is that you can never be wrong if you do what your instincts tell you. Do what YOU believe is right and what is right for your children. I dont think I would take any chances. good Luck and please be careful on making your decision.   

[melissaotto1982]

Go with your gut!! This may be a little extreme but what about using one of those hidden babysitter cameras so you can hear and see whats going on?

[champak97]

I think your sister in law is telling the truth. Go with your gut feeling, and mom always knows best. Who would call a one year old baby a 'hottie'? Weird

[bhiett]

Don't take any chances where your children's safety and future well-being are concerned.  Some people never recover from childhood abuse and even those who do experience a lot of psychological problems on their roads to recovery.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Thanks everyone  :-

[africanclaudie]

If that little voice in your head tells you something is not quite right - listen to it. As other members mentioned....go with your gut feeling. Rather be on the cautious side than regrets later one. My thoughts are with you as this is a very sensitive issue. Good luck!!

[Delphyne]

My sister in law sent me a message exactly a week ago saying her daughter could babysit if we ever needed a sitter (and she needed the money).  Then today she sent me a bunch of extremely detailed messages about why I shouldn't let her step Dad, my kids grandpa, watch them (which he's the only one who ever watches my kids even though I rarely need a sitter) she said not to ever leave my little girl alone with him.

Do you think she would make it up just so her daughter could watch ourkids for money?  My fiance thinks she is and she is his sister so he wuld know better but then again my gut is telling me it is very true and my other sister and law and I bot have gotten bad vibes and my mom said she always had a bad feeling. She said she has been wanting to tell me since my daughter was born but was scared and didn't want the world to know and she has nevet realy told anyone.  She said what he did still haunts het to tis day and shemoved out 17 years ago.

This grandpa I speak of, for example, has calledmy 22 month old baby girl a hottie and has done the same tohis other 16 month old granddaughter.

It is extremely inappropriate for a grown man to refer to a toddler as a "hottie".  Before I got very ill I was a semester away from obtaining my degree (in Psychology and another science). 

Frankly, considering the type of behavior being displayed by your sister-in-law, and the statements made by the grandpa, I would not let any of those people be alone with your children. 

Child abusers are most commonly family members.  Be safe.  You are a mother.  Do not put your children in any situation that could potentially harm them.  Whether or not they understand what is being said or done, children's brains absolutely do respond to emotional impact. 

You were worried enough to post about it here.  I think this warning sign enough to keep your children away from those people until you, yourself, have a much better understanding of what is happening.

[msmoneybags48]

It is remotely possible that they know something and you don't know.  I would be very cautious of leaving my children alone with him.  To call your daughter hottie is stepping over the line and it is possible that he could be a child molester and look as normal as you or me.