MARRIAGE ( im getting cold feet)

[Bode1104]

im getting married soon, an kinda getting super cold feet is this normal??  anyone have any suggestions or tips??

[vlsm23]

The last stretch can be so overwhelming, but cold feet is normal.  Just try to find time to yourself and reflect on the relationship (not thinking about the upcoming event).  Think about the best times together, as well as the worst, because if the best outweighs the worst, and the worst did not end the relationship - you will be fine. 
And, not to add to the cold feet situation, talk to your family and friends if you are getting worried.  Ask them their true opinion on if it is the right time, the right person, etc. and do not let them lie to you.  I am my husband's second wife (my first marriage), because his family and friends told him after the divorce that they never thought his first wife was right for him.  But now, his whole family loves me and is proud of him, and my family accepted him a long time ago. 
But dont take a strangers opinion too much to heart, and if you are getting very cold feet, then maybe talk to your fiancee (without freaking them out) and see how worried they are and why they are sure it is the right choice.  Marriage is about communication, and the better you communicate almost everything with your spouse, the easier marriage will seem.   

[Bode1104]

i guess it just everything is so overwhelming...i didnt know you had to put sooo much work into planning a wedding! i love him with all my heart an i know its the right time and he is the right one....cant believe its actually happening.....dreamed an fantiszed about it so much now that its really about to happen its got my nerves goin..

[kristysaiko]

Nicely said.

[elysee24]

i guess it just everything is so overwhelming...i didnt know you had to put sooo much work into planning a wedding! i love him with all my heart an i know its the right time and he is the right one....cant believe its actually happening.....dreamed an fantiszed about it so much now that its really about to happen its got my nerves goin..

Congratulation to you!! 
Me too is getting marry soon except it's gonna be a simple wedding and nothing really much to plan or friends/family around to talk, things aren't going as I thought would be, so I am getting cold feet as well. However, I am sure we will be able to get over the cold feet and move on to what we have been wanting for for a long time!!

[liljp617]

Cold feet over being the center of attention or cold feet over whether this is the right person or not?  Because one is important in determining carrying this out while the other is simply something you fight through.

Either way you'll be fine if this is something you want to do.  It will be over before you know it, so take it all in.  Sister just got married this weekend and my now brother in law was extremely nervous before, but it worked out great in the end.

On another note, be glad you have to right

[viva05]

Cold feet are normal the reason you is having cold feet is because you id nerve at getting married and, being with that person for a lifetime but, if you are ready then go for it but, cold feet is mainly normal in marriages.

[arnov2]

im getting married soon, an kinda getting super cold feet is this normal??  anyone have any suggestions or tips??

its ok we all do

[silklash]

Pretty standard reaction to what you're dealing with.  I wish I had listened a little closer to my inner voice and carefully re-evalute my intuition because I got married Dec 08 and 2mos ago, he filed divorce.  While it's normal to get cold feet, don't completly dismiss it all.  Just have a little talk with yourself and try to decide if what you're feeling is just a bit irrational & overwhelming because of the plans and pressure or are you truly feeling as if you don't want to face life after the grueling ceremony and all the bruhaha.  If you can, in good conscience, reassure yourself that you're not afraid of life after the "I Do"s are said, then you're going to be just fine!

Good Luck & Congratulations.

[Glenda782]

congratulations. I personally think you would be crazy if you were not  a little scared i was so scared at my wedding and that has been 24 years ago. I have had a great marriage. you will to

[slim28]

Get over it, and get it over with.

[jkc715nyc]

It sounds like you really love him, so I would say stick it out. I got married almost 2 years ago and went through a period of wondering if I was doing the right thing. We're very happy together and I'm glad I ignored the little voice in my head.

By the day of the wedding, I was so over worrying about everything that I pretty much went into zen mode. Nothing bothered me, and I just enjoyed the prep (getting hair and makeup done, chatting with my bridesmaids). As I was getting ready to walk down the aisle with my dad, I did have a brief moment of heart pounding anxiety and thought I was going to pass out, but I took a deep breath and took that first step. Seeing my husband looking just as nervous made me relax instantly. He lit up when he saw me and after that it was a breeze.

I wish you the best of luck and congratulations!

[klkwid]

Congratulations!!  Once the wedding is over, everything goes back to normal.  It's a lot of stress for something that literally lasts just several hours.  And remember-If little things go wrong at the wedding (like it rains or you get someone else's cake or something like that), those will be the things you remember and laugh about later in life. 

[gena33612]

Totally normal. 

The only peice of advice I can offer you is to ignore about 95% of EVERY PIECE OF ADVICE YOU GET.  Seriously.  Your friends, mom, grandmother, aunt...all of them.  What will work for you is going to be different for you than for everyone else.

Well, one more piece of advice...don't ignore this one...LOL  Make him feel needed.  Let him know that you love him and need him in your life.  Always.

Best of luck to you. 

[trop8cana]

Cold feet are normal the reason you is having cold feet is because you id nerve at getting married and, being with that person for a lifetime but, if you are ready then go for it but, cold feet is mainly normal in marriages.

I agree...