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Cuppycake

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« Reply #30 on: July 22, 2009, 08:47:45 pm »
all i know is that women cheat more
That is total bullshit. I was completely faithful to my ex-husband while he cheated on me with numerous people I have come to find out. He is now marrying my ex-bestfriend...

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« Reply #31 on: July 23, 2009, 12:12:45 am »
so.....what do you do if you found out she/he cheated on you?? forgive and forget? pack your things and leave?get revenge? or snap?

i would probably kick her out the door and look for someone else that won't cheat on me. i've been there a couple times in my life with cheaters and i've always done the same thing everytime. my moto is... "Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater!"

I agree with the saying of "One A Cheater, Always A Cheater!" I would just pack my things and leave. Don't even wanna waste my time and effort to talk to a cheater.

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« Reply #32 on: July 23, 2009, 10:20:20 am »
hey cuppycake, wake up call for you. its true women do cheat more. cuz they have so much high expectations of their current relationship and if they aren't satisfied, they will tend to find another man who is more like her standards. 15 years plus as a relationship counselor so do not argue. good day

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« Reply #33 on: July 23, 2009, 10:23:11 am »
pepole often think the grass is always greener on the other side but soon they learn thats not the case even gold loses it's luster in time
It's better to burn out then to fade away!

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« Reply #34 on: July 23, 2009, 10:37:43 am »
My husband cheated on me when I was 3 mo. pregnant.  I found out when our daughter was 13 mo. old, when he CALLED to tell me his ex was making him take a paternity test.  We split up for a couple of weeks.  Now he is on a very short leash.  It was either that or stay the F**K out of my life.  It's been over 2 years and he still worships the ground I walk on.  I still haven't forgiven him, but he is willing to deal with it.

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« Reply #35 on: July 23, 2009, 11:55:39 am »
I have learned alot about love and forgiveness over the past years. If the affair was a one or two time thing with an anonymous person, I could possibly end up forgiving, but never forgetting. But, if the affair was over a long period of time, and he wasnt willing to stop, I would pack up and leave. No self respecting person should ever put up with that.

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« Reply #36 on: July 23, 2009, 12:17:42 pm »
I have learned alot about love and forgiveness over the past years. If the affair was a one or two time thing with an anonymous person, I could possibly end up forgiving, but never forgetting. But, if the affair was over a long period of time, and he wasnt willing to stop, I would pack up and leave. No self respecting person should ever put up with that.

What if he denied it for over a year?  would you be able to forgive then?  What if a child was the result?  What if the mom is constantly trying to force the kid into his life?  Do you think you could then?  If so, you are a much better person than I will ever be. :thumbsup:(don't mean to come off defensive, just curious if you could.)

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« Reply #37 on: July 23, 2009, 03:44:41 pm »
cheating is a tricky topic.
it's wrong, yes.
it is born out of basic human selfishness, yes.

but I don't think if you cheat on your partner, you should tell them.
I think that's far more selfish than the act of cheating on them in the first place.


you should not cheat. but if you do, stop cheating and don't tell your partner. the cheater needs to learn what is missing in their relationship and fix it, and revealing that they cheated will not help.

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« Reply #38 on: July 24, 2009, 06:09:40 am »
cheating is a tricky topic.
it's wrong, yes.
it is born out of basic human selfishness, yes.

but I don't think if you cheat on your partner, you should tell them.
I think that's far more selfish than the act of cheating on them in the first place.


you should not cheat. but if you do, stop cheating and don't tell your partner. the cheater needs to learn what is missing in their relationship and fix it, and revealing that they cheated will not help.

So you wouldn't want to know?  Just think about what he could have "caught" while cheating.  The other person deserves to know the risks. 

Cuppycake

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« Reply #39 on: July 24, 2009, 03:56:15 pm »
hey cuppycake, wake up call for you. its true women do cheat more. cuz they have so much high expectations of their current relationship and if they aren't satisfied, they will tend to find another man who is more like her standards. 15 years plus as a relationship counselor so do not argue. good day
I will argue as it is my right. And I will not take your crap just because YOU think YOU are right. I don't care who you THINK you are mister but I don't take crap from any one.

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« Reply #40 on: July 24, 2009, 09:04:35 pm »
It's hard to say.  In my mind I think I'd be kicking him out, but maybe I could forgive once.  I don't know for sure.  I pray it never happens so I don't have to know what I'll do!!  ;D

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« Reply #41 on: December 13, 2009, 07:11:43 pm »
Im the type that doesnt put up with that, so she would probably  be OUT.

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« Reply #42 on: December 13, 2009, 07:18:27 pm »
Last time I had that happen where I found out my bf was cheating on me.. didn't end well.. I snapped and called him on it then he snapped an beat the *bleep* outta me.. then he went to jail.. and prison for violating his probation kuz aparently he is a sex offender and I didn't know that and he wasn't supposedto have ANY contact with girls AT ALL.. yea cheating can be a living nightmare =/

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« Reply #43 on: December 13, 2009, 08:17:45 pm »
Try to fix the problems.  Talk with them about it (not fight), make deals about privacy and ways to trust.  Try to mend the relationship and see what's wrong.

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« Reply #44 on: December 13, 2009, 09:06:02 pm »
Of course I feel cheating is wrong. However, we are only human and do wrong many times throughout life. My husband and I have talked about this over the last 26 years and while it would be heartwrenching and seemingly unbearable, we would both at least give forgiveness a shot. I know that circumstances have a lot to do with it but I don't believe you can say now what you would do in the future without examining the underlying reasons for the behavior.  I feel both partners have to look in the mirror and within themselves to take stock of who they are and what they are bringing to the marriage. It would be difficult but I would have to try forgiveness because I would want to be forgiven if I did something that brought him anguish. A lot of times, the affair has nothing to do with the cheated-on partner. Its something within the "cheater" that is missing. I disagree with an above comment in that the partner absolutely should be told and allowed to vent anger, ask questions, do whatever needs to be done to express their feelings. The cheater then waits as long as it takes to gain back their partner's trust. Being deceitful doesn't help the affair situation nor does it say anything about the foundation of the relationship in the marriage. As long as the affair isn't ongoing, I think its acceptable to grant a second chance for the marriage to grow and the family to continue.  :female: :male:

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