positive thoughts? I doubt it!

[LuckyDeutch]

    How can a person have positive thoughts if you live with so many negative people in your house and  80% of the time, they keep saying negative things! One person is my husband. he does not have many positive thoughts. When things go wrong, He says negative things....like when he buys scratch ticket or goes to casino or plays lotteries, he always says I know I wont win. I tell him not to play then, but he still does. The other family memebers say the same stuff. I tell them it would not hurt for them to start thinking POSITIVE a few times but they all seem to repeat their stuff. We arent lucky enough, we will never do this or that... etc, etc. So how many of you go thru this and what would or do you do or say? I want to stay positive!   but cant do it this way!

[msmoneybags48]

I thank you for opening up this discussion.  I see I am not the only one.  My husband feels he is trying to be supportive when he says negative things to me and will flip the script to tell me he loves me.  I have played the lottery too and at least I had an opportunity to get some extra money; it disheartens me when I am trying to do something and your negativity throws me off course.  My husband has a complaint whatever I do.  For example, I put the numbers of two people into his cellphone on Saturday.  He actually called me back going off because he could not find the home numbers.  We had a meeting at the church because I am the Finance Secretary and he is the Maintenance man.  He handed me his phone and I showed him the numbers I put in earlier.  His response was "I must have done it wrong" and "You know how I am".  That is besides the point.  You darn near took my head off over something you asked me to do for you and my knowing how you are doesn't excuse the fact that you were rude, obstinate and unfeeling.  I told him yesterday that he and his oldest sister are more alike than he is likely to believe.  She tries to tell him what to do, and he wants to tell me what to do.  He actually laughed at my statement.  I call him cheap because he can buy something for him or me and will spend the rest of the day telling me about it.  My point is that he needed it and got it.  If I want it, I want it, regardless of the cost.  I know things are going to get better and try to remain positive.  He blows my day acting as if he knows everything is supposed to go his way.

[camellia0]

All you can do is pray for them.

[davidh121]

I'm guilty of being a little negative, but I try to refrain from discussing certain things as I tend to be a pessimist generally. My family is often moody with all the things happening thus far, so I try to be a little more optimistic, but we find this difficult as of late. Everyone seems to have a short fuse.

[patti4me]

My husband is mostly negative too.  He doesn't think he is cause I've discussed his attitude with him several times over the year.  He hasn't always been that way and I'm not sure exactly when the change took place.  He used to be really spontaneous but that has changed too.  Now we make plans for a real vacation as we haven't had a full vacation in many, many years.  So, we get it all planned out and I even told our grown kids so they'd know not to expect me to run errands or pick up kids that week and a half.  Then, I come home from visiting my sister yesterday and he tells me he doesn't think its a good idea to go and spend all that money!  What happened while I wasn't looking?!    Anyway, thats my gripe so I'll just get over it!

[Liquidfire_43]

I realized that by staying with a person for too long, you start to drive each others brains to the wall.... In this day and age I highly doubt a person can accept the thoughts, annoyances, nag, etc throughout the years without some sort of mental break... But then again there is divorce and such x_x

[pstovall]

Read a copy of "The Secret" or better yet get your family members to read it.  It explains how negative thoughts bring you negative results.  If THAT doesn't help them, then it may help YOU to find a way to turn the negative into positive.

[king4cash]

Here is a positive thought;

In times of great stress or adversity, it's always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.
 Lee Iacocca

 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
 Romans 12:21

[mperez7372]

It doesn't matter what others around you do.  It is about yourself.  Your title alone shows you are not in the right frame of mind.  You said something positive and immediately said something negative (I don't think so).  It takes practice, for sure.

[LuckyDeutch]

WOW! guess Im not the only one going thru this. I am glad im not alone. msmoneybags48! You relate to me so much its like I have a double here! I didnt go into as much detail as you but you took the words right out of my mouth. same situation here.... Also thank you all for the responses! They are all Ireat and something to think about!

[nickylanena]

That makes me think of my suitemates this past school year!

[tzs]

Misery loves Company, don't forget that!!!

[momoney555]

When you think negative thoughts and speak negative words you attract negativity into your life.  The same applies to positive thoughts and words attracting positive things into your life.

[tantricia44]

Wow, I'm so surprise at all these negative hubbies! I'm just the opposite, my hubby (RIP2009) was the positive one pretty much all the time. I was the negative black cloud all the time. Opposites attract & that's probably what made him so attractive to me, that & he was so smart on the genius level. People believe that they get their behaviors or habits cuz of what type of family they come from. Me, I'm negative & depress most of the time. My family is like that but we're working on trying to be positive. When my family met my hubby it was like his happy & positive out look no matter how bad he was feeling or whatever bad news came bye kind of infected them. I don't understand why he's like this cuz his own family mentally & verbally abused him daily. He was called stupid all the time you'd think he'd grow up stupid;not Harry, he was always at the top of his class, he taught himself how to read at the age of 2 & graduated suma cumludia in college. The way he was treated as a child, I've always wondered why he didn't turn into the bad things his family predicted he would become. I'm surprised he didn't turn into a serial killer! Just goes to show, just cuz your family is negative doesn't mean you have to turn out like that. Harry's been gone for 4yrs now but in the short time he was with my family, he left that positive essence of his good soul like saying you can be in room full of doom & gloom but you have that choice of accepting it as your fate or you can reject it & reshape to what it should be. As for the ladies w/the - hubbies try talking about that issue with them or maybe tell them you want to work on be coming more positive. You've got to start somewhere. On the bright side @ lease they're not cheating hubbies ....Right?  

[gaylasue]

Life is too short and too hard as it is to have to deal with negativity day in and day out.  I, too, live with a husband that has a negative attitude towards life due to his physical disabilities that have lead to mental disabilities.  I try to not let his negative attitude influence my attitude and mood but it is almost impossible at times.  I just try to put my faith in the Lord with the knowledge of better times that will come in due time.