I really just don't understand people

[annettefayeroach]

I thought it was bad when the kids on the school bus was rude and hateful, they have nothing on the adults in this world.  Can someone please explain to me what gives one adult the right to yell and cuss at another one?

[mawhite63]

I think it's a wide variety of reasons, anything from a neurological problem, to a sense of entitlement, to just poor manners.

[gaylasue]

Unfortunately you see this more and more.  People have become a product of their environment, especially unruly kids.

[Nancy5]

I think it's poor manners, there is no reason to yell at anyone in public ever!  I don't know if they think they are the "big person" but they come off as idiots.

[melissajh44]

There are SO many angry, hateful, hurt people in this world. It's really, really sad.

[bremer51]

Its inappropriate, but I try not to be too judgmental.  You never know what burdens other people carry with them.

[masked_brown_guy]

It is easier to ignore than to involve yourself in (even if it is just a little thing like forming an opinion about it) something like that. Who knows why people need to express themselves in that manor publicly.

[lvstephanie]

I think it does depend on the situation... I can see a manager chewing out someone that is consistently showing up to work late or doing something wrong. True, there are ways to do this in a more constructive manner; take the person into the manager's office to bring up these issues, actually talk to the person instead of yelling, don't use curse words, etc.

There may also be other factors that cause the person to snap out at another one... I know that usually I'm pretty even keeled, but sometimes I'll have a chain of managers breathing down my neck to get some project done, and then I find some worker that should know better not following directions thereby causing an hour's worth of needless rework, and I may snap out at that person. But usually if I notice what I'm doing, I'll go back to the person later and apologize for lashing out in the way I did.

Finally the extremity of the situation may call for it. If there is possible danger to that person or another one, then yelling is more warranted. For example, if you notice a shelving unit in the warehouse is about to fall over on someone, you'd probably yell "Watch out!" rather than calmly ask to discuss something with the person.

[msmoneybags48]

I don't know what it is, but I do know this:  people take out their frustrations on you because they enjoy dishing out their weird way of behavior and want your day to be as miserable as theirs are.  I formerly worked with a woman whose idea was to take out her frustrations on me.  She got me pissed off one day and thought she had her comeuppance.  If you don't type and I do, don't find fault with what I do.  She kept on until I told her that if she didn't like the way I was doing it, I suggested she do it.  I got this response; "you know I don't type", and my response was, "Then don't keep messing with me; I have had it up to here with you telling me how to do this because you have been paid for it."  She finally backed off because she found out I have no qualms with speaking my mind.

[InfuseMe1]

manners, respect, common courtesy and common sense are now things of a bygone era... welcome to the vicious world now - where all most people care about anymore is themselves... sad state of affairs indeed!   

[dmahoney]

Nothing gives them the right. People just don't have manners anymore. Or they feel entitled to give everyone their opinion.

[ricdsm]

I have worked in a community mental heath setting for 35 years.  These folks are all poor and have significant challenges in their lives.  They receive a boat load of services for themselves and their family members.  For the average client, their out of pocket cost is $00.00.  For others, their total cost for an entire year is $37.00.  In spite of what a great benefit they get, I routinely get cussed at because they have to wait over 15 to see the doctor, or they have to wait two weeks for an appointment.  Oh I forgot, the big issue that gets them going is that I won't give them free bus passes for their entire family to come and go.  After all these years I have concluded that the more you give people the more they feel entitled.

[dkanofsky]

Stupidity and ignorance.

[Tresbn00]

I don't think that anyone has the right to yell and cuss at another human being.  I think that yelling and cussing only shows a lack of control and paints a picture of someone who is trying to regain that control by belittling another person.  More can be accomplished by discussing a problem in a calm, cool and collected manner than causing two people to be out of control.  Trying to see something through someone else's eyes is often the best way of handling a situation.  I don't think that anything can be fixed by being abrasive or louder-even if your argument is right. Verbal abuse is second only to physical abuse and many times it is worse.

[CharmedPhoenix]

They fail to realize that we are all connected.   

They may hurt the other person, but they also hurt themselves and everyone who witnesses their cruelty.   

Let's start an affirmative action.  Every time you see an act of cruelty perform two acts of kindness.