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erinelise2

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #15 on: September 25, 2013, 12:29:47 pm »
I'm sorry. What a mess. Are you sure he really wants them? 

I had a friend years ago who's ex paid child support but had no contact for the first 4 years of her daughter's life. Suddenly he wanted to get involved and see her; have her come visit (they lived in different states).  Turned out he was getting married and wanted to be relieved of child support.  Mom was happy to terminate his rights and support so she didn't have to send her 4 year old off to a total stranger 1000 miles away.

Just the threat of a lawyer might be enough to scare him off.

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« Reply #16 on: September 25, 2013, 05:03:28 pm »
I will pray that this will work out.  I know you are hurting over this situation.  I don't understand people who don't put the welfare of their children first above all else.  And it doesn't sound like this man does that - I hope his motives are pure.   :dontknow:

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« Reply #17 on: September 25, 2013, 06:03:07 pm »
It's so sad that this has to happen.  The boys should have a say in what happens, and I hope you will fight for them all the way. Sorry to say this, but it seems like the one who does the most for them isn't sometimes the one that wins.  I will pray that you will win custody!

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #18 on: September 25, 2013, 07:06:40 pm »
Fight for custody and your argument is just what you stated here. He's not been in a constant in their lives and the kids have made you the mom and dad. You need to get both parents to sign over their rights to you. That may be the hard part.
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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #19 on: September 25, 2013, 07:36:52 pm »
I would try to fight for sole custody. If you can prove he is never around and doesn't even make an effort to be apart of the children's lives than I think you may have a shot at winning.

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #20 on: September 25, 2013, 08:46:44 pm »
It seems to me that if you can prove they have always lived with you, you should get full custody.  And; you should take him to court to raise the amount he pays for child support!

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #21 on: September 25, 2013, 09:07:11 pm »
so sad, children need to be in a familiar place where they can relax and be kids.

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #22 on: September 25, 2013, 09:24:34 pm »
My thoughts are even though the mother is in jail. She still has rights to her kids. You need to get a Lawyer and have the mother sign her rights over to you temporally and then show receipts and other things of how these kids have been with you and have a stable life with you. Good luck! I helped my brother thru this type of thing and no I did not get a thanks but at least he has kids. :) :) :)

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #23 on: September 26, 2013, 12:15:07 am »
I wish you much luck. I really think you are going to have to fight him on this in court!  He probably only wants them so he doesn't have to give the $200 a month.  If they are old enough, they will be asked what they would like.  Let everyone know where you live, maybe someone out there knows a lawyer with a heart.  My child is in college, his father will not give one penny to help with that or with extensive medical bills that he has had this year.  He has a much younger girlfriend who he seems to have plenty of money for.  Much luck, keep us posted.

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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #24 on: September 26, 2013, 03:01:27 am »
You did not mention the ages of the children?  Are they old enough to testify themselves?  That carries  A LOT of weight in court.  Good luck to you. 

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« Reply #25 on: September 26, 2013, 05:00:01 am »
my grandsons are 8 and 10 and the 10 year old wants t stay with me and my husband the 8 year old wants to stay with my parents ,bot are refusing to go to their dads
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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #26 on: November 26, 2013, 04:19:51 pm »
so the boys are gone to their dads now we wait to see if he brings them back monday
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Re: custody ,my daughter went to jail maybe for ten years
« Reply #27 on: November 26, 2013, 05:31:48 pm »
I think that what you said is truth.  I don't think he deserve those children.  Fight for the kid right.  They cannot live with un responsible father like that.  I feel sorry for the most is the kids.  They deserve a better life.  Please keep fight for those kids have a better life.  God bless.

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« Reply #28 on: November 27, 2013, 04:37:41 am »
Do what you can to keep those two precious grandchildren. 

I have a hard time believing the "powers that be" (courts, judges, child agencies, etc) cannot SEE and UNDERSTAND that just because someone fathered children is not a good enough reason to just hand them to the father.....he hasn't been there for them for 8 & 10 years.  What has changed with him?  I would think he would have to prove something has changed. 

Does your daughter still have rights even though she is in jail? 
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« Reply #29 on: November 27, 2013, 04:58:43 am »
so the boys are gone to their dads now we wait to see if he brings them back monday

Special prayers have gone up for you and the boys.  Trust in the Lord.
Have a wonderful day!

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