Do you think this is cheating?

[moonangel]

good for you im happy to read that you are getting your life in order

[Penwoir]

Well I think that if you were finished with one relationship with X, and X definitely knew you were finished, then I don't see that it's any of his business. If however, X believed you were just taking a break but would remain loyal, then it's a problem. I suspect however that you were finished with him and genuinely believed that Y was a better choice. Which begs the question, if X was so right for you, why did you leave him for Y?

[Dynamite2013]

I think X and y are not a good choice and would keep my eyes open for Z because he will be your sole mate. I am telling you from experience because I had an X and a Y similar to yours then one day I met Z and we are truly happy all of the time for the past 24 1/2 married years. I wish you the best and like I said keep your eyes open because your soul mate is out there.

[CharmedPhoenix]

When you break up with someone you're free and what you do is your business.  X has no right to get upset if you saw one person or twenty, it's none of their business.  X owes you an apology since they promised to not bring up your relationship with Y.  Why did you even tell X about Y?  If you were trying to make X jealous you succeeded.  My opinion is you should leave X for good.  You don't deserve the treatment he's giving you.  Move on.  Value yourself.   

[reiddb]

You were not cheating unless you were carrying on before you actually broke it off with X.  Sleeping with someone is not the only way you can cheat on them......say, talking or texting a lot before you broke it off with X would definitely be suspicious of cheating.  Did you start the 'relationship' with Y before you ended it with X?  Starting it, meaning all the talking and stuff....you know if you were legit or not.  Would you want X talking with someone "just friends" behind your back?

[mill8277]

Nope you were not cheating.....sounds like X just want to punish you and make you feel guilty.....Why even tell X, it really was not his business.....

[ilovepatrick]

i wasted many years (25) in a marriage that was not working, after a reasonable attempt you should call it quits and never go back to a relationship once it over because the right one is out there and you cann't find them if you're not looking.

[aflyingmonkey]

It's like that running theme on the television show "Friends"......when Ross kept telling Rachel that "we were on a break" everytime Rachel brings up his going out with another girl when they were broken up briefly.

[jmc1982]

No that is not considered cheating because you guys where not together.  What happens or you do after breaking up with someone is none of their concern.

[jenniferhoder]

I dont' think so. You explained it to him . sounds like HE may not be the right one for you either?
 

[sak4kat]

Sounds like somebody is insecure and enjoys making you doubting yourself. If you weren't in a committed relationship ... than how in the world could you have been cheating?  I think you are in the right and he's just rubbing your face in your actions - that of which didn't involve him... How old is this guy?

[nguzman1]

I don't think that is cheating if you guys breakup  everything that happens after is fair game.

[minioncookies]

This responce may be a day late and a dollar short but to be brutally honest there are always 2 sides to one story.. The fact that you left x for y in the first place weather or not you told him about it he will always see it as cheating because you Elected to leave him For the other person then hop right back on the band wagon and go back to x and amonst doing that admit you had relations with y.. First of all it's almost like you felt guilty for doing it because you told him about it.. Why on god's earth would Go back with x and tell him you had relations with y the guy you left x for.. To me that sounds a little off.. There is something in there that is not making alot of sence.. I can see why he is making you feel miserable for something you did because perhaps you made him feel miserable telling him.. you had relations with a person you left him for... That's almost like adding salt to the wounds.. Not saying you deserve it.. But put yourself into his shoes.. How would you like it if he had and x and a y he left you for y had relations came back to you and told you about the relations with y..  Like someone said it is better to leave some things UNSAID.
On another note i'm glad you  posted a update on your relationship status sounds great hope it lasts and you have a wonderfull life together.. It's amazing what you can do just by simply leaving the past behind you which probably would have been the best option in the first place.. Bless you and your new found relationship.. 

[melissajh44]

In short, no

[babyturtles23]

If you broke up with X to be with Y then it wasn't cheating, BUT how did you know you wanted to be with Y? If you were flirting or emotionally involved with them while you were with X then I would consider that cheating. Not to be mean, but X is a dummy for taking you back. If someone left me, I'd never take them back.