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hollister237

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Do you think this is cheating?
« on: January 30, 2014, 10:16:36 pm »
I was with X for a year and a half, but I broke up with him for Y. I had relations with Y, realized he was not my type, and broke up with Y. Then I went back to X, told him I had relations with Y and X took me back happily, saying that he would never bring up what I did with Y. It has been a month since he took me back, and he brings up what I did with Y every. single. day. He's made me apologize hundreds of times and even made me admit that what I did was cheating. I don't think it was cheating at all because I was not with X at the time. What do you think? :rose:

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2014, 01:00:21 am »
As you explained it, no, it was not.

But it is also obvious that X is not happy with what happened and is not about to forgive and forget. 

There were reasons why you stepped away from X.
If emotional abuse were one of them, then recognize that what you are going through it again. 

If your roles were reversed, and X did what you did, would you feel he had cheated on you?

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2014, 03:46:30 am »
As you explained it, no, it was not.

But it is also obvious that X is not happy with what happened and is not about to forgive and forget. 

There were reasons why you stepped away from X.
If emotional abuse were one of them, then recognize that what you are going through it again. 

If your roles were reversed, and X did what you did, would you feel he had cheated on you?

Great points

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #3 on: January 31, 2014, 04:54:39 am »
What you did after broken up with one person for another should not be an issue because you were not together.

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2014, 10:22:01 am »
As you explained it, no, it was not.

But it is also obvious that X is not happy with what happened and is not about to forgive and forget. 

There were reasons why you stepped away from X.
If emotional abuse were one of them, then recognize that what you are going through it again. 

If your roles were reversed, and X did what you did, would you feel he had cheated on you?

Great points

These are really great points.  I don't think you cheated, but as mentioned above, you should look at the reasons the relationship broke up in the first place ... also, you should tell him to let it go ...  :angel11:

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #5 on: January 31, 2014, 11:36:16 am »
why would you say you cheated when you didnt.  never admit to doing something that you didnt do and dont let x make you feel like you did when you didnt.  i think its time to sit down x and let them know either they get off of your back about y or they will be seeing nothing but the door slamming in their face again.

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #6 on: January 31, 2014, 11:44:34 am »
I don't think it's considered cheating, but if this person is making you apologize for cheating, you don't need them. You don't need to be apologizing over and over to anybody. And remember, if you broke it off with that person one time, then there's a reason and if I were you, I'd run really fast it the other direction!!

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #7 on: January 31, 2014, 12:29:32 pm »
I was with X for a year and a half, but I broke up with him for Y. I had relations with Y, realized he was not my type, and broke up with Y. Then I went back to X, told him I had relations with Y and X took me back happily, saying that he would never bring up what I did with Y. It has been a month since he took me back, and he brings up what I did with Y every. single. day. He's made me apologize hundreds of times and even made me admit that what I did was cheating. I don't think it was cheating at all because I was not with X at the time. What do you think? :rose:
You where broke up with X when you where with Y so that isn't cheating.  X took you back and it shouldn't even be brought up and if X keeps bringing it up that relationship won't last either.  There is no trust issues because you where not together at the time.  Just talk to X and tell X look I want this to work but bring up the pass when we were not together is not helping.  Our relationship started over when we got back together what I did or you did doesn't matter, so lets move on.

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #8 on: January 31, 2014, 12:58:27 pm »
So in other words when you were with Y,X is telling you,OICU!!!

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #9 on: January 31, 2014, 01:38:03 pm »
It is not cheating for sure if you were broken up with X while you were with Y it was not cheating for sure!!!

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #10 on: January 31, 2014, 07:51:14 pm »
No.  You were not "cheating" when you were with Y.  It doesn't sound like X is right for you.  Maybe time to start looking for a Z.

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #11 on: January 31, 2014, 11:10:14 pm »
If u broke up w/x b4 y Ur not cheating cuz u had no relations w/x. U shouldn't feel any guilt in front of x after getting back w/x; he had no business what u did while dating y. Be careful, x is not relationship material if he's treating u that way. It's never good 2rehook up w/an x cuz he knows Ur bagged & u know his. Suggestion, drop x & get 2 know Ur self again. U never know, in the process of soul searching Ur self u might accidentally, trip over z, u know the ONE...mr./ms. Right! It happened to me! :thumbsup:

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #12 on: January 31, 2014, 11:14:52 pm »
That means you didn't cheat if you weren't together!
Opinion: 1) a view, judgment, or appraisal formed in the mind about a particular matter 2) belief stronger than impression and less strong than positive knowledge
This is the internet, learn to let people have opinions. And don't be so sensitive.  8)

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #13 on: February 01, 2014, 07:54:01 am »
No, that's not cheating if you broke up with one before going to the other... however, if you still get grief, leave him again, he's not worth it...

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Re: Do you think this is cheating?
« Reply #14 on: February 01, 2014, 09:11:28 am »
No it's not cheating if you broke up with X then went with Y. But why are you back with X? You should forget about X and Y and be single for awhile and when yo're ready, look for Z.

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