That tiny feeling....

[minioncookies]

Have you ever done something for someone.. or made something for someone and felt so proud of it.. Only for them to be dissapointed.. In which case it makes you feel about this big (-) ugh.. I really hate that feeling.. What do you do to get rid of that feeling?

[moonangel]

many Christmases ago I bought my mom some jars with lids cause she was wanting some at the time and I didn't have very much money ...well story of my life pretty much...any ways she took one look at them and said to me ...you did not buy these for me you  regifted them and I do not want them ..shocked and trying to tell her she was wrong she refused to listen so I took them home and used them myself... you know typing this I just realized that my feelings are still really hurt and its been 25 years ago looks like I need to get rid of some luggage lol

[aggie49]

i agree there's nothing like taking the time to get some one something are to make it and then the person does not like it it hurts your feelings but you don't say anything it bothers you but your to nice to do anything

[sherryinutah]

Some people call that "casting pearls before swine."

It's when the receiver isn't capable of appreciating the gift. 

Different people appreciate different things. 

The larger lesson is that you can usually find ways to "please" yourself; however, if you try to please others...you might miss the mark.

If I know I've done my best...that's all that matters...to me.

[alaskakaren]

I'm not exactly sure.  Maybe right now you may want to do things for yourself to make you feel good...that way you are not looking to others for validation.  You seem like a kind person...I bet before you know it that person you did something nice for will do something nice for you back...the world has a way of evening things out.  Good luck and don't give up on doing kind things...kudos.

[tikihut5]

Yes, I have made things for someone who only complained about the items. I'm not making anything else for that person. I don't have time for that persons' attitude and the stress it brings.

[countrygirl12]

You just have to forget it and go on.  I tried to do a card ministry at the nursing home where my pappaw is.  I feel bad for the ones who are there that do not have any family.  I use to mail cards to some of them especially the ones I communicated with every day.  Sometimes I would get extras like the packages of peeps and take out there and pass out.
I do think a lot of them stuff like that it did mean something but some I don't think it meant anything and that kind of hurt my feelings.  I think if I were in that situation I would like getting stuff no matter who it came from.

I also gave a ton of stuff to my cousin a while back including 2 huge stuff animals.  One a monkey and one a bear.  She let her cat pee on both of them and then she threw them away.  I had the bear since I was a kid and the monkey since I was a teen.  I am still upset that I came them to her kids and she just threw them away. 

[countrygirl12]

many Christmases ago I bought my mom some jars with lids cause she was wanting some at the time and I didn't have very much money ...well story of my life pretty much...any ways she took one look at them and said to me ...you did not buy these for me you  regifted them and I do not want them ..shocked and trying to tell her she was wrong she refused to listen so I took them home and used them myself... you know typing this I just realized that my feelings are still really hurt and its been 25 years ago looks like I need to get rid of some luggage lol

Wow.  I am so sorry.  If somebody wanted to give me something they already had and didn't have any money I would not say anything and would be happy they thought of me.  I can understand your being hurt.  But you are right, you need to let it go.  By holding on to it you are only hurting yourself.  *hugs*

[aflyingmonkey]

many Christmases ago I bought my mom some jars with lids cause she was wanting some at the time and I didn't have very much money ...well story of my life pretty much...any ways she took one look at them and said to me ...you did not buy these for me you  regifted them and I do not want them ..shocked and trying to tell her she was wrong she refused to listen so I took them home and used them myself... you know typing this I just realized that my feelings are still really hurt and its been 25 years ago looks like I need to get rid of some luggage lol

No offense to your mother, but this is why there should be parenting classes in schools.   Just one little action or the wrong words does so much damage to children, people just don't fully understand the long term damage they do.    Parents should never reject their child, it was afterall just a gift, who cares where you got it & even if you did regift it, who cares.   It's nice to be thought of period.

Surround yourself with people who care about you, that is the key. 

[kqa]

My mom has been rather ungrateful for gifts most of her life and she turned 96 yesterday. At least she was appreciative of the little bit we did for her and looked forward to it all day but many times she has said hurtful things about gifts, etc.

[jmc1070]

I have had this happen many times. I just quit trying to do stuff for those people any more. several of those people are no longer a part of my life. After evaluating the relationship/friendship with these people, most I discovered were toxic, and needed to end.