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cateyes1

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4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« on: September 18, 2014, 04:25:57 am »


 Lately, there has been much discussion about violence against women by the men in their life. Many have said there is never a good reason for a man to strike a woman but I disagree and today I am speaking out! I have six sons and I have taught them what my father taught my brothers and I: there are four good reasons for a man to hit the woman he loves;
 1. Fire. If you look over at the woman you love and discover flames have overtaken your girl, you should absolutely knock her to the ground and start rolling her around.
 2. Spider. If your princess discovers a spider wandering across her shoulder and with sheer terror in her voice says “GET. IT. Off! You should smack that 8 legged sucker right off of her.
 3. Choking. If over dinner she begins to laugh at another one of your amazingly funny stories and in the process, lodges a bit of her steak in her throat, you have my full support to yank her out of her chair, spin her around and start squeezing her beneath her rib-cage until she spits up!
 4. Train. If, while enjoying a peaceful, after dinner walk with your lover, you notice she has wandered into the path of a quickly approaching oncoming train, by all means, grab her by her arm and like the strong man you are, yank her backwards aggressively.

 Absent the presence of fire, spiders, choking or trains, dad taught us boys there is never, ever, ever, ever, ever a justifiable reason for a man to strike a woman. Period. He said real men don’t do it. He then added this important definition about being a ‘real man’ which I want to share with all men today;

“Real men don’t allow other men to hit women either.”

I call upon my brothers-in-manhood everywhere to join with me in ZERO TOLERANCE for violence against women. Don’t hit and don’t tolerate hitting. That woman you see getting abused by her “man”, at the club or in the parking lot or even, oh let’s say, an elevator; intervene. Put yourself between the abuser and the victim. Is that dangerous? Could be. But it’s what a real man would do. Always remind yourself when you witness violence on a woman- that is somebody’s mother, daughter or sister.
 Just for the record, it IS your business if you decide to make it your business. In the Dunn household, my sons know we consider the safety of other women, our personal business, whether the abuser likes it or not.
 Lastly, a note to the abused women of the world- do not take one more punch, slap or kick from any man. There is NOTHING that makes it okay. Stop making excuses for him. He is a broken man and needs to be repaired before he is worthy of spending another second in your presence. Insist on it.

 5 Bad Reasons Women Let Men Hit Them;
 1. “He was drunk”. So what? He will be drunk again. And although I have personally never been drunk, I know many people who do occasionally get intoxicated- NONE of them hit their women. Your husband or boyfriend is not NORMAL. Stop trying to convince yourself he is.
 2. “He’s under a lot of stress”. Real men deal with stress by hitting the gym, hitting a golf ball or even hitting the buffet. They do NOT hit women. Stress is not a gateway emotion to violence for healthy, normal men.
 3. “I deserved it”. What???? No. There is nothing you or any woman can do to validate violence against you. Maybe you have done something so bad he leaves you, but violence is not on the list of options for him to choose from when he is upset. NEVER AN OPTION.
 4. “His dad abused his mom. It’s all he knows.” When I hear that statement, it makes me throw up a little in my mouth. So what if he witnessed abuse as a child?? If anything, he knows better than others the hurt and pain that comes from abuse. In life we witness lots of things that are bad but we don’t then go integrate them into our own lives. If your man abuses you because he witness abuse, let him go witness therapy. Let him go witness a support group. Let him go witness life alone without you and the children.
 5. “It was only once. He apologized.” Statistics say that where there is a “first time”, there is a second time. Your response to the “first time” needs to send an incredibly clear message to your “man” that there will be no second time. Send that message so clearly it haunts him. Make a bold statement with action attached. It is the ‘action’ that will signal the level of your seriousness. That might be calling the police, it might be moving out for a week or two, it might be telling him to leave for a week or require immediate counseling. Your words to him after being hit MUST be followed up with immediate action to reinforce the true level of intolerance you have for violence against yourself.

 You might be shocked to learn that someone in your life is an abuser, which means somebody in your life is a victim. Rather than guessing who it might be, just share this article with everyone so it reaches the ones who need to hear it most.
 Abusers, be on notice- I’m watching. My sons are watching. And millions of other real men are watching. We WILL defend and protect your wife, your mother and your sister….even from you.


I hope that this will open someone's eyes and know that it is not ok to be abused!!...hugs to you all!!

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #1 on: September 18, 2014, 06:33:21 am »
Excellent article or post I should say.  I agree with pretty much 100% of what I read

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #2 on: September 18, 2014, 06:38:01 am »
This was perfectly stated.  hugs right back!

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #3 on: September 18, 2014, 09:39:39 am »
i have few works for this a man should never hit a woman and if they do there not a man there monster that all i say what a topic

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #4 on: September 18, 2014, 09:50:15 am »
I agree with the very long post and have nothing I can add to it.

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #5 on: September 18, 2014, 11:10:46 am »
Or...

In self defense, ONLY....If his life is in imminent danger and there's no other option (she charged him with a knife or other deadly object) but...ONLY if the woman was the sole aggressor and only if she wasn't in fact defending herself against the man who attacked first...That's the ONLY time a man should use physical force on a woman.

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #6 on: September 18, 2014, 12:58:34 pm »
I like this!!

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #7 on: September 18, 2014, 01:07:07 pm »
If a woman confronts me with any type of weapon, I will defend myself by any means necessary. Hitting someone for no apparent reason it's not acceptable.

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #8 on: September 18, 2014, 01:35:23 pm »
For all the "reasons" you have stated I WOULD AGREE but NOT FOR ANY OTHER!!!!

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #9 on: September 18, 2014, 02:20:20 pm »
Cateyes, there is not much more I can say, I think you said it all and said it correctly.  The only reason I can see is IF your life is in danger, but that would be the only exception.  Thank you for a beautiful article.
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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #10 on: September 18, 2014, 03:07:58 pm »
Thank you for the great article and Fusion cash for printing it or putting on the forum. You made some very good points. Too bad my ex did not see this or read it. Yes I am an abused woman. But think God I did not stay with him. And I had a lot of family too back me up. I wish with all my heart that not one woman or child would not have to put with men hitting them or women hitting the child.  What a nice world it would be.

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #11 on: September 18, 2014, 07:02:16 pm »
i think you frogotten one & thats self defense.
A women can be just as harm inflicting just the same as a man (of couse most cases are against men for abuse but there are such cases where women had abused men)

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #12 on: September 18, 2014, 07:30:09 pm »
Exactly...thanks for sharing!

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #13 on: September 18, 2014, 09:03:02 pm »
I read this post because the title was intriguing but those are all very weird options i have to say but i guess i agree with you.

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Re: 4 Good Reasons For A Man To Hit A Woman
« Reply #14 on: September 18, 2014, 09:59:20 pm »
WELL SAID.   Of course, there are exemptions to every rule.
 

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