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kingozzy

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Broken up
« on: December 12, 2014, 07:23:27 am »
What is the best way to move on and get over the end of a relationship?

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2014, 07:58:55 am »
Keep yourself busy with moving on. Maybe take up a new hobby that you have thought about in the past, keep yourself busy with friends and family and don't dwell on the past. Look to the future and all the great possibilities ahead of you! Good Luck, I have been there and it can be very difficult, but with time you can do it. Stay positive my friend, and when you least expect it, that special someone will arrive in your life, just don't be in any hurry for a new one.  :rainbow:

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #2 on: December 12, 2014, 09:02:44 am »
I don't have a lot of first hand experience, but I would recommend redirecting you attention from your own hurt (which is real) to serving those w/ significant needs. Getting outside of ourselves helps a lot of different hurts.

Jumping right into a new relationship in order to fill that hole would be the worst thing. I am a marriage therapist and I have seen that NOT work many times.
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Re: Broken up
« Reply #3 on: December 12, 2014, 10:39:58 am »
There is no miracle. You just have to go through your grieving period. It happens to everyone. But remember, in time, you will think way differently than you do right now. In the mean time, go out, have fun but do not try and get involved with anyone at this point.

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #4 on: December 12, 2014, 10:55:09 am »
What is the best way to move on and get over the end of a relationship?

It probably depends on the seriousness and length of the relationship. If it was a short one that wasn't a huge deal to begin with, it will be easier and quicker to get over by just focusing more on yourself, friends, work, family, etc. If it was a long-term relationship you were very much so invested in... that takes some grieving and healing. :heart:

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #5 on: December 12, 2014, 11:09:29 am »
What is the best way to move on and get over the end of a relationship?

Look forward to what your future has in store.  When one door closes, another one opens.  Don't dwell on the past, we can't change it.  It is what it is.  Most of all, don't blame yourself or try to figure out what or why things went wrong.  If your partner couldn't be honest enough to tell you, they're not worth your time.  Keep moving, there's a whole world out there and it's waiting just for YOU.

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #6 on: December 12, 2014, 10:21:15 pm »

   Remember the good times and move on.

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #7 on: December 14, 2014, 06:38:53 am »
Agree with lots of these tips

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #8 on: December 15, 2014, 06:59:56 pm »
always go forward in life ...dont ever go backwards

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #9 on: December 16, 2014, 05:59:35 am »
Hold your head high and seek things/people that you enjoy.
Have a wonderful day!

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #10 on: December 16, 2014, 07:04:59 am »
I agree with the stay busy concept.  Also I'd suggest getting involved in the community.  A good church that has established missions so you can jump into being a part of a new relationship.  A healthy relationship for that matter.

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #11 on: December 16, 2014, 07:20:54 am »
Keep busy. Remember the good times. Know that someone better will come along, but don't actively seek him. Take your time.

Read all these forum posts. Sounds like we've all come out of some sort of relationship that didn't last forever. Only the good ones last forever.  :heart:

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #12 on: December 16, 2014, 07:58:47 am »
I don't think there is a "best way".  My advice, for what it's worth, is make sure to deal and acknowledge your emotions as they happen.  Breaking up is a lot like grieving and people experience different emotions at different times in different ways during the process so trying to deal with them as they surface seems like the best idea to me.

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Re: Broken up
« Reply #13 on: December 16, 2014, 10:50:24 am »
Make sure you do for YOU! Keep yourself involved with things that keep you busy or do something special for yourself. Never lose your way. I had a friendship end recently for stupid reasons and basically the other person chose to end it because she was ashamed of what she did, so I set a goal and focused on that goal and NOW I have achieved that goal, 4 months later! It's all in your mind and you can control your destiny! Their loss anyway! :)
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Re: Broken up
« Reply #14 on: December 16, 2014, 11:01:14 am »
Unfriend them on Facebook and/or any social media & don't "stalk" them on the internet, it will drive you crazy.
Cut all ties with them completely, at least at first. 

Not saying you do this, but I see it happening to the youth of today with all the social media access, & I see the continual heartbreak it creates & maintains.  Best to let go, even though it is hard; to allow time to grieve the end of the relationship. 

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