Horrible family members?

[BOSSLADYNELLY]

Im 23yrs old and i had to cut off my grandma and the way i see it we ain't never going to be family or close again. Im not going to go into it but i always wanted that gramdmotherly Love but i guess that was to much to ask for because i didn't get that. It hurts that my grandma would do that to someone thats family. Its not fair that i have to be the one sorry when i did nothing wrong. 

[PGS28]

YES!! I always say I have the type of family you have to stay away from in order to be happy. They are fake and will lie on you and drag your name in some stuff that has nothing to do with you. Some I stay completely away from and some I just speak to and keep it moving.

[PGS28]

I'm not encouraging unforgiveness or hatred, You don't have to hold hatred but it's perfectly fine to love someone from a distance, and very necessary if them being in your life means chaos

[alice44]

Fortunately I haven't had to do this.  Family is so important, I can't imagine how you must feel.

[countrygirl12]

Yes I have finally had to cut myself off from a grandson who has ripped me off for thousands of dollars.  If he would apply himself to writing for TV he would do well as I was stupid enough to believe all of his stories.  He is a heroin addict and I was a fool.

I am sorry about your grandson. My family member is an alcoholic and lies as easily as she breathes. She has destroyed relationships I had with other family members, lied about money issues, slandered my name because I won't support her lying, and refuses to admit she needs help. I just can't continue with her, if she won't get help, and she won't.

When I was younger I had a cousin who lied all the time.  Her parents believed everything she said.  She told some stuff on me when I was in my early 20's.  Her parents would not speak to my family for years and there was a problem with me being around their kids.  Although I never knew what she told.  Then they found out she is a habitual liar and everything was okay.  Never did know what she told on me.  I am guessing I never will.  Would like to though.

[6265AT99]

thankfully I have not had to "cut the ties" but I can definitely relate since I too have experienced such behavior.  Just remember you have done the right thing - the only way for a drug addict or alcoholic to get better is to first ADMIT they have a problem and second be willing to do whatever it may take to change it.  Praying I find helps.  Good luck.

[vickysue]

I have a sister who is not the best of people but thinks she is the only on who knows anything and I hate it when she comes back into town for a couple of weeks at a time. She lives in Alaska. I spend at least once a day out at dads helping him, buy his groceries and make sure all meds are up to date, laundry and make sure he always gets to where he  has to go. Cook meals for him. then she comes in and it all goes to he** in a hurry. She will lie about everything to make her self look good and that I am a bad person. He had a bad leak in his house and had been with my brother in texas. Well I don't know how  it leaked but the wood flooring was all ruined and I got on the phone with the insurance co. and go it all done and he already had a check for repairs in his account and she told everyone that she had to come down and straighten it out. And on it goes. Lots of horror stories. I love her but cannot stand her. She even made a play for my husband but now he sees the light.

[bigfoot951]

I am at the point with a couple of different family members where that could easily be the end result.  Don't let people from the outside effect your decision.  You know what is going on with you, and only you know what is best.

[SherylsShado]

There's someone I had to cut off because they had a toxic effect on me.  If I knew in advance I had to go anywhere or be around them, I would dread the upcoming event so much that I would get depressed, anxious, crabby with others, over eat, get nauseous & dreadfully sick, suicidal.... until the event was over.  When life would be so much better if someone wasn't in it----it's time to move on & NEVER look back.

[sherryinutah]

I don't necessarily have a horrible family member; but I'm very careful about who I interact with.  I love being alone and I won't interact with someone I don't trust. 

Also, just because we're related to someone doesn't mean we have to tolerate negative behavior.   

[PGS28]

My middle sister and I aren't talking and I miss her, but I won't excuse her unacceptable behavior. I'll be glad when she comes to her senses and apologizes so we can move on, but then again what she did was so horrible my baby sister may still not forgive her. This is horrible but I can't knowingly allow toxicity in my life or around my kids.

[moonangel]

the day my wife told her family that she was in a wheelchair was the last time we saw heard or even talked to them now that shes looking at surgery to hopefully get her to walking again we are trying to figure out what path to take with her family?? any suggestions

[kcetna]

the day my wife told her family that she was in a wheelchair was the last time we saw heard or even talked to them now that shes looking at surgery to hopefully get her to walking again we are trying to figure out what path to take with her family?? any suggestions

That is just horrible. How can anyone do that to their own family. All I can say is, try to sit down with them to talk things out. I think the wheelchair shouldn't matter, especially because it's family. They should've been there for the both of you. Good luck if you guys decide to do the surgery.

[teenangel]

yes I had to cut off ties with my brother because he caused so much trouble with me and my mother

[nmbrown863]

I have had to cut off my older brother for so many reasons. I have not talked to him in almost 5 years. I think he may be skitzophrenic. Took my lug nuts off my tires, called my job a few years back and my other sibling jobs and made up lies trying to get us fired, there is just so much he has done to us. I usually get sucked back in though b/c I feel bad for him but I am trying to stand my ground this time. I do not need all of that in my life.