Is there Someone You are Trying to get back?

[killers2]

I find myself thinking about this girl literally ALL the time!  We met when we were attending the same college but she had been planning on transferring.  I kind of thought it just a fling at first but caught major feelings, but I think in order to keep that true connection from taking over I ended things before I thought I could get hurt.  When she'd contact me after that I'd ignored her at times and I think I was only doing this because I hated the idea of not being with her, or if I had decided to be with her having to worry about her all the time at a different school.  But in that time I ignored her it really hurt her and she had tried to move on and I think would have been fine where it ended, or at least got used to that idea.  But recently I've been contacting her because I can't get it out of my head.  I've had to keep trying and she doesn't really understand my change of wanting to see her.  I miss her as a good friend on that basis, but also have obvious feelings for more.  Is there someone in your life you are trying to get back girlfriend/boyfreind/friend/wife/husband/brother/sister/etc. and do you think it is worth seeking out you're feelings you have even though a lot of time has past, or in some cases do you need to force yourself to move on?

[dreamyxo]

I'd love to get back together with an ex I regret breaking up with.  I guess he's still married.

[fillfran82]

Hello. Well there is this guy I met over the summer. We hanged out we had fun. At one time he wanted me and I wanted him. But when he asked about how I feel about him? I lied and said there was nothing there when there was. Since he left I've been regretting that decision. But there was a valid reason why I lied about my feelings for him. I have and still have a boyfriend. And as you can imagine that complicates things. So I can relate to your story. It's very difficult to know wither you should move on or not. That's a decision that your heart have to make. Sometimes you want to move on but your heart doesn't want to move on. That's the case with me. I desperately want to forget him. Since he has forgotten about me. But to no avail I keep thinking about him. I have fallen in love with him. But sadly he no longer feels the same. Which is partly my fault. I can't be mad at him. So my advice to you is follow your heart. Maybe she's the one. 

[countrygirl12]

No.  Anyone who is in my past is there for a reason.

[linderlizzie]

Trying to hold on to the past is painful and fruitless. Find someone who feels the same way as you. You can't change someone else's feelings.

Life is too short to grieve. It will hurt at first, but later you'll be glad you moved on. 

[lguzman1]

It is not that I want to get him back, but I always think of my first love. We were close to each other always laughing at things we did. His family and he would come over and play Sorry with my family. He didn't know I like him and I didn't know he like me either. I found out when I was already married. I think what would have been if we had gotten married or what has he done with his life. I see his sister that has remain a good friend and she tells me that he gotten married 2 times and he's ok; that is all I know.

[svetka05]

I met someone when I was still in technical school about 7-8 years ago. It started out as a friendship but then turned into a flirtatious relationship on and off. We found each other online. At that time I was confused and scared where this relationship is going so I ended it and tried to move one. I met a good guy in my occupation course in that school and tried to move on pass my first relationship. But all this time I had him in my mind and I realized I still have feelings for this man but I didn't know if it was worth looking him up finding how he is doing after 7 years has passed. About a month ago I was checking my Facebook and noticed a message in my inbox. It was from him. I wrote him back and since found out that all this time he had been thinking of me and trying to get a hold of me. We both have moved on and have our own families. And we both know things cannot be changed now. But he still wants us to meet....Iam not sure what to make of this...

[darkxtsuna]

I would enjoy getting back with my ex and such but I always try not to get my hopes up =[.

[mrisha]

No, the boat has sunk.  Have never wanted someone after the thrill is gone and all feelings for that person has disappeared.

[kingozzy]

Yes man I think there is always that "one that got away" for everyone.  All I know is if you love her and you don't try and go after her you will regret it later on, if it doesn't work at least you know you tried and then you can move on without that in the back of your mind.

[Nancy5]

I met and fell in love with a guy I met in school, we were both 20 and in the same college.  We dated all through school and planned to be together forever.  After we graduated he got a job in Texas (i got a job in New York).  They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, not in our case, I think it was out of sight out of mind.  I later met my husband fell in love and got married.  I transfered back to PA and we raised our family here.  I am happy and so in love with my husband, but sometimes wonder how and where he is.

[countrygirl12]

Yes man I think there is always that "one that got away" for everyone.  All I know is if you love her and you don't try and go after her you will regret it later on, if it doesn't work at least you know you tried and then you can move on without that in the back of your mind.

I disagree.  There was not "one that got away" for me.  I figure it is the same with most people.  If I were the girl the OP were referring to I would not give him the time of day.  If a guy was mean to me and ignored me and hurt me then come around a few years later and wanted to do it again I would send him packing in a hurry.  I honestly do not know how your feelings can change for a person you have not seen in a year or more.  People change and if you are not there to see the change then you really have no idea how you feel about them.  And over time everyone changes.  But if you are with someone all the time you do not realize the changes so much.

[holmesch22]

Naw!!!!!!!!!!! I caught him and married him yeaaaaaaaah

[patapon555]

Not really. I can forgive certain people in my life, but others are better off outside of my life

[catchow]

someone said "Trying to hold on to the past is painful and fruitless." that pretty much somes it up

If you find someone new, then you wont think about someone old