Breakup

[kingozzy]

I recently broke it off with my girlfriend, what is the best way to move on and try not to think about her all day long?

[Nancy5]

Who broke up with who? If you did, then you must have had a good reason so keep that in mind and you should be fine.  If she did the breaking up, I know it hurts but it does get better.  Go out with your friends, keep busy, maybe ask some of your friends to fix you up.  Just remain positive, it does get better.  Good Luck!

[carolhall1031]

Everything in life takes time.  I know this from experience.  Each day will get a little easier.  Just be patient.  If it was for the best, it will all work out.

[JaniceSW]

From someone much older and with experience, time will be on your side.  Give it time and try to be patient.  In the meantime, keep yourself as busy as possible.  Wear yourself out.  Get an extra job, do extra chores, enroll in a class, spend more time with friends, whatever!  Also, don't listen to the music you two liked or go to the places you used to go together.  For a while, avoid them!  Keep either your hands or your mind busy...hopefully together.  If you have to, pick a particular time and write your feelings in a journal each day.  Get it out on paper.  Read it, then close the page until the next day.  What often happens after a breakup is we remember the good things about the person and the good times.  Don't forget what broke you up.  There were reasons.  Maybe these are things to learn from...but do it once you are over the worst of it.

[moonangel]

refuse to even think about her   do things to keep yourself busy

[kingozzy]

Thanks for all the advice!!  Much appreciated!

[6265AT99]

Well, that depends of course on you.  A break up can be traumatic especially if you've been together for a longer period of time and have really "been there" for each other but, on the other hand, if it was just a "casual" relationship, I say do things that will take your mind off of it and things that you enjoy mostly.  Good luck.

[loulizlee]

As an older person who has been through a lot of life's experiences, I think there is a wealth of good advice here.  Good luck and may your next relationship be what you need.  Which reminds me, take your time about trying to get into that next relationship.  Don't jump into it too soon.

[sherryinutah]

It's important that you get "mentally" busy by reading a book that interests you or getting lost in video games, etc.

I'm guessing you had a good reason to walk away from the relationship...so focus on the advantages...of the relationship being done, and over.

 

[metsrock69]

i never had that experience personally since i always dated more than one female at a time until the time i was married

[jenniferhoder]

Find other friends to keep you busy. You will find someone else- somebody that you are meant to stay with!!!

[LaTashaS28]

Keep yourself busy so you won't think about her as much. It will take some time, but you will find someone else that you will like.

[ricdsm]

I have absolutely no idea.  I've been married 37 years. It has been a long time since my last break up.  I'm sure it is unpleasant.

[kingozzy]

Yes I do plan on taking my time getting into the next one.  I also will try to take it slower next time around.  This one moved pretty fast and furious

[colbtrist]

I say try to make new friends, go out and find something you are interested in. Spend time learning who you are and what you want for the future.