What are the most important things to discuss before you marry someone?

[aflyingmonkey]

Money
Seems to be the biggest issue in failed marriages.

I think most of those questions get answered in the "dating" period, whether by having the direct conversation or by seeing how they are as a person.  Hopefully they are presenting their true self while you're dating...   not everyone does

[aggie49]

i would have to say god 1st but i would live together for a while and see what happens i did this because i was always told you don't someone till you live with them and it is true but you also have to think about are you really in love do you feel your partner is your soul mate

[countrygirl12]

EVERYTHING.  Leave no stone unturned.  Marriage is a big step and before you get married you need to KNOW the person.  Of course in this day and age people marry and then if they disagree in 2 months they just go get a divorce and repeat the process.

[hitch0403]

There is NO replacement for Love & Loyalty!

Marrying in the TRUTH of the TRUE God wont hurt you either!You can learn all about HIM in the bible and see HIS name at Psalms 83:18!

[melissajh44]

Finances is the first thing to come to mind. Isn't money the #1 cause of divorce? I think I read that somewhere.

[Cbsteffen]

That's a very good question. I think you could discuss education, finance, and decency with personal life, or just anything you yourself enjoy.

[JediJohnnie]

I imagine Religion is the key one. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked.

Having children and how you plan to raise them is probably as important.

[dizzybird]

Wow-this could go on forEVER!! I would suggest you discuss any and everything you feel should be discussed. Take your time and have lots of long honest talks about absolutely everything. My experience is that the minute the rings go on, expectations change. Discuss what each of you thinks your life will be as well as what you want it to be whenever you get home from the honeymoon and well beyond that.

[gaby_ro_2004]

Religion,finances,kids,respect,whose house to live after the wedding....

[moonangel]

honestly i cant think of any thing to not talk about

[moon29]

i would have to say your plans for the future.  how many kids do you want do you want to stay home with them how that will logistically work. 

[Penwoir]

Yowza, that's a good question! First and foremost you have to discuss what your family plans are. For  instance, how many kids do you plan on having, when do you plan on starting a family, are there any major plans for anything you'd like to check off your bucket list before you start your family. What religion do you want to bring your kids up in. Then there are financial discussions. For instance, you need to agree on how the finances are spent, how much do you agree to save, what kind of retirement plans do you wish to set in stone. Will one of you work while the other one stays at home to bring up the family and which one of you will do that. How will you share the household chores. Basically, the more you talk early on, the less chance there are for disagreements later on in the relationship.

[BMaston12]

I've been reading The 10 Most Important Conversations To Have Before You Get Married. There's good advice in there but I'm wondering what you married Fusioncashers think is important to talk about before making such a huge commitment?

First of all, you have to find out if you can live with their faults. Going into a marriage thinking that you can change the person into your perfect mate is unrealistic. Some things will improve and some thing will remain the same. Can you live with that for the rest of your life? BMaston12