sometimes people

[potluck6]

just don't say whats on their mind.See now my sons friend has a sister who is 21 her boyfriend is 42.He is a nice guy and handsome but 20 years older.He is divorced with 2 kids i think.They met at a job which she doesn't have anymore. Feel like i can gossip here about this but i suppose its none of my business .I think this is her first real boyfriend and oh they smoke weed together ok i'll shut up now.

[cateyes1]

Just curious, why did you feel you needed to share that?

[tfw6693]

  My wife is 10 years older than me. We have been married 44 years. When I married her, I had been divorced 3 years. We had to wait until her divorce was final before we could marry. She also had 3 kids, ages 9, 10, & 11. My Mom and Aunts said it would never last.

Not only has it lasted, it was the best thing to ever happen to me. She feels the same way. We also adopted 4 kids. Now everyone is grown and gone, we are old, but what a joyful and blessed ride through life it has been.

[cateyes1]

My wife is 10 years older than me. We have been married 44 years. When I married her, I had been divorced 3 years. We had to wait until her divorce was final before we could marry. She also had 3 kids, ages 9, 10, & 11. My Mom and Aunts said it would never last.

Not only has it lasted, it was the best thing to ever happen to me. She feels the same way. We also adopted 4 kids. Now everyone is grown and gone, we are old, but what a joyful and blessed ride through life it has been.

I'm glad it last for you My Mom tried to talk me out of marring my 1st husband and I sooooo wish I listened to her...I love you Mom and I'm sorry I didn't listen

[Penwoir]

I think part of the problem is that, when you are young, you don't see any problem with dating a much older guy. However when you are an older mom with kids of your own, you wonder what on earth a young girl could have in common with a much older guy. It seems a lopsided relationship because she is starting off with her adult life and he has already lived half of his. I would imagine they will find it difficult, she will want to go out and have a lively time whereas he will probably want to stay home and appreciate the quieter things in life. Then what happens when she is 30 and he 50? Or when she is 40 and he is 60? Is is unlikely to workout really, in my opinion, however you can't tell someone it won't work, you have to let them live their life and they will come to their own conclusions. What you can do is support them and be there if/when they need you.

[BlackSheepNY]

just don't say whats on their mind.See now my sons friend has a sister who is 21 her boyfriend is 42.He is a nice guy and handsome but 20 years older.He is divorced with 2 kids i think.They met at a job which she doesn't have anymore. Feel like i can gossip here about this but i suppose its none of my business .I think this is her first real boyfriend and oh they smoke weed together ok i'll shut up now.

Well, not for nothing, but this one I can't see lasting for years on end.  He's WAY older than her and at this point, I would think the guy is spending some money on her because let's face it, 20 somethings love it when you give, give, give.  The other thing is, I don't know too many 21 year olds that want to take care of kids, especially if they're someone else's kids.  The second someone her own age comes along that she may be attracted to, she'll be outta there like a Jackrabbit.  On the other hand, he being attracted to her is only because she's "young," in every sense of the word.  Young people can be "molded," young people can be "taken advantage of," and yes, young people have "nice bodies."

[dwggs]

You never know .. it may work for them ... My boyfriend of 13 years is 14 years younger than me and it has worked out in spite of this mom not liking the age difference.

We still laugh and have fun just like the day we met.

[lbeery]

I find I agree with PEnwoir (who by the way sounds a very sensible and thoughtful person) I do know couples with that kind of an age difference who have made long lasting and seemingly good marriages.  My father in law was one - they have been married 48 years.  His wife, whom we love, is 17 years younger than her husband.

[countrygirl12]

I think part of the problem is that, when you are young, you don't see any problem with dating a much older guy. However when you are an older mom with kids of your own, you wonder what on earth a young girl could have in common with a much older guy. It seems a lopsided relationship because she is starting off with her adult life and he has already lived half of his. I would imagine they will find it difficult, she will want to go out and have a lively time whereas he will probably want to stay home and appreciate the quieter things in life. Then what happens when she is 30 and he 50? Or when she is 40 and he is 60? Is is unlikely to workout really, in my opinion, however you can't tell someone it won't work, you have to let them live their life and they will come to their own conclusions. What you can do is support them and be there if/when they need you.

Not necessarily.  I never wanted to go out and party and have a lively time.

[tgreen20]

Age shouldn't matter, my fiance is wayyyy younger then me.....I have faith

[jcalexis]

As long as they love each other; I think it is fine. I hope the man did not offer her a lot of money to be with him. If this the case, then it is not love.

[potluck6]

they are still together i see facebook posts .Hope it does wrk out.

[SherylsShado]

Sometimes people treat others the way they themselves wish to be treated...
If people can't say anything nice, then they shouldn't say anything at all...
Not everyone enjoys gossip...

Just a few reasons why sometimes people just don't say what's on their mind.

[AnnaKiki]

LOL, that is hilarious! My father was 20 and a half years older than my Mom. I always hated it when I was young. My Dad looked great for his age, no one ever knew h was 26 and that's probably why I don't like that idea. As far as the weed goes, my husband smokes it like he's stupid! I am ear younger than one him and I wouldn't think of smoking it!

[champak97]

Sometimes people make decisions, that they later repent for! It is all part of life.