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sgluckadoo

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Sun dresses at a funeral?
« on: June 30, 2016, 10:01:21 am »
Maybe it is just me, but when did it become okay to wear short dresses (inches above the knee) or sundresses and off the shoulder dresses to a funeral?? I didn't even think you were really supposed to wear bright colors much less big wedge sandals and spaghetti strap fit and flare dresses meant for the lake. And, these are not even young adults pulling off these looks at recent funerals I attended, these are adults ranging from 30s to 50s?

I also noticed men wearing dress shorts and polos. I get not wearing a suit when it is hot but still, that seems very dressed down to me.

Have things changed?

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #1 on: June 30, 2016, 10:08:44 am »
I don't think so, but now a day people wear whatever they want anywhere even if it is not the norm

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #2 on: June 30, 2016, 11:12:44 am »
I agree ... if you are going to a funeral have some respect dress nice

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2016, 11:14:05 am »
Yes, things have changed and not for the better.  It seemes like all respect and the rules of etiquette have gone out the window.

In my local area, they still do respect some things, like not wearing white after Labor Day, still wear dresses to church or decent dress suits (women), and men wear dress pants and shirts if they don't wear a dress jacket. For viewings and funerals, it's sleeves and muted colors. slacks or dresses, nothing "neon," large and loud flowers or designs, flats or heels, and the men still wear slacks and dress shirts. A lot of the men still wear ties out of respect.

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #4 on: June 30, 2016, 02:25:55 pm »
Things have really changed. It's too it has....

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #5 on: June 30, 2016, 04:38:05 pm »
I have a friend that recently wore a Hawaiian shirt to my mom's funeral.
It didn't bother me.
But... he is Hawaiian so....

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #6 on: June 30, 2016, 07:34:32 pm »
unless your are for sale dont advertise. Have respect for your self and others.

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #7 on: June 30, 2016, 08:06:02 pm »
People in general don't know how to dress for formal occasions any more.  I had a friend die young (25) and some of her friends and relatives dressed like they were going to a club.  Sure they wore black but these were definite club dresses not any kind of formal black attire. 

In my family (culture) we wear white to funerals but we definitely dress appropriately. 

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #8 on: June 30, 2016, 08:57:14 pm »
I agree, sun dresses should not be worn at a funeral.

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #9 on: June 30, 2016, 09:31:19 pm »
People don't seem to care about things anymore. Anything goes nowadays.


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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #10 on: June 30, 2016, 09:39:02 pm »
I think it not good to wear whatever you want at the wedding or funeral.  I think it would be respect for the people who invited you.

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #11 on: June 30, 2016, 09:39:30 pm »
I do agree with you about inappropriate dresswear for a funeral. Out of respect one should be formally clothed and usually this is done in dark colored clothing. Having said that, if my funeral was tomorrow, I would want everyone to wear sunny clothes which brighten everyone's spirit. I just wonder if someone has made a similar request in the case of the funeral you went to.

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #12 on: July 29, 2016, 08:49:30 am »
I do agree with you about inappropriate dresswear for a funeral. Out of respect one should be formally clothed and usually this is done in dark colored clothing. Having said that, if my funeral was tomorrow, I would want everyone to wear sunny clothes which brighten everyone's spirit. I just wonder if someone has made a similar request in the case of the funeral you went to.

I would want everyone to eat chocolate cake at mine, lol.

No, it was an elderly male who died and it was his wifes nieces primarily who dressed like they were clubbing or going to the beach.

It has been a long time since I went to a funeral, I tend to avoid them and just send flowers, but this one was a must-go. I think it is what many people said on this post, anything seems to go, even when many of us "know better".

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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #13 on: July 29, 2016, 08:54:21 am »
Times have changed as far as dress codes for funerals but you gotta give them credit for showing up to pay their respects no matter how they are dressed.
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Re: Sun dresses at a funeral?
« Reply #14 on: July 29, 2016, 10:16:55 am »
I think the important focus should be on the person who passed away and their immediate loved ones. Out of respect I typically wear something that is modest and all black. I'm not opposed to a sun dress in warmer climates but there are plenty of modest, black sundresses.

If what you are wearing is to show respect/honor the person who passed that is most important. My husband's great aunt passed away recently and she was so full of life and requested everyone celebrate and wear yellow in her honor and we all did. It was so nice.

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