My girlfriend is cheating!

[Nancy5]

One of my friends (thank God not one of my best friends) told me last night she is having an affair with a co worker.  She's married to a great guy and a friend of ours.  I don't want to tell him, but I can't stand she is making a fool of him.  She told me she is not planning on leaving her husband, she 'loves' him, but is bored and wants excitement.  Honestly what should I do?  I'm leaning on nit saying anything.

[sherryinutah]

It's important to stay out of it as much as possible.  She's in the process of creating her own drama by participating in a triangle and it's not in your best interest to be involved.

 

[gaylasue]

I would re-think the friendship....  I wouldn't say anything to the husband.  It will all come out eventually.

[snuggleycutejc]

  everyone is in danger

[mrsmere]

Stay out of it because he might not even believe you.  When it finally comes to light they will blame you and your name will be a dirty word and they will probably stay together.

[debidoo]

Oh my goodness why would she tell you that to begin with?  It seems like she is wanting you to say something to him regardless of what she said.  I don't know what her motivation was to have this conversation with you.  I think it would have been interesting had you said I think I should tell him.  It isn't right that he is in the dark that isn't how marriage is supposed to work.  I am at a loss as to what you should do because if he finds out you knew he is going to probably be upset you didn't tell him.  Whew she sure put you in a spot.

[braggin]

I think it is not your business to tell the husband, but you might mention to your friend the wife that what she is doing makes you uncomfortable and you think she should rethink what she is doing here. Even apart from the fact that she is disrespecting her husband, she is taking the chance of ruining her job advancement prospects if word gets around about the work romance.

[catchow]

Wowzers

If you dont tell him and he finds out, then he finds out you knew for awhile, your the bad guy
If you tell him your the bad guy in your friends eye
If you drop him a note unsigned, she will think its you, as she told you, and might not of anyone else

I definitely would have a go at your friend telling her you do NOT appreciate being thrown into all this


However if hes a better friend of yours then she is, I would tell him I think, then just drop her as a friend

[linderlizzie]

One of my friends (thank God not one of my best friends) told me last night she is having an affair with a co worker.  She's married to a great guy and a friend of ours.  I don't want to tell him, but I can't stand she is making a fool of him.  She told me she is not planning on leaving her husband, she 'loves' him, but is bored and wants excitement.  Honestly what should I do?  I'm leaning on nit saying anything.

Nothing you can say will help anyway. Don't bother getting involved in the mess.

I hope you expressed your extreme disappointment to your friend, however, and told her that she can keep her exploits to herself as you're not interested in hearing about how badly she's hurting her husband, who is also your good friend.

[Jayce2013]

I think he should know, but it should be her to tell him... not someone else!!!
It is hard.... women cheat on men....
and how many husbands cheat on their wives??? A LOT.... sometimes it is for fun... sometimes it is some serious things... like sex addiction....

It is something that needs to be solved (or not) within the couple. Honesty comes first... if you can survive cheating you can survive almost everything.
If you can forgive or better try to UNDERSTAND your partner... things are going to be fine!

Some people stay together and keep loving each others, some other people can't get over it and need to separate...
but HONESTY, even when it hurts, is the most important thing.. EVER!!!

[vickysue]

I would distance my self from her as fast as i could, because  you do not want to be dragged into this mess.  Now that   he/she told you and and you have not told the husband  she will thing your on her side if something goes wrong,  I can tell you if and when the husband is ready to  figure it out he will.  I had people telling me about my husband when he was cheating (which i had already figured out) I would just tell them i don't want to hear what  they had to say.  Because i did not want to slip up and tell them i was already planning on leaving. Figure  once i got all of my ducks in a row and left they would find out. Just did not need the stress.

[freedavis]

I would suggest moving on fro anyone who cheats

[amyDAST]

One of my friends (thank God not one of my best friends) told me last night she is having an affair with a co worker.  She's married to a great guy and a friend of ours.  I don't want to tell him, but I can't stand she is making a fool of him.  She told me she is not planning on leaving her husband, she 'loves' him, but is bored and wants excitement.  Honestly what should I do?  I'm leaning on nit saying anything.

If you do not want to tell the husband who is a friend of yours (as you said) Then tell your cheating friend that you will not stand for what she is doing & stop communicating with her. I have never had any respect for a person who can cheat on a spouse. When I was going through a hard time after school I lived with a couple of girlfriends that I had known for years. One of them was having relations with a married man but what made it worse is it was a friend of all of ours husband. When my friend who was having the relations told me she was not going to stop I went to our mutual girlfriend to let her know. The way I look at it is I would rather be hated then have such a heartbreak that destroys people weighing on my friendships let alone soul. Long story short, the EX- wife & I still have a great relationship while our friend who decided to hurt everyone has tried to stay in contact & apologies but words mean nothing when actions proved so much.

[JediJohnnie]

Yeah, I agree with the consensus here that you ought not get involved, but I would distance myself from this person as much as possible.

[cateyes1]

All i'm going to say is, years ago my husband was cheating on me and I wish someone told me