i sat my girls down to tell tem aboutmy tumor being back

[aggie49]

i told them both and now i am tring to get my oldest to stay up in school and she has been my rock and my angel through it all she wants to come home and take care of me but i told her i will be ok i got my husband my youngest which is 14 to help out but my oldest is hard headed like her momma so we are going to talk more n the next few days there biggest fea and mine is that it will either make me a cripple or brain dead but my life is in gods hands now and i know he will do what is right for me if any one can give me some advice about how to deal with my girls about this i would love to hear it thanks all

[kimber62372]

Oh Aggie I am so sorry. I am sure your oldest wants to be there for her momma and you don't want her to worry but it's only human nature that she feels this way. Talking about it is a good way to deal with the pain and allowing them to be there for you for support is a plus! I am sending healing and positive prayers your way and hope you will be okay.  I am sure you will be, you sound like a strong woman.

[Nancy5]

I understand why she wants to come home, but she should stay in school.  You have a support system with your other daughter and husband and I'm sure your friends and neighbors.  I know it's easier said than done, you know we both have traveled this difficult road, but you will be fine.  You went through this once before and came out a winner and there is no reason you won't again.  Stay positive and please know I am praying so very hard for you.

[sdenimandlace1]

Sorry to hear that, hope you can get her to stay in school.

[debidoo]

Well here is my opinion for what it is worth.  She has plenty of time to go to school but only one mom.  If she wants to come home maybe you shouldn't argue with her about it.  I think if something were to happen to you she would never forgive herself for not being there but my advice to to pray for God to give you the answer and I will pray that in addition to healing and peace for you and your family.

[sak4kat]

I've gotta agree with debidoo on this one.  I was 15 when I lost my father from cancer.  When he passed away I lost my mother too - she delved into her own thing and forgot she still had a teenager to raise.  With homeschooling being an option now perhaps she could leave the public/private school days and do some online classes so she can be home with you.  I pray the tumor dissolve.  I pray for your family - In Gods name. Amen

[nannycoe1]

so sorry , i will be praying for you

[potluck6]

My mother had cancer and she was able to get a woman to come in and do housework. She didn't pay her anything she also got rides to the doctor  from the Cancer Society. I'd call them to see what help you can get. good luck to you.

[madeara]

Dear Aggie,
I'm so sorry.  You are in my prayers.

[ghunter]

Please pray about it and God will let you know.

[bshee58]

your girls will come together in the time that you will need them, girls will always be by mama's side, my mama died in 88 from breast cancer, but my oldest sister was in the hospital when she died, so it was only her there with mama when she drew her last breath, she saw my brother who died from a motorcycle accident come into the room, he was like a glowing angel coming to get our mama. Talk to your kids dont let them miss out on everyday life. God has his hands on you and he will never bring you to something this major if he knows that your family can't handle it. Be strong, keep praying, never give up, cause he will never give up on you. i am keeping you in my prayers and your family.

[hbxg1207]

I'm so sorry to hear that .  You are in my prayers.

[davissy]

I'm so sorry to hear this, I hope you'll be able to get better.

Is there a school close by that your daughter can transfer too?  It would be really hard for your daughter to focus on school if her heart is yearning to be home with you and the family, might be easier on her if she can continue her studies commuting from home.