Would you date someone living in another state?

[camellia0]

I have a loved one (who is a male)  doing just that. They are dating someone who lives on the west coast and they live on the east coast. They see one another about 3-4 times a year for about 30 days. My issue with this case is that the girlfriend lives with her ex husband. I don't understand why my male friend gives her money that he needs and buys her plane tickets. She is going home to the ex husband. I don't know how to tell my friend to drop this lady without him getting mad at me. Any advice?

[cathy37]

It has been my experience that a long distance relationship usually doesn't work out.  I tried dating a guy that only lived less than 30 minutes from me and it didn't work.  The fact that she is living with her ex-husband is suspicious.

[BATISTAGIRL663]

no i don't think i could handle that but applaud anyone who can ! i've been done wrong to many times and have that trust issue thing and it would drive me crazy!

[Nancy5]

I did date someone who lived in a different state.  He lived in my city and we dated for about 1 year.  He got a great job transfer to another state.  I was going to join him in 1 to 1 1/2 years, someone in my immediate family was terminal and I wanted to stay with him until the end.  My boyfriend was fine with it.  He drove down to see me every other weekend, and I drove up to see him the other weekends.  It worked great, for awhile, but like all distant romances, it fell apart and we went our separate ways.  I don't think most romances can last being separate.  Now living with your ex? That's a way different story!

[ladavia89]

I wouldn't be so sure its an ex husband and not just an open relationship.

I wouldn't want to start off as long distance. An established relationship that is already secure then going to long distance is different. I live in a military town and have a lot of friends that either joined or married into the military so I'm used to seeing long distance relationships work

[bshee58]

Would not be a good idea to tell your friend about what you know, your friend could get upset with you and not talk to you, they think that you are a busy body, and that you should stay in your place, if your friend knows about this and you put your nose in his business, you could lose a friend, so  mind your own business, if it happens and he already knows about it then he will make his own decision.

[freedavis]

I would date in another state and its has be lots trust to last

[countrygirl12]

Probably not.  Going to be hard to "date" a person who lives in a different state than you.  I guess it could work with the way technology is today.  I would not want to do it.

[elvisdo]

I was a west coast guy. She was an east coast girl. We "dated" for 4 years and will be celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary in a few days.

[Katie_thehappywife]

not a very good idea. I've done that before sad to say it didn't work out. the living with an ex husband is questionable. with loved ones despite how much you care most don't listen. I've talked to my loved ones who did that. they had to learn the hard way. your male friend is blessed to have a friend like you

[danmo783]

The only long-distance relationships that ever work out are those in the military.

[schoolvan]

I don't know I can't answer that but I might.

[Nick00]

I tried long distance relationship. And it seems to work just fine. As long as the two individuals are honest with each other I don't see why it won't work. I don't think it bad to live with your ex . I do but he's not here majority of the time. We respect each other and it okay.

[madeara]

I was seriously in love  with someone in another state.  He found someone else and broke my heart.  Long distance relationships are really tough.  I do wish your friend the best.

[aandrade4]

Nope I'm too jealouse and too needy to have a long distance relationship