SCHOOL

[hensleyll]

just got custody of my grandsons one 12,one 14 ,my youngest child is 24 and words of wisdom we not adjusting to well,im really trying to have patience but they have they room looking like a pigstye

[king4cash]

Thats life...the kids are more interested in video games......

[dreamyxo]

Take away privileges until they straighten up.

[tantricia44]

Sit down together & create a contract with you're problem child! Doing nothing will lead to worst situations!

[hensleyll]

so this the first night we are all in house together for a while heading to bed first day of school tomorrow new school for everyone they seem ok ,mom supposed to be home by the 7 hope we can all be at ease by then

[clickers]

Limit their video game usage until they clean up. I use that with my 11 year grandson, it works.

[amyDAST]

just got custody of my grandsons one 12,one 14 ,my youngest child is 24 and words of wisdom we not adjusting to well,im really trying to have patience but they have they room looking like a pigstye

Don't let the older kids out of the room except to use the bathroom until the room is clean, they will clean it when you stand your ground with it. Good luck

[bremer51]

You have taken on a huge responsibility. Its going to take awhile to set up boundaries and have them respected.  Love and discipline. I applaud you for doing what you're doing.  Remember, you are the adult.

[hensleyll]

so update their mom is home and has them basically under control and I get to go back to being grandma don't have to be mom so we are getting along better

[vg7405]

This is the reason why I am a little cynical about the new generation. Ugh, I know, I'm showing my age by stating that, LOL. The solution to this problem is setting clearly defined boundaries and doing this as early as possible.

[dsosnowski06]

When I got married I inherited 3 stepsons that never did anything around the house.  Since my husband and I both worked full time I told them that they had to pitch in around the house but they refused to pick up after themselves.  One day I took garbage bag out and started throwing everything that was laying around in the bag.  When they noticed what was happening they started complaining and I told them every time I see something that is not put away it was going in the trash.  It took a while but soon they found out I meant and things started to change.  Hope you find your solution.

[hensleyll]

definitely appreciate the suggestions am going to try them i work from home there is 7 of us and im cleaning or cooking or working just cant get ahead told them tonight they going to start washing there on dishes sorry about typos

[hensleyll]

my husband is disabled and still gets out here cuts grass and takes trash off can you imagine how much trash with two teenagers three adults a toddler and usually another two toddlers i babysit and my 7 year old granddaughter i have most of time

[madeara]

I am so glad their mom is home.  I hope you get into a routine that works well.  I wish you all the best.

[hensleyll]

we are having some issues for instance the 12 yr old thinks he is inviinceable and is a real sarcastic something,had to set him down and remind him living with me is a priviledge can send him back to his dads were there is no freedom no internet no tv and no fun only school and chores at least here he gets to earn some priviledges working so far we will see.