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cateyes1

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My adult daughter
« on: November 14, 2017, 07:45:52 am »
I vented about this I believe last year. She sill hasn't talked to me going on 5 years now. I tried many times to reach out to her but i'm just being ignored over and over again. Should I just wait till she contacts or should I keep trying and trying only to keep being ignored ? She'll be 40 on her next birthday UGH....thanks for any advice !!....if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #1 on: November 14, 2017, 08:05:43 am »
I remember you writing about this last year.   I don't have any advice except that you have to do what you feel is best.  If you believe consistently writing/calling is what you need to do then do it.   Is there anyone else in the family that is in contact with her that might at least be able to keep you in the loop as to how she is?

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #2 on: November 14, 2017, 08:08:33 am »
Obviously there is something lacking in her to cut off all contact.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #3 on: November 14, 2017, 08:28:09 am »
I as well remember you talking about your daughter. I'm very sorry for you. I would have to suggest that you wait on her to contact you this time. Did something happen between you two that would cause this? i don't mean to be nosy. I will pray for you and your daughter and I hope everything works out for you. :(

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #4 on: November 14, 2017, 08:37:02 am »
That would be so upsetting for me, also.  I don't think I would ever give up especially if there are grandkids involved.
Have a wonderful day!

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #5 on: November 14, 2017, 08:44:56 am »
if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.
That's her decision to throw it away, but at least you did what you can. Put something bumpy inside so curiosity will drive her to open it, maybe a Rieson candy and say something about the reason you miss her.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #6 on: November 14, 2017, 11:32:46 am »
wait let her contact you if she decided. pray that she will come around. its hard to give advice since I'm new and don't know the full situation.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #7 on: November 14, 2017, 01:23:25 pm »
If I were you I would at least write her one final time, if she reads it or not is up to her. That way you'll at least know you've done all you could to try to repair things between you.  Sending you the best of wishes that things work out. Hugs!

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #8 on: November 14, 2017, 03:02:29 pm »
I would keep trying. If you quit, she might think you gave up and don't care anymore.  Eventually she will need her mother...I hope.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #9 on: November 14, 2017, 03:45:06 pm »
I vented about this I believe last year. She sill hasn't talked to me going on 5 years now. I tried many times to reach out to her but i'm just being ignored over and over again. Should I just wait till she contacts or should I keep trying and trying only to keep being ignored ? She'll be 40 on her next birthday UGH....thanks for any advice !!....if I write her a letter I know she would just throw it away.

Honestly, I wouldn't bother.  I would just let it go.  I know it hurts.  She is your child.  But if you know she is going to throw the card or whatever away and not open it then you are right why bother.  But I guess the "right" thing to do would be to send her a card.  But personally, I would give up.  I would not keep beating a dead horse.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #10 on: November 14, 2017, 06:24:14 pm »
That's really unfortunate... I hate it when people hold grudges

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #11 on: November 14, 2017, 06:37:43 pm »
I don't know what to say because I am having similar issues with my youngest son.  He co-signed on a new house with the agreement he would stay a whole year or until our old house sold and less than two months later he is getting an apartment with his "girlfriend" who is psycho and has a equally psycho 9 year old.  So now my oldest son and I are stuck paying all the high bills.  I don't know what happened with you guys but I hope you can figure our a reconciliation.  I certainly feel your pain and hope the best for you.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #12 on: November 14, 2017, 07:44:06 pm »
Do you know what happened? If you do you could try to address the reason she is doing this and see where it goes from there.

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #13 on: November 14, 2017, 08:41:45 pm »
I would give up OR I'd send flowers.... who would toss out flowers? And she has to look at them for a least a week if not longer, and think of you every time she looks at them !! And if you send flowers and don't at least get a thanks  !!  I'd give up for good!

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Re: My adult daughter
« Reply #14 on: November 15, 2017, 03:15:09 am »
cateyes1 - I can only imagine the pain you must feel about this situation with your daughter. The bond between a parent and a child when they are young is so wonderful and pure. It must hurt like crazy having that emotional bond severed! sbenkoski mentioned sending flowers, because your daughter probably wouldn't throw flowers away, which sounds like a pretty good idea. Hopefully someday soon she'll realize she needs her mother and come back to you. :heart:

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