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ymmat12

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Relationships w/older men
« on: September 27, 2009, 09:07:34 am »
Hello, I am 43 and my boyfriend is 56. All he wants to do when gets off work (he only works part-time) is sleep. I just had my left foot totally reconstructed 9/2 and can't walk but still do all the housework-except take the trash out. This man says he can't work a 4 or 5 hour shift and then come home and do any housework at all--"I'm so, so tired". He doesn't seem to be tired at all if there is something he wants/needs to do for himself.
Just like to know what you guys think.


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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2009, 12:54:54 pm »
hmmm.... I don't think it's the age difference that's causing him to be lazy lol. He should get off his *bleep* and do somethin. He should be helping you out, I mean yeah... don't depend on men but what he's doing is selfish... If he's only " tired " when it's convenient to him.

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« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2009, 12:57:55 pm »
I think I'd agree with you. I have a friend who just turned 59 he's got 2 jobs and when he gets home he cleans their house and do the dishes!

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« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2009, 01:02:07 pm »
I'll have to agree..I'm 55 and work 8 hrs a day. Tired or not, there's always something that needs to be done around here after work. If your right foot is still in good shape, maybe you need to give him a swift kick in the  :bootyshake: :)

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #4 on: September 27, 2009, 03:14:43 pm »
Tell him what you want or tell him its over!! Im sorry but you cannot change a person who does not want to change. Maybe hes using you.
Good Luck!!

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2009, 03:48:04 pm »
 :( Some men are just lazy...They do not want to do the dirty work. Others know better...They know housework is everybody responsibility. There is no excuse for him "not to help around the house'.Talk to him about it...and see what he says.

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2009, 06:46:19 pm »
I don't think it is the age that is the issue to be honest. My ex never helped me with anything EVER! I did it all from the groceries (even carrying them and the babies inside), cooking, bills, cleaning as well as running a business and carrying for the kids. On the other hand I have a wonderful sweet man in my life now that treats me like gold! He helps with everything including cooking and cleaning! I am not "allowed" to carry anything heavy either lol!

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #7 on: September 27, 2009, 06:46:35 pm »
You need to talk to him about it. It's not that he's older; people at that age can definitely do some housework.

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #8 on: September 27, 2009, 09:23:05 pm »
This has nothing to do with an age difference he is just lazy.  It's up to you to decide if you are willing to put up with it.  You can talk to him and see if he can change but if he doesn't change ask yourself is this the way you want to live your life for the next X years.

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« Reply #9 on: September 28, 2009, 04:06:34 pm »
This has nothing to do with an age difference he is just lazy.  It's up to you to decide if you are willing to put up with it.  You can talk to him and see if he can change but if he doesn't change ask yourself is this the way you want to live your life for the next X years.
That is exactly it! If you are not happy with how your life is on a daily basis then change it! You should surround yourself with people that charge your batteries not drain them!!!

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #10 on: September 30, 2009, 01:00:50 pm »
It sounds like it's time to lose this guy - if he were putting your well-being first, he'd probably step up and take some responsibility around the house while your foot is recovering.  I'd tell him to make some changes or get out and stop weighing me down!

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #11 on: October 01, 2009, 10:11:03 am »
Why do you accept such nonsense from this lazy slob?    Maybe you need to kick him in the  A** with your reconstructed foot for him to get the message.  Doesn't he care about your well being?  The guy is a louse.  It looks like some changes need to be made and soon.
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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #12 on: October 01, 2009, 10:18:50 am »
I'm divorced now. I'm 48 my Ex just turned 59. When we were together the age thing didn't matter UNTIL something had to be done, then it was, " Do you realize how old I am?" "I work all day, I'm tired" Didn't matter that he had a very easy low-stress 9-5 job. AGE was his excuse when he needed one.

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2009, 12:47:58 pm »
My grandmother is 73 and she works.Yes she still runs a preschool.She gets up at 4 every morning to start her day. She does a lot of  other things too around her house since she's living alone and her husband is deceased. She exercises goes to church and is very invloved in church activities, visits the sick and helpless and whatever else she needs to do.I think some of these guys needs to get their act together and stop relying on everyone else to do for them what they can do for themselves,stop blaming old age for their laziness and also do a little more in consideration for the other person. Being active is important as you get older.It actually helps you stay young and healthy. If I'm wrong there could be something else why he responds that way.I don't know .Just my two cents.

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Re: Relationships w/older men
« Reply #14 on: November 13, 2009, 11:54:25 am »
....you need to open your eyes  :o  as most of the responses, now or later your need to kick his   :bootyshake:

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