Do you resent people who always ask for money

[lhz123]

If I have extra and I always share  it to my 83 years old mother. I always send her money almost every month. I just wanted her to enjoy life .

[cateyes1]

I would not find you selfish at all. You did share now it's your time to enjoy !!

[alice44]

I can't  imagine asking someone else for money.  No one has asked me and I am sure I would say no - because I don't have any extra! 

[gaylasue]

No, I don't resent them, I just ignore them.

[ghunter]

No, I don't think you are selfish, you gave once before and Iam sure it  is the same people asking for money this time too.  It is alright to help people, but don't forget to same for your rainy day.

[Mizzkizz7]

Yes it annoys me when someone constantly asks for money, but I also understand that people fall on hard times. Like those people that stand by the stop light at an intersection with a cardboard sign. Most of the time those people just want money for drugs.

[pectacon]

I have no problem with helping out a friend or family member, even on a regular basis, if I know they really need it.

What I don't take kindly to is people who never talk to you except when they want something. If you intend to try to use me as an ATM you could at least establish a little good will by saying "hi how are you" once in a while without strings attached.

[countrygirl12]

I have no problem with helping out a friend or family member, even on a regular basis, if I know they really need it.

What I don't take kindly to is people who never talk to you except when they want something. If you intend to try to use me as an ATM you could at least establish a little good will by saying "hi how are you" once in a while without strings attached.

Exactly.

[1imaginarygirl]

Nobody has ever asked me for money. They know I don't have any to give. Haha!

[adriarobi]

nobody asks me for money, as I am quite poor.

 

[kuponsaver2011]

Nope. It doesn't make you selfish at all. You've given and helped others. Generosity doesn't mean leaving yourself with nothing.

You can tell who your real friends are the times when you do have more money and none of them expects you to go beyond your means. That's true understanding and friendship.

You sound like a good person. You have every right to take care of yourself too.

Just my 2 cents. Happy Thanksgiving, if you celebrate it.

I got a very small inheritance in 2010 and used most of it to pay off my mom's mortgage as she had passed & although the house was in disrepair I figured I could fix it up with the little I had left. Before I knew it people came out of the woodwork asking for money and soon it was all gone and the house was in really bad shape.  So this past year I sold the house and again people are asking for money.  Worse is my mom's pastor who has kids who make more in a week than I do in a month.  I am not giving out any this time.  I am going to try and hang on to some for a rainy day (MY potential rainy day)  and do some things that make me happy. Does that make me selfish?

[camellia0]

When people ask me for money, I will tell them that Walmart is hiring or some place that I heard of is hiring. I do this because anyother time I am invisible, so keep me invisible.

[Tresbn00]

I do not think that this makes you selfish in the least. We live in a land of opportunity. Everyone has a chance to support themselves. People that are disabled to the point of not being able to work have many programs that provide all that they need. You need to take care of yourself first so that you can help others when you are living a more abundant lifestyle. I commit a percentage of my time and money to charity but never to the detriment of my family's needs. I live a frugal, pauper's lifestyle. People that see me on the street generally think that I am worse off than they are because I am in torn shorts, tennis shoes with holes in them, tattered shorts and unkept hair. I never carry cash because it is always in accounts working for me. I do not brag about my balances but will always share methods of making cash.

[Cbsteffen]

No. If you know you’re doing what is best for you, you’re also doing what is best for those you care about.

[JaniceSW]

I got a very small inheritance in 2010 and used most of it to pay off my mom's mortgage as she had passed & although the house was in disrepair I figured I could fix it up with the little I had left. Before I knew it people came out of the woodwork asking for money and soon it was all gone and the house was in really bad shape.  So this past year I sold the house and again people are asking for money.  Worse is my mom's pastor who has kids who make more in a week than I do in a month.  I am not giving out any this time.  I am going to try and hang on to some for a rainy day (MY potential rainy day)  and do some things that make me happy. Does that make me selfish?

I certainly don't think it makes you selfish.  You have to take care of you, especially if you look around and know there is no one else who would do it in a pinch. In my view, you are being wise.  People can take advantage.  I guess one of my pet-peeves are people who will hint about the money they need and situation they are in but you know they are not trying, but just blowing the income they do have.  I guess continuous unwise choices and decisions drive me crazy. prioritizing