If you are losing your people, you may need to compromise. Speak your mind, by all means, but remember your choice of words can build up or they can destroy.
I don't and I don't think cateyes1 is trying to destroy anyone. I speak my mind, like she said she does. People may not agree with my opinion but that is how it is. There are a lot of things in the world today that people disagree on. You can talk to me and have a different opinion and "I" can go on with my day and not hate you because we do not agree. Some people can not do that. Some people if they do not agree with you get mad and won't speak to you.
As far as giving my opinion on people's hair, clothes, or whatever I do not do that unless specifically asked. And sometimes I will lie just to end the conversation. It is like a young girl in a fast food place who had shaved he head and died the remains pink. She ask what I thought and I lied to her. I didn't tell her ya look like a goofball. lol I don't care. It is not my head.
I don't think cateyes was saying she just says things to hurt people. She just speaks her opinion and people who don't agree may get mad.